Feeling alone in getting things together

Can you do stuff with your fiancé? Not everyone is going to have time to do wedding stuff with you unfortunately. I did 99% of things either alone, with my mom, or with my fiancé. Honestly in a way it’s better to not cloud your decisions with too many other peoples opinions

View Quoted Comment That’s true. I’ve spent on something I have since decided I didn’t really want after a suggestion from someone else. Although my fiancé doesn’t help much I love his compliments on the things I have done.

I think your fiance needs to help you more. After all, this wedding is both of yours, not just one person's. A lot of times people aren't interested in wedding planning if they're not the ones getting married. It's possible they'll ask about the wedding more once it gets closer! One of the biggest pieces of advice I've learned from WW is nobody will be as excited for your wedding as you are

View Quoted Comment I imagine they won’t be and believe that they’ll become more involved as it gets closer. My fiancé works a lot. I will ask him for help though. Get him to be more hands on. Maybe that’ll fix it for me.

Why are you doing anything alone? What about the person you’re marrying?

Yes! I can relate. I started planning as soon as I got engaged and had everything planned and vendors booked by the time we hit the one year to go mark. Everyone probably thought I was nuts but I don’t like to procrastinate when it comes to big things like this. Truth be told, the only involved ones in planning have been my sister/ MOH and mom. But even my fiancé was very involved. My mom and sister and I are very close though and this is the get first wedding in our family so they all share in my excitement. My other bms check in every now and then but they have their own lives. They don’t live and breath my wedding day like I do everyday lol. It’s normal! Don’t sweat it. The closer to the date, the more real it will feel and then they have to be more involved in picking dresses and attending rehearsals, etc

View Quoted Comment Good to hear! Thanks for that. My fiancé helps me in choosing things, he’s there emotionally and financially. He even went to help me with the layout setup at the venue. We’re both excited, but as everyone seems to be pointing out, no one will be as excited as we are. Makes sense.

Yes yes OMG I feel like I'm just the walls are just closing in on me hell I can't even get my fiance to you and make a decision on the colors or anybody we have 29 days left and he has not said nothing nothing at all

No. I totally understand where your coming from. But don’t let that bring you down sweetie. That’s one of the most important days of your life. You should talk to them if it’s really bothering you. If you need some help with anything I’m more than happy to help hun. Just message me an I’ll give you my number. Be blessed hun❤️

I can relate. I had a planning meeting with my two girls and it was like they had no insight or anything. I felt shocked then realized that they were just supposed to execute my plans. SIGH. I did wish they had more input though but I guess its true what others are saying about it really being the day of the future husband and wife...

Same. I have no one to discuss this stuff with except FH and he only has an opinion on what he wants to wear.

View Quoted Comment That’s so sad!!! Mine at least is in on decision making. Wow, 29 days!!! I’d be super excited at this point!

View Quoted Comment I wish mine had more input too. That’s the sad part for me. My sister and longtime best friends don’t ever seem to have time to get together with any new input. I guess I expected them to be excited with me. It really is just my fiancé and I.

View Quoted Comment That was mine in the beginning. It’ll get better.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment That was mine in the beginning. It’ll get better.

View Quoted Comment He’s there for me. ♥️

If I were a bridesmaid, I might offer to help with something but wouldn’t continuously offer to do so. Brides are different, some want complete control and some don’t. And that’s okay! I think if you want their help, you have to ask. It’s a two way street. And like you said, everyone has their own lives. They don’t know what you’re thinking or what you need.

Sorry for the stress and yes usually the bridal party is great support but did you ask them to plan? The only thing I planned were showers or bachelorette parties. I never thought to help wedding plan unless asked because most brides know what they want. I would never think to ask unless I was asked or i se the amount of stress. Maybe ask them to help you with some things of they have time but I agree with what someone said that if it's not their wedding maybe they don't feel obligated or the need to help. Sorry to play devils advocate but just some things to consider. I hope it gets better.

I’m right there with you. I’m planning the whole thing. I have no bridal party, fiancé would rather get married at the courthouse and the only support I’m getting is “if that’s what you want, then you figure out how to do it”. I’m throwing in the towel a bit. I don’t know what the point of it is if I’m the only one wanting it.