Facebook Etiquette

In the beginning of our engagement I did a few posts. But then people would comment “Can’t wait for my invite!” And I started realizing what a bad idea it was. I tried to keep my wedding posts to a minimum, which is hard for me, because I do enjoy my social networking and am a frequent poster. I posted the most about my wedding in the last month of planning…and then after the wedding to show off the pro-pictures. Now that my wedding is over I’ll try to save my throw back wedding day pictures for anniversaries or I’ll sneak one in a collage for someone’s birthday. I know some people that post every week on throwback Thursday 5 wedding photos and I don’t want to be that person….”she just can’t get over her wedding.”

I posted when I got engaged and chose a date but soon realized it is best to leave my wedding details off of FB.

I try to post as little as possible, I have friends who post their every wedding move and it drives me crazy. I also have a lot of friends and extended family who won't be invited (our guest list is already over 250) so I don't want to hurt anyones feelings.

The engagement photo and requisite relationship change was made. And when someone asks the answer is "coming along nicely, thanks!". Otherwise nothing. Most of the people aren't invited so it feels rude to gush all over the place.

I don't post about my wedding.

I don't want some to assume they are invited and have to deal with that drama!

I think it just all depends on your personality, how frequently (and also the type of things) you post, and who you have as friends (is it friends, family, co-workers, random people?). For me, I do post some things (like, maybe every other week or so). Everyone is really excited for me, and I have a LOT of friends getting married in the next few years, so it sparks some ideas with them and vice versa.

Oh ok, yes i agree, that is a term that is used way to loosely lol

The only thing I've done about the wedding in regards to FB is changed my status about two months after we we're engaged and I posted a status in regards to traveling home and having many irons in the fire regarding all things wedding planning.

I'm not a huge FB poster, I have my spurts here and there, but I'm not really posting for some above mentioned reasons such avoiding the "Girl, I wait to come to your wedding" and they're not on the guest list or just the random, noisy inquiries from distant folks who need to get some business, so I just avoid it all together for the most part.

@Sel - Hello Date Twin - it's only a few of us on here - 22 days to go!

I will occasionally post about the wedding in general but I never post specific plans. There are people on my friends list who won't be invited, and there are some people who I fear would show up uninvited if they knew the date and location!

We changed our status and that was it. That's what WW is for lol!

I don't think it's an issue of not wanting to rub it in the face of people not invited, but rather it's just annoying when people post their every move. It's like, shut-up and get married already. Other, non-invited guests are not going to care that you bought your favours, made your table numbers or found the perfect wedding shoes. THat's what WW is for!

However, I'm sure people won't mind if you post a few large milestone comments along the planning process such as just booking the venue or only one month to go etc. Just keep it to a minimum and people won't care.

Think of the new mom's that post every single thing their baby did that day. It becomes annoying. Pick a choose, just don't over do it.

I posted when we were engaged, about a week after though. Then when we first started looking for venues, I asked for ideas. Then I realized the only people giving ideas were my friends who had already been married, everyone else was just inviting themselves to the wedding. I haven't posted since. A year before the wedding I'm going to delete my fb though. I figure, whoever keeps in touch with me after it's deleted will get an invite. I think it'll help shorten my guest list

I think it's fine to post whatever you like about your wedding. People say it's rude to post a pic with the ring. Everyone on of my friends on FB who posted they were engaged, the first comment was people wanting a pic of the ring. All 300 of your friends on facebook will not think that they are invited. If a friend post they are going to eat or having a party this weekend, I don't think that means I should come. If they wanted me there, they would have told me. I don't get offended.

We changed our status and posted engagement photos and then the last month I would give little updates "Send back your RSVP, Please send back your RSVP, If you don't send back your RSVP then you are going to DINE IN HELL!" Not really the last one but I think people don't want to see a whole bunch of posts in a row related to weddings, babies, food, and politics in general. It just gets old.

I'm anti-facebook. But I'm also a curmudgeon, so take it fwiw.

I haven't posted anything. I haven't even changed our status to "engaged". I just feel terrible about the extended family members that I will not be able to invite to our wedding. My father's side of the family is very large, and we use FB to keep up with eachother, even though we don't get together often. So unforutnately for those reasons, I'm keeping everything that's wedding related off of FB and all social media for now.

I have a secret closed group for my bridesmaids that I post in. On my actual page I waited a month to post the engagement (still doesn't have a name attached to it) and I did 100 day mark as a status. I'll probably make one album with a few photos and that's it.

I posted when we got engaged, I posted a message about how much each of my Facebook friends mean to me but stated I can't invite everyone I wish to invite and I have posted milestones (as in I got my dress or we booked out venue). I haven't had anyone take my posts as an invitation to the wedding or use it as an opportunity to give input into wedding planning (of course, most of my friends know I am the planner for everything so it's not like they expect me to need assistance)

I also had a secret group for my bms. I never posted anything about the wedding. I would just make groups or start group convos. Even a wedding website would be better means of updating your guests w info. As for venues and other stuff I liked to keep it to myself and only people that I talked to on the daily. I want wedding deets to be a surprise. Half of my bms haven't even seen my dress. Lol. Of all the ppl I know that got married I never seen anything wedding related. And if it was it was very subtle.

Oh, I recently found my dj to book and he totally tagged me on fb and announced it. He includedthe month and place. Most of our guests don't even know it's been rebooked. It was pretty embarrassing. I'm hoping not to many ppl caught it.