Favorite Part of a Wedding & Cringe Worthy Parts (As a Guest & a Bride)

The only cringeworthy thing that comes to mind for me was a wedding where the bride and groom wrote their own vows and they went way into TMI territory.

Wow... I've had a few, and even both feelings from same wedding, let's see:

Former study partner's wedding: cringeworthy the lack of food, I've already talked about it, FH got thrown out of the buffet line because a woman wanted to grab something, there wasn't enough food so between us, my parents and another friend and her DH were able to get enough to make one sandwich for each of us

FH's cousin's wedding: loved the music and the drinks, their bartenders were amazing and super fast so no long lines. Although it was cringeworthy the part where they had almost 300 guests and made NO seating chart, it wasn't fun being there eating dinner while a lot where still standing there waiting for a seat

FH's study partner's wedding: loved the ceremony and vows, but her mom and aunts made the food and by dinner time, most of them had developed a smell... we just ate a green salad just in case

One of my cousin's wedding: the music was amazing and we stayed dancing until about 5 a.m. (bride and groom included), and their officiant read something he asked them to write about how the other made them feel, it was so touching

Another cousin got married about 13 years ago, and they had enough food and drinks for about twice as many guests, great music, and we also stayed until it finished (since then we knew we didn't care about anything else except that we had enough food and drinks at ours)

FBIL's wedding: great music, funny/touching ceremony... BUT again... food, they paid a friend of them to make the food (FBIL was at the time studying to become a chef) and she only made about half of what they paid for (FIL's and I had to go eat near the venue while we were "taking the presents to the house" so guests wouldn't run out of food)

Love the fireworks idea over water, that sounds beautiful! Or even the lanterns one too. Plus that champagne idea where that is the way you greet your guests, hands down if we can I would love to do that.

I don't mind cash bars as long as beer and non-alcoholic drinks are free. Friend couldn't afford a complete cash bar so they opted to putting a set amount of cash down for just drinks, making all alcoholic beverages half of what they would have originally costed.

@Newnoakua ew! I can't believe they would make their guests pay for food! Rude! Glad you walked out.

Cringe worthy experience I went through:

1. Bride was not in a good mood. MOB was so happy and started taking photos of us getting ready, and after the second photo the bride YELLED at her mother saying 2 photos is enough and to knock it off. Awkward.

2. When I was younger (16 yrs old) I attended a friend's parents' wedding. Bride and Groom got drunk off their asses and started yelling at people (including me, and other daughter's friends saying how dare us try to out shine her daughter..we weren't. We had to get our hair and dresses approved before hand so we wouldn't look as good, her words). Later that night bride then tripped in a drunken stupor, fell down a small hill into mud because it was raining earlier that day. just...awful

Favorite part of a wedding, dressing up. Second favorite part is the first dance and vows. I feel the love in the first dance, so much.

Cringeworthy, garter toss as it's usually really bad getting guys on the dance floor to catch the garter. It's normal but like NO ONE WANTS to. Suggestions for an alternative is totally welcome. Not a fan of the bouquet toss either for similarly the same reasons. Big long gaps. I don't think an hour is annoying between the church, and the reception but like the 4 hour gaps I think "What were you guys thinking" when planning this? It's so like now what am I going to do ? I know Catholic Churches are really particular as to when they hold their ceremonies, but for the love of God, have me entertained in between them then.

@celia, I love that! I've asked Battery Gardens to serve our guests champagne on arrival. I wonder if they can play some fun music in the restaurant when people walk in.

My favorite part is the grooms face when he sees his bride

Love the lantern idea! Favorite parts: seeing the groom's face as he sees the bride and good food! You can never go wrong with food and drinks! My FBILs wedding last summer was atrocious. My FH was the best man. We found out about the rehearsal luncheon the day before. A family friend flew to PA from HI and had to make the meal for everyone since nothing was planned for food. I got asked the same day to do makeup (thankfully I have a kit and do it freelance). Hot pink eyeshadow for the bride. Not my first choice but to each his own. Evites and fb updates leading up to wedding. Dry wedding with potluck dessert bar as meal. Got sick off of something I ate. Not enough seating for everyone. Ran out of food. No DJ and a dollar dance. Groom wanted to wear jeans but bride and FH talked him out of it. Fh ended up paying whole bridal partys attire minus brides dress. Right before the wedding bride had a meltdown because she thought her mom had reserved and paid for all of honeymoon expenses. Mother did not and neither bride or groom had anything in their account to pay for honeymoon costs. So dear sweet fh ended up paying for their honeymoon and security deposit on apartment they had just signed for day before. Overall fh paid over $2,000 on them with no thank you or card. Now our wedding is coming off and FH brother can't afford his tux rental so we are having to cover it. Anfld yes, this is all for one wedding. So all and all, I learned what not to do when planning a wedding!

