Faux Pas or Nah: Asking about the guest list?

Totally a faux pas, at least in my opinion! The guest list is a personal decision of the bride and groom!

Faux Pas FOR SURE

There are two sides to this IMO… if you know you're invited, there's no harm in asking if so and so is invited. However, if you ask if you're invited or who's invited, not knowing whether or not you are, that's a faux pas.

So presumptuous and rude.

Faux Pas for sure

I can go either way. They can ask, but they have no right to tell me who to invite.

I think it is just people being curious, IMO.

Faux Pass! I've been ask and my answer is...I'm still working in it. Nosy people

Faux pas. It can be very uncomfortable if the answer isn't what was expected.

Is it super polite to ask? No. But I’m going to assume people’s best intent and think that some people are just being curious and don’t mean to be rude.

It's definitely in poor taste, it's no one's business...unless they're offering to pay for it too.

I think it depends on the situation. I had the unfortunate need to explain to a new acquaintance that she was not invited because we had our guest list set before she and I even hung out (we've only hung out two times and she just assumed that she was invited.) She hasn't talked to me since. (insert eye roll here.) But if it's like close family or friends that are genuinely just curious about your guest list size, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Sometimes it's just asking for clarification around plus 1, kids, etc.. However, it is outside their own family unit, yes, I find it rude.

If its them asking if they're invited, then definitely faux pas! That is so uncomfortable.

I think most people who ask about it want to be invited so it's super awkward when it's someone you don't plan on inviting. They are just excited but it can still be awkward

It’s called being nosey! I simply smile and tell them that I’m keeping the guest list private.

I think it's a faux pas if they're asking if they are invited but asking if so and so is invited is curiosity. Plus, just because they asked doesn't mean you have to answer.

It depends on the context - are they asking to be nosy? Is it mom asking if we remembered to invite aunt so and so? Is it a friend asking if another friend they don't get along with is invited?

Some contexts it's fine. Some it's not.

If someone asked about our guest list, we just said "we invited as many loved ones as we possibly could! You'll just have to see when you get there!"

If you recieved an invite, I I think it’s totally fine to ask. That way they know who they can talk wedding stuff with and who they probably shouldn’t. If they haven’t received an invite, I don’t think they should be askong

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That's a good answer to give, it's vague enough where they can't ask a follow up question!