Facebook Etiquette

I just don't. Simply bc we have a lot of extended family that will not be invited and I want to avoid hurt feelings as much as possible. We chose to have a destination wedding due to wanting to keep the guest list small so not everyone on my friends list on FB is invited.

We changed our relationship status to engaged but it was a few months after it happened and I posted something about finding the dress but was very vague.

I also added some of our engagement photos but didn't call them that. When I've had people comment or write on my wall regarding the wedding, I private message them back. Some of my family knows we were thinking of a Vegas wedding but they don't know the specifics as to when it will be.

It's difficult sometimes, especially during moments of excitement but I like to think in the long run will this post help or harm?

I will post pictures after the wedding and don't mind if others tag us in any photos.

I made a post when I was wedding dress shopping and I put a engagement photo up when we got them back last week but I have never said anything specific about our wedding.

I've posted a few posts about big things that we've accomplished, but that's it. I've had maybe 5 or so wedding posts and I've been engaged since Aug 2012. As long as you don't bombard Facebook with a ton of wedding posts, the occasional post is ok. Don't go overboard though. No one truly cares about every aspect of your wedding like you do.

I've had some friends who post like every other week it seemed like about their weddings and I just wanted to tell them to shut up! Especially since it was like the same post over and over and over. "I'm marrying my best friend in 2 months!" "I'm getting married in 1 month to the love of my life!" Blah blah blah. Yes, we get it.

I think I have posted maybe 5 times about the wedding. One was a stressed out post about money for it, lol. I try to keep it to a minimum, only because I don't want to hurt anyone feelings that didn't get invited, who might think they will, because they were "in the know" on do much of the planning

I try to carry that over to real life situations as well. I don't talk about the wedding with someone who I don't intend to invite unless they bring it up. And I try my hardest not to even bring it up around other people unless they start the conversation.

I think important, big things are ok (ie we found a venue, I got my dress, some e-pics) just don't overkill it. It's like with any topic. People will be annoyed if you post fifty thousand pictures of your dog, kid, food, etc. All in moderation to keep people excited and interested without annoying the crap out of them.

I don't talk about wedding stuff on there, it's just a big NO for me.

We've only updated our relationship status to engaged and he's posted stuff like suggestions on where to go for honeymoon but that's about it.

we don't want to post much about the wedding because a lot of people would like to come and we can't afford to have our dream wedding with a lot more people than we already have.

I posted pics when we got engaged and changed our status. When it came up why we were in wine country I said we were venue shopping and once about changing my name (I've battled social security over my DOB for years, they think I'm 85 lol). I'm not sure if I want to stop posting about it but agree it's best to stic with the "big" things. I looked back at my posts and they make up so few posts in the last few months. We are having a small wedding of about 100 or less in wine country and I haven't had anyone invite themselves yet, only people assume they are getting a plus one when they are not. He's had more trouble with every guy at work wanting to come...they all can't wait for the party and free food I think. He's changing jobs and moving so we aren't sending out save the dates until next spring...that way he will be gone when they go out lol.

I feel like the less you post, the better. Someone on my facebook home feed posted the link to her wedding website, which I didn't think was a very good idea. I understand people are excited and want to share that excitement, but do you really want to share all the details of your wedding with people who aren't even invited?

I don't because it easily allows folks who dont keep in touch with you to suddenly try really hard to and some of them just want to be a wedding, they literally don't care who's.

I think it's best in moderation…the same thing goes for other subjects. I have 4 friends that are prego right now and they post every day about the baby. Or friends that just had kids and thats all they post about. I don't want to pop out a kiddo and forget to post about my fury at the game score or enjoying a girls night out!

I post a lot about it, but y a lot I mean every few days, and I post a lot, usually political. Lots of people on my friends list are political acquaintances, or friends from long ago, so they don't expect an invite, most my real friends are being invited, so I'm not concerned.

I only private message my friends who know about the wedding, but even then I don't do it too much as I don't want to overwhelm anyone with wedding info. Haha, most people don't know that I'm even engaged - I'm looking forward to putting up a post with wedding pictures and a note 'oh btw I'm married'.

Other friends put up wedding info (to weddings I'm not invited to) and it doesn't bother me at all - it's actually fun looking at it.

I have posted a few things. Mainly about something big getting checked off the list.

I am a mom & I post about my son all the time. Didn't realize I was bothering anyone with it..

I post very very little. i don't even think we changed our status to engaged. our fotog posted some pics that she captioned "tina and joe are engaged" and that ruffled some feathers even though i have had the ring for three years!

Here's a good article with some advice. I changed my status to engaged before telling my parents and I totally regret it. http://mashable.com/2013/07/05/wedding-etiquette/

I changed our status to engaged and in July I asked if anyone knew of a good venue.

Other than that, I'm not posting. I have to keep the invite list relatively small, and I don't want to deal with people who think they're invited or asking for an invitation.

I'll post engagement pictures and the wedding photos after, but nothing now. FH doesn't either.

I posted the pics from when we got engaged (i.e. announcing engagement), our engagement pics, and i'll post milestones like "6 months." that's about it. we will post some wedding pics i'm sure, but i have friends on fb who i couldnt invite who wanted an invite, so i keep it to myself mostly or text my BMs when i'm excited

I created a private group that only people invited can see posts about the wedding. I normally send an update or reminders to send addresses, or to check out my website. the people in the group are the ones invited to the wedding of course. but other than that, i might do a status on my page here and there but once in a blue moon, i've found that you're not liked when you're planning a wedding lol lol

We changed our status, and DH made a post at one point about "songs not to play at our wedding". all our friends who responded were invited though. I'm also really careful about FB--everyone I'm friends with on there, I know in real life (though not all were invited), so I wasn't as worried about strangers seeing it.. I have also heard that thieves can use it to know when you're not home and have lots of gifts--great time to break in.