Maggie
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Faux Pas or Nah: Leaving the wedding without saying goodbye to the bride or groom?

Maggie, on February 26, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 52
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Do you think it’s rude to leave the wedding without saying goodbye to the bride or groom? If it was a small house party you’d say goodbye, but what about at a big wedding where the couple is busy? Do you always make sure to say goodbye before bouncing, or are you trying not to monopolize the newlyweds’ time?

Is it bad form to leave a wedding without saying goodbye to the bride or groom? Faux pas or nah?


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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    Eh I think this depends on the size of the wedding. It's it's a 250 huge affair than nah. If it's a 50 person sit down dinner than Faux Pas.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I don't think it's rude personally. I never thought about it before. I have never specifically gone up to a bride or groom and said BYE.

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    NAH. They are busy and really don't need every guest saying good bye. Unless it is a very small wedding then you could seem very rude.

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Nah. I'm sure I won't even remember one way or the other!

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    I don't think this would be construed as rude unless it were a really intimate wedding.

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    I had a smaller wedding, half the people left without saying goodbye. I went to find them to talk to them to find they were gone. I didn't enjoy that. But I'm not going to be mad about it.

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Exactly my thought, LB. If they're not going to notice I'm gone, then I won't be too worried about saying goodbye. But if I'm one of, like, 12 people, then I'd make sure to say goodbye.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I always make it a point to say goodbye at weddings, so I feel like leaving without saying goodbye is more towards faux pas. However, I can see it being situational too: Super large wedding vs small intimate affair. As the bride, I wouldn't get offended though.

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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    Sometimes it's just not possible to, especially if it's a big wedding, or if you're leaving due to an emergency. But you should certainly try to say goodbye if you can.

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  • J
    Devoted January 2019
    Jesalina ·
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    I think only maybe 2 people out of 225 people said goodbye to me on my wedding day.... everyone I had talked to after said they didnt want to bother me, but I would have rather they said goodbye then just left and hardly spoke to them!
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    I like to say goodbye to the bride and groom and thank them again for a lovely evening. But if they're busy with other people I dont mind slipping out. There are lots of people they have to give their attention to.
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Depends on the size of the wedding. I’m not going to stand in line and wait after 20 plus people to say goodbye.
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    Depends on the size of the wedding! If it's a large wedding then nah, but if it's a small wedding then I think a goodbye would be polite.
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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    I completely agree, depends entirely on the situation.

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
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    It really depends. We have definitely left weddings without saying goodbye, but only because the bride & groom were busy and we didn't want to interrupt. We sent a text to let them know we had to go and that we would talk later, thank you, etc. But it's definitely admirable to TRY to say goodbye! We appreciated everyone who said goodbye to us at ours, but we definitely weren't mad at the ones who left and couldn't!

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Huh, that is a good perspective to have, Jesalina! Good to know as a future wedding guest!

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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
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    I don’t think it’s rude. Especially since we will have around 200 at our wedding. If every single person stopped us to say goodbye, that would take over an hour probably! That being said, I’m not going to get mad if people say goodbye to me!
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    If it's a huge wedding then go ahead and leaven when you leave. Our wedding was 30 people including us so I would have been pretty sad if people took off without saying good bye esp since we haven't seen most of these people in years.

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  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Nah

    As long as you've attempted to congratulate them during the event this really isn't a big deal. Especially at larger weddings, i do not think this would be possible. FH and I plan to make table visits throughout the reception, and to thank everyone for coming before our sendoff

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  • P
    Devoted October 2018
    persimonefink ·
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    Big wedding, I wouldn't bother unless I was super close to the couple/family. Small wedding definitely! Honestly, as a bride who's had her day bye's were not necessary.

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