I've got quite a few cringe worthy stories but top is def:

Completely outdoor wedding in 105 degrees & direct sunlight. I'm surprised no one passed out from heat stroke.

"Open bar" wedding that consisted of only White Russians. No other options even to purchase. And There wasn't a dj...and the bridal party did a 10 minute renaissance themed dance/skit during dinner to try and entertain the guests instead.

Bride getting so drunk she threw up on herself during the reception & had to go change into the tank top & shorts she wore while getting ready

My cousin's wedding was dry (they're Mormon so whatever), but the only food were finger sandwiches made by the church ladies & a still half frozen cake, & the music was literally just 3 hours of compiled Disney music.

I recently went to a wedding that had soooooo muuuuuuch good food. I ate all the the things!! too bad they started over an hour late and they were still working on the seating arrangements when we were walking in to the reception.

I'm invited to a wedding with a 10am start time and what I believe will be a two hour gap between ceremony and reception. I love my friend so I wouldn't miss her wedding but I'm not a happy camper.

Cringeworthy... Super long drawn out ceremony omg get this show on the road people... And no alcohol!!

I love going to weddings and watching the newlyweds do cute things when they don't think anyone is looking. Like just in pure bliss. That's the very best part.

Cringeworthy? When the couple seems forced to have a religious ceremony when you know damn well, neither of them are religious, but their parents are. Oh and drunk best man speeches.

Only speaking as a guest,

but i cringe at bouquet tosses, and garter tosses.

I love to dance though! a good dj can make the night!

Cringeworthy . . . We were all waiting at the reception wondering why it's taking so long to start. Turns out the Brides parents were refusing to get out of their car because the mom didn't think she was getting enough attention. They were trying to cancel the whole reception, saying it just wasn't going to happen anymore because they felt like people weren't showing them enough respect. Someone set them straight eventually and they came inside but she spent the whole reception looking so bitter.

I haven't had my wedding yet, so I'm excited for everything lol. I went to one wedding where the groom was a chef and the food was delicious. I had never had such amazing wedding food before in my life, I can only hope my food lives up to that lol.

Cringeworthy: "open bar" with only modelo and tecate beer, NO SODA or WATER! They had champagne, but it was supposed to be for the toast. Turns out, there was only enough champagne for the couple and two tables..... it was pretty bizarre. I also went to a different wedding where the food was self catered and I saw flies all over the dinner rolls. I literally gagged out loud and left after the first dance and went to taco bell.

Worst wedding experience: Sisters MIL drinking a bottle of wine before the ceremony, ignoring my sister, complaining about everything. She got blacked out drunk and was screaming profanities during speeches. Called my sister names I won't repeat here, tried to jump off the railing into the ocean and was dragged out of the reception by her husband. My stepmom had to pull my dad away from her because she said something to my dad that he won't tell me. And I am NOT making this up. She has a mental disorder, hated my sister before she met her (my sister is a angel and her husband is the only person she's ever been with).

Best part about wedding: flower girl pulling infant twins in a wagon walking down the aisle! Vows, bride walking down.

For anyone thinking about those Chinese laterns inti the sky because its a "cool idea" PLEASE DON'T!! They end up in oceans and harm sea life. Its so sad, if you watch documentaries on it you'll see how bad it is and hopefully change your mind and understand its not so "pretty"

Bridal showers are so cringeworthy for me. Let me give you a list of things you can buy me and fit me into your schedule on your day off in addition to my wedding day and bringing another gift. Awesome parts of weddings are good food

My aunt just recently got married and more or less begged for speeches/well wishes. Literally after one person sat down she'd ask for more, called people out by names and their "affiliation" to her. "I know my sister wants to say something to me at my wedding". This went on for over half an hour and it was just super uncomfortable.

Cringeworthy= One of my bridesmaids talking about how expensive weddings are and how she has seen weddings that were pot luck and its a good idea for her future wedding (shes not engaged)

Also, every other bride in FB groups asking how to invite people to dancing only because they're on a budget

Favorites from being a guest/bridesmaid:

-Watching the bride walk down the aisle and seeing how happy she and the groom look.

-Good food!

-Dancing with good music.

-Watching all of my siblings and some great friends get married.

Cringeworthy:

-Buffet of dry food/running out of food.

-Bad reception music.

-Disorganized day-of planning

-"Roasts" during speech time.

(Also, probably UO, but I don't understand the issue with dry weddings. You can have a good time without alcohol.)