Faux Pas or Nah: Asking your bridesmaids to pay for professional hair and makeup?

I'm definitely team "if you want it x way then you pay"
But we also asked our girls if they wanted to use the pro on our tab or do their hair/makeup themselves. Everybody wants pampered. Only exception is my FSIL has short hair so she wont be using that part of the service.

If you require it, you pay for it.

Im paying for all my bridesmaids, but I still left it optional. Some of them refuse to let me pay for them though, which is nice and saves me a bit

If professional hair and makeup is an absolute requirement, then the bride should pay. If it's optional, the bridesmaids pay.

Bride wants them to look a certain way = she pays.

Bride gives them the option to do whatever = they pay.

I told my girls I would pay for their hair/makeup if they wanted it done by the artists of my choosing. One girl wants to use her own hair stylist and I told her that's fine and I won't be paying for that (which, she knows).

Faux Pas! I will be paying for for all bridesmaids hair and makeup. I have one bridesmaid that doesn't like just anyone to do her hair. So she opted out of hair but will get make up done. She will be getting the hairstyle the day before she comes down. I even offered to pay for it since it's a required hairstyle, but she didn't want me too. I just wanted to give the option.

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I agree, being a bridesmaid can really add up especially with the professional hair and makeup as well as bachelorette parties and what not!

If she is requiring it, she needs to pay. If it is optional it is up to the party to pay. I gave my girls the option. Some got it done with me, some did their own, some got it done elsewhere. My best friend gave us the option. I wanted my hair done because I'm terrible at doing my own and budgeted for it. I did my own makeup because I did not want to pay for someone else to do something I can do well.

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I agree! Are you going to have the option for them?

It's a faux pas to make them pay if you are requiring it. I wouldn't ever make them pay especially since 2 of the 3 will still be in school and one of them has no job

Definitely a faux pas. If you require them to do it, then you need to foot the bill. If you are just offering for them to use the HMUA, then it's okay, but even in that situation, I personally would at least cover the tip.

My sister's (matron of honor) is included in the wedding budget, since mine was included in her budget last year. I only have 3 bridesmaids, so I'd really like to be able to gift this to them.

Professional makeup will be optional. I did my own makeup for my sister's wedding, even though my aunt offered to pay - I just didn't see the point when I felt confident that I could do my own.

View Quoted Comment I will give them the option for it but definitely not required. I don't think I want everyone to have the same hairstyle anyway. I'm not decided on the makeup but I wont be requiring that they do it anyway. I dont wear makeup on a daily basis.

If you're requiring it you pay for it. I asked my HMUA what the costs would be and let my girls know and exact amount so they could decide on their own.

Only pay if you're requiring it! Bridesmaids pay of it's not required. I don't really care as long as they look presentable, 2/3 of my bridesmaids are getting their hair done and none for makeup.

I didn’t “require” it but I offered and they all took me up on it.

I'm giving my girls an option not an ultimatum. I'm definitely getting it done and asked (after receiving great tips from brides on here!!) each of my girls and mom and left the choice up to them. So far its just me and thankfully my HMUAs both don't require a minimum head count, they'll do just my hair and makeup without an issue. But everyone will be getting read together, I am paying for a bridal suite for us to stay in the night before.

Faux pas. This is something that has been posted on here so many times. It seems like the overall opinion is that if you're requiring them to get their hair & makeup done, or requiring a certain look, then you should pay for it. If doing hair and makeup is optional, and they can choose their style, then it's okay for the bridesmaids to pay for their own.

If the bride required they should pay for it. I’m gifting the make up to my girls but they are on their own for their hair

This is a tough one. I don't think the bride should be required to pay for it, but if she wants to fine. The ladies agree to be a part of the wedding, and that's part of the cost of it.

If you require them to have it professionally done, then the bride needs to pay for it. I would be pissed if I was in a wedding party and the bride told me I needed to foot a hair and makeup bill that I didn't want in the first place