This past summer i moved in with the In Laws, before i did, FBIL decided to move back in with his GF of less than 6 months too. Long story short the FBIL has a short fuse and the GF has mental health issues, wasn't on her meds, and causing fights between the brothers because she was afraid to talk to my FH. The first fight resulted in my FH coming to my apartment crying because he felt betrayed by his little brother, and that his brother was throwing their very close relationship out the window for a girl he has know for six months who occasionally picks up and leaves him with out any goodbye. Through out the summer there is at least one big fight per month between Parents and FBIL or between brothers, and then he eventually went after me, and the parents moved them out to another apartment in the next state over. The FBIL has a bad temper and throws violent fits like a child, he's 23, and plays the "baby card" to get pity from his parents. He also blames my FH for making him feel bad about how his own life has turned out, because my FH has a career that pays well and does a lot for his parents. Little brother works in a warehouse for dad, didn't want to finish school (that parents paid for), and spends his weekends and week nights getting High. My FH has been debating on having him as his Best Man. he was on the fence about it for a while. It was always his plan to have his little brother as his best man. Well this week, little brother is visiting, and my FH and his parents are all out of town. Little brother decides to leave all his dishes in the sink, unrine in the toilets, and come in and out of the house loudly at 11pm and 1230pm in the middle of the night, (my work week), and be on the speaker phone with his GF when she is having a fit about something. this to me, reads as a blatant sign of disrespect towards me, because we doesn't do this if his parents are home. I feel like If he can't respect me, i don't want him in my wedding party. He and his GF will be invited to the wedding, but this entire experience of seeing who he is deep down has put me off to the idea, and i don't trust him to make a nice speech as the Best Man either. am i off basis to not feel like he deserves to be in the wedding party?
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