Fathers deceased/ Father Daughter Dance

I'm planning a mother-daughter dance instead. That is if your mother is a significant part of your life. I've only ever had a mother so it was an easy choice for me. I'm very sorry to hear of your father's passing. That must be terrible :/

Why don't you choose a song that isn't father related? You can still dance with whomever you like but you won't be so emotional. For example, The Way You Look Tonight.

Following! I'm so so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad in January and while I'm excited to marry my FH I really don't know how I'm going to make it through the day. I was considering skipping the dance but I might talk to an uncle or my godfather (who will give me away). I'm just concerned that I won't make it through the dance without crying. I'll be thinking of you!

What about picking an upbeat song that your dad liked, and honoring him in that way? And you can have everyone join you on the dance floor, so it's not like everyone is staring at you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Do you have a DoC? We lost my dad 5 years ago this past Christmas, and I have talked with the wedding planner about my intention to dance with my brother to John Denver's "Sunshine on My Shoulders" because it was an important song to my dad and I. However, we have also discussed what I need to do if I don't think I'll be able to handle the dance without being a huge mess. Essentially, I'm going to give her a signal as to whether I'm feeling strong (and some days I absolutely can and others nope) and she'll either play it and we'll dance or she'll skip and go to the groom/mom dance. (There's a built in sound system we're using so that she has control)

I'm sorry for your loss. It never gets easy, but that just means you had a good relationship. Remember he'll be with you on your day even though it's not the way you want him to be.

My dad passed away when I was little so I am doing a mother-daughter dance with my daughter.

I don't have advice, but I'm sorry for your loss, and wish you peace and joy on your special day.

If this were me, I would do a mother daughter dance and also probably be an emotional wreck throughout

Im sorry OP.. I'm in the same boat. If you don't have someone else close to your heart to dance to a different song to, than skip it. I am and it just feels like the right thing to do

I am sorry about your dad OP. I am in a similar situation, but my father passed suddenly 13 years ago. When I originally said I am not doing a dance, my FH also said he would not have one either. We continued to talk about it because I, like you, also did not want to take that dance away from his mother. So after talking, he agreed that he would still have his dance with his mom, I just will not be having a dance. I have a step dad (long story, best way to describe him) but he hasn't filled the role to a point where I would want that dance with him. So I am just forgoing it. Honestly, that Cole Swindell song makes me cry every single time I hear it and couldn't imagine dancing to it at my wedding. I do not think there is anything wrong with foregoing the dance if you just truly cannot get through it.

Maybe instead of having a dance, you could just play a slideshow with pictures of you two together? So sorry for your loss

You can always still do the Cole Swindell song, it's definitely a good heartfelt song, especially in your situation. How about you just dance with your brother? It would be good for both of you, and you can have someone announce your dance being dedicated to your father? Choose one song with your brother, and if you'd like, split the other song with your uncle and FIL if it makes it any better. You can even do a slideshow for your dad with whatever song you didn't choose for your dance and put it in the slideshow. Just some options. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. We were unsure if my dad was going to be able to walk me down the aisle or do a dance (complications from liver transplant). DH and I talked it over...he said same thing as your FH. If I didn't get to dance with my dad, he wasn't going to dance with his mom. He talked to her and she was understanding about it. I think in this case it's ok to do what's best for you. If you can't think of it now without it hurting, it's going to be worse come the wedding day. You are going to have a lot of reminders already.

I say skip the dance, thank your FH for his offer, be sure he talks to his mom about it and thank her as well.

I'm in the same situation although i lost mine six years ago. I am doing a mother daughter dance and possibly having my brother come in before it's over. I really considered dancing with my uncles and then my brother lost to a song that reminded me of my father but I don't want to end up a sobbing mess on my wedding day so we decided to honor my dad in some other smaller ways that won't make me lose it the entire time. I'm close to my mom so I feel like that's important. I always wished my father's dad was close to us and I think that would've been special to incorporate him somehow but unfortunately i don't think that man even knows my name....anyways go with your gut I was just at a Cole Swindell concert and lost it completely during that song but if it's special to you and you think you can handle it I say go for it!

First, I am so sorry for your loss. Second, my (possibly unpopular) advice would be to embrace those emotions. Your father clearly meant the world to you and it is completely normal to be emotional about him not being here for you. Your wedding guests should be people who love and support you. I'm sure all of the other men in your life would be honored to make you feel special even if it is a somewhat somber moment. I know I'm the type of person where the harder I try to remain strong, the harder I fall apart.

Im sorry for your loss. I also lost my dad in 2015. I not having a father/daughter dance. I know i cant emotionally handle it. My mom doesnt want to do a mother/daughter. My FH said the same thing as your, but I told him to see how his mom would feel about it. It sucks all the way around but do what you want to do.

I also lost my dad in 2011 & I was going to do a mother/daughter dance, until I had my meeting with my DJ. I don't know, as I thought more about it, I felt it would be awkward & just sad. My mom really doesn't like the attention & now FH admitted that he really didn't want to do the mother/groom dance. So we're just cutting it out of the reception.

My father passed away also and our song was butterfly kisses and I am planning on doing with my uncle and I know I am gonna bawl but I would regret it if not

I'm so sorry about your father's passing. My father is also deceased, and I have chosen an upbeat song. I plan to share a memory about the song ask anyone who wants to dance to join me on the dance floor for it. I told FH he has to dance with me in case no one comes up, but I feel like some people will.

I'm sorry for your loss. I am also in a similar situation. My dad and I had a song (love of my life- Brian McKnight ) that we talked about dancing to at my wedding since I can remember but he passed away coming up on 2 years ago. It's still hard knowing he won't be there. I went through the "I'm not going to dance with anyone" phase but changed it for the same reason you did. I would never dance to our song with anyone else so I'm doing something light hearted with my brother