FDIL just texted asking a question I don't know and don't have a personal opinion on. Ladies???

I definitely caught one when I was 10 or 11. I think it's fine!

As long as that garter thing that Rebecca mentioned isn't happening, I think it's fine.

Yeah I've seen little girls out there I think it's super cute

I don't see a problem with it. Our 3 year old niece went out on the dance floor to catch the bouquet.

The awkward "tradition" of the guy who catches the garter doing anything to the girl who catches the bouquet (dancing with her, kissing her, putting garter on her leg etc) are all ridiculous and dumb! I would never take part in that! Who came up with those ideas?

We only took a picture with both the bouquet & garter catchers, we were in the middle of the picture...

Thanks ladies, like I said I didn't see a problem. And I'll bet she's more enthusiastic than some of the grown up ladies. I agree with those that think the bouquet toss is kind of silly but it appears to be something bride wants to do and it will be fun. I get a sneaky feeling that she has someone she hopes catches it.

Niki, your inkling is dead wrong. When it comes to her kids, she's not worried about anyone else's opinion. Like I said I think she's looking for acceptable reason to tell her daughter no without being a meanie.

I was 7 when I joined in to catch a bouquet the first time. Once I hit 20, I started hiding in the bathroom during the bouquet toss to avoid it.

LOL!! Rachel. Wendy C, you know that could be the trick! If she tells her DJ to handle it that way she gets what she wants without being a meanie in daughter's eyes. I knew you ladies were brilliant!

I think it really depends on how seriously guests take the 'next one married' of the bouquet toss. If they see it is as 'just fun', then having the girls join in is great-- who doesn't want a bouquet? If the guests have more likely bought into the superstition, they might feel awkward about a 12 y.o. vying to be the next one married. I'd hope it would be the former, not the latter.

I went to a wedding that had a little girl bouquet toss too. It was super cute.

As long as all the single ladies act like ladies, it should be okay. I've seen videos of grown women pushing and shoving and fighting to get the bouquet and it would be easy for a kid to get hurt. As for the garter thing--20 years ago my 13 year old son caught the garter at my nephew's wedding. The groom's 27 year old sister caught the bouquet! They solved it very tastefully--she sat on a chair and raised her long skirt about 3 inches up her leg and he put the garter on her leg about 3 inches above her ankle. When people started shouting "higher", he looked up at the crowd and said, "You people are sick! She's my cousin!" They both stood and he escorted her off the dance floor.

I caught several bouquets as a child and people thought it was adorable. I see nothing wrong with it. No adult woman is going to fight a little girl for a bouquet. Not a big deal!

Little girls love the bouquet toss. Plus it makes for cute pictures to have the little ones trying to catch the bouquet.

Fine to catch, but if she does it's not fine for a grown man to put a garter on her. So as long as they skip that part I don't see an issue.

I see no problem with it! DH's niece who was 10 was a JBm and ended up catching the bouquet. A 60 ish year old man caught the garter. THANKFULLY our DJ was smart enough not to have him put the garter on a 10 yr old! He has a young son so he gets it. I always went out there as a kid too, love it, but never caught it.

I personally hate this tradition, and typically yes, the man who catches the garter puts it on whoever catches the bouquet.

I caught the bouquet at my cousin's wedding when I was 6. No one actually thinks that the one who catches the bouquet is next to get married. Like someone else said, most single women over 20 practically hide under their chairs to avoid it.

I have been to weddings where there are little girls out there to catch the bouquet. However there comes the discrepancy if they do catch it and then there's the garter toss.

I am doing the bouquet toss but I am also doing a "Teddy Bear Toss" for the younger girls so they can feel apart of the Bridal Toss experience.

I have never seen anyone put the garter on the person who caught the bouquet. All the weddings I have attended that tossed the garter & bouquet included the young men/ladies in the tradition. It stopped at catching the garter & bouquet, those catching it were never forced to interact with each other in any particular manner.

Catching the bouquet is supposed to mean you are the next lady to get married - so if a young girl catches the bouquet I would presume it means there won't be a wedding in the near future. My daughter (who turns 14 today) is so excited to try to catch the bouquet, and she is at an age where she is dreaming of what she wants her wedding to be like when she grows up. I think all my wedding planning has had some impact on that, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Hoping that your FDIL will consider her daughter's excitement to participate in wedding activities, if she decided to do the bouquet/garter toss.

Apparently, I had a lot of desperate single females at my wedding. Blood was shed, at least 1 woman ended up on the floor, and the only young girl (10) there nearly got trampled!

Like Wendy said, have the DJ announce "singles of a legal age to be married."

I've never seen the garter put on the girl who catches the bouquet so that must be a regional thing..... Let her be with them. Would she be against it at someone else's wedding?