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Father- Daughter/ Son - Mother dances....dilemma

Cassie, on September 19, 2019 at 12:18 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 13
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Looking for some ideas.....

We really want to do our Father- Daughter/ Son - Mother dances..... But I have both my biological and step father in attendance and walking me down the aisle... and my fiance has his mother and his grandmother (she raised him) in attendance. We would want them all to each have that special moment with us but I don't want our guests to have to be watching us dance for like 30 minutes.. LOL.. oh and the kicker, I have my 16 year old son, that I would love to have a moment with.

I though about possible picking a song that was fitting for both and kind of starting with one dad, then finishing with the other..maybe this is tacky.....

Thoughts, ideas, recommendations... I'm all ears !


  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·

    I think the idea to use one song and just split it is perfect. I would cut each dance to a minute or two so that guests aren't sitting there forever. Do you want to have a spotlight dance with your son or would you mind just sharing a dance with him when everyone else is dancing?

  • Alyssa
    Devoted June 2020
    Alyssa Online ·
    You could split the mom and son dance the same way you split your father daughter dance. Have your hubby split it between his mom and gma and then halfway in you and your son can kind of share a spotlight on the side.
  • Cassie
    Dedicated November 2020
    Cassie ·
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    Not sure how I want to go about it with my son yet....

    Yeah I think splitting it would be the best solution.... everybody feels special, but we are also able to get the fun started

  • Cassie
    Dedicated November 2020
    Cassie ·
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    Love the idea of dancing with my son at the same time... great idea !

  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated June 2021
    Elizabeth ·

    I went to a wedding a few years ago where the father and step-father shared the father/daughter dance with the bride. The step-father cut in about halfway through and the dads shook hands before switching. It gave it a very loving, kind feel to it that took any awkward feelings away because they were respectful of each other. I think splitting two songs (one for your fiancé to split between his mother and grandmother and one song for you to split between your bio father and step-father) would be great. Maybe consider another option with your son? Dancing may be a little awkward and splitting a song three ways seems excessive. Either way, I'm sure you'll have a beautiful wedding!

  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
    I like the idea of splitting a song for multiple of dances. Cuts on time and is a good representation of the union and special bond of your family. Like your father giving you to your step dad and then him to your son. I find it that very special.
  • Erinn
    Dedicated January 2020
    Erinn ·
    In my brothers wedding he chose “through the years” to dance with my mom, and in the middle he brought me into the dance floor and then after dance with his daughter a little. Not tacky at all, infact, it had us all in tears cause we had no idea !
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
    I had this same problem, i am having my dad and step dad both walk me down the aisle. But i am only doing a first dance with my dad, and i am also doing a mother-daughter dance. I really don’t care what people think. Lol

    How about starting your first dance with your dad then toward the end of the song do a fun choreographed dance with everyone joining in, that way it saves time and everyone is still involved.
  • K
    Dedicated October 2020
    Katie ·
    I am having my 13 year old son walk me down the aisle and I will be doing separate songs for both my dad and stepdad as I want the songs to be special for the both of them. I think guest will understand that you want that time with the special people in your life as it is yours and you husbands day. Enjoy it the way you want to do it. The same goes for the mother/son dance.
  • Nicole
    Dedicated April 2020
    Nicole ·

    I think splitting is perfect. pick songs that mash with both, and during rehearsal figure out a 'mid point' where its kind of an interruption you see in a movie, and switch father's/mothers.

  • Cassie
    Dedicated November 2020
    Cassie ·

    Thanks everyone... this helps a lot!!!!

  • Catherine
    Expert November 2019
    Catherine ·

    When my friend got married she did two separate dances with her biological father and her step father (who raised her). Her dance with her step father was more upbeat and fun.

  • S
    Dedicated September 2019
    Shannon ·

    One of my friends had a similar situation. She danced with her dad, her husband danced with is mom and then they both danced with the step parent at the same time. it actually was a really nice touch.

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