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Lex
VIP September 2019

Fat arms

Lex, on February 22, 2019 at 2:29 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 66

I just got my dress in yesterday! I sent a picture to my mom, because she lives out of state. The first thing she says is “it looks good, but you need to work on your arms” Oof She’s been trying to get me to lose weight since she got on her keto diet kick. I’m not super happy with my body now, but...
I just got my dress in yesterday! I sent a picture to my mom, because she lives out of state. The first thing she says is “it looks good, but you need to work on your arms”
Oof
She’s been trying to get me to lose weight since she got on her keto diet kick. I’m not super happy with my body now, but she just looks sickly from that diet. I’d rather eat a little healthier than look like I’m malnourished.
I’m really hurt about it, and I’ve told her plenty of times, but she just “wants me to look my best!” Whatever.
So, does anyone have any idea how to tell her to quit? And do you have any arm workouts that won’t aggravate my bad shoulder? I had planned on toning them, but now I have a bad taste in my mouth from her comments.

Pictures of me in my dress with my “fat arms”

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66 Comments

  • Nadia
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Nadia ·
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    You beautiful just the way you are. Love who you are first. Don’t let negativity get next to you. If you want to change your appearance, do it because you want to not because of what others say about you. I do pray your mom will realize what impher words have on you. She may mean well but there are other ways to approach a person.

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  • T
    Beginner April 2019
    Tamika ·
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    Oh my goodness you look great!!!! I mean that with all honesty.
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  • Haein
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Haein ·
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    You look amazing in your dress!! If you're happy with your body, good for you. You look absolutely stunning. Don't let other people's insecurities let you down.

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  • Lex
    VIP September 2019
    Lex ·
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    Thank you to everyone who responded! You all make me feel a gajillion times better.
    Sometimes you just need friends on the internet to help you! I love you all! 💕
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  • Jessica
    Expert March 2019
    Jessica ·
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    I'm sorry your mom said that to you!! Your arms do not look bad to me at all!! I think u look amazing in your dress!!
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    You look stunning in that dress, arms included. Trust me, no one will even notice them. Your FH's jaw will drop when he sees you.
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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I think you look fantastic. You have nothing to worry about
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    Oh my god, thats something my mom would say, too lol. Or to stand up straight or go and wash and blow dry my hair lol.
    First off, your arms do not look fat.
    If YOU want to do something about it, for yourself, not for your mom, you could try planking every other day. Not sure how that is for your shoulder, but I like it and it helps keeping the area toned. Next, forget Keto, but do reduce your carbs. I also recommend lots of water. You didnt say how long you have until your wedding, but if you dont do anything, you'd still look great.
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    You look amazing! Love ♡
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  • S
    Devoted May 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Next time she says she wants you to look your best, say "I already do". Shut it down. Your dress is beautiful and your arms are fine! Your SO loves you the way you are and you're marrying them not your mom. So I would just tune it out. IF you want to do anything for your body, that's fine. But we can't fix ourselves to please others when there's nothing wrong to start with.
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  • T
    Super June 2019
    Tiffany ·
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    Wow, your mom needs to shut the hell up. You look incredible, I wish my arms were as “fat” as yours 😂
    seriously, don’t take anything like that to heart. You are stunning!
    May I ask, did you get your dress from a cocomelody? This looks like the dress im
    drooling over!
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  • Lex
    VIP September 2019
    Lex ·
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    I didn’t, I got it off Poshmark! I love cocomelody, I almost bought off there.
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  • Tessa
    Devoted November 2019
    Tessa ·
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    Btw this weeks episode of Say Yes to the Dress tackles this exact issue.
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  • Brittney
    Savvy July 2019
    Brittney ·
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    There is always a hater, even if the heater is your mother. Shake it off girl, put that head up, and embrace those arms! They are beautiful. Not just saying that :-)
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    Beginner July 2020
    Aerayna ·
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    Girl you look fine to me! Ignore the comment and enjoy ♥️
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  • Michelle
    Expert March 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Girl you look fantastic! It's your day - if you feel amazing that's all that matters!!!
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  • Casi
    Beginner August 2019
    Casi ·
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    YOU LOOK AMAZING! We all have things we dont like about our body! BUT your not marrying your mom. Your marrying the man of your dreams you got the dress for a reason! Remember that feeling when you first saw your self in that dress!! Smiley heart

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  • Disneybride
    Dedicated April 2021
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    Hun you don't have fat arms that dress is gorgeous on you
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  • S
    Beginner March 2020
    Sarah ·
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    I'm not even going to read the comments here. You look gorgeous. As long as you know that, that should be enough. (Also, didn't see one "fat arm" anywhere)
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    Your arms look fine to me. I am so sorry that your mom said that to you. My mom has made snide comments about my weight in the past and it's hurtful.

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