Fat arms

Your arms look fine! The dress looks really pretty and matches you really well. Gorgeous! There’s literally nothing wrong.

You should tone your arms and eat healthier only if you think you need to, not because your mom tells you. You should talk to her about how you feel about your body image, and that’s all that matters!

As far as your bad shoulder, I would ask your doctor if they have any ideas, or just do a quick google search to find an arm workout and just eliminate the things that aggravate your shoulder.

You look fabulous! And that dress is gorgeous! I definitely don't see "fat arms" when I look at your pictures, but I understand now being completely happy with your body and being completely torn down by others' comments. I would definitely have a direct conversation with your mom. She may not even realize how hurtful her comments are (which seems ridiculous, but I've had to have similar conversations with people that just had no clue the damage or their words. If you feel like you want to tone up a bit (not saying you need to, but if you want to do it for YOU), there are tons of free workout channels on youtube. One of my favorites is Cassey Ho, she goes by the name Blogilates on youtube. She is an amazing ball of sunshine and energy and is so body positive!

Your arms looks great!! I wouldn't focuson them at all. But I would work on your confidence. For me it helps to read books and listen to podcasts on self esteem. I would recommend Rise, ANYTHING by Oprah, and Tony Robbins. This could help with the relationship with your mom and for your glow on your wedding day!! I've been focusing on this for almost a year and it has really helped me in many areas of my life even though I am an extremely insecure person. Trust all of us on this board, you do NOT need to worry about your arms.

Why does "looking your best" translate to "thinner." I think looking your best means being the healthiest, happiest version of yourself. You should tell your mom to shove it, honestly.

That dress looks amazing on you! Your arms are not fat AT ALL! I am so sorry she said that.

Ugh!! It makes me SO upset when mothers do this. The first thing my mom said to me when I tried my dress on for her was "You're going to lose weigh, right?" I mean, REALLY mom? My poor bonus daughter was just there with her mouth open like "Did she really just say that??" I clapped back with "If I do, fine. If not, no big deal. I am NOT killing myself for 3 months to look "good" in a dress. Besides, he put a ring on it while I was this size, so clearly he loves me exactly the way I am!" but still....it cut me deep. She can never just be nice and keep her crappy comments to herself. Especially to me. She will always find the negative in everything. The best part? She is overweight herself!

I often wonder if my struggle with weight is because of her. Like, "You want me to lose weight? Well guess what, I am going to gain more!" I always have been defiant against her. Something for the therapists couch, I am sure! Thanks a lot, mom!!