Exes family at my wedding?

I feel like this is a personal decision. I still talk with my ex's mom, but we're not close enough for me to invite her. But your situation sounds different. I guess it partly depends on how your FS feels about it, too. ETA the idea is not weird to me in itself. I know people who are much closer to their ex's family, like you. I just think it's case by case.

Seems pretty manipulative to me- why would you moving on with your life affect them??

However, what does FH say to this?

IMO- I wouldn't want to invite my XSO's parents to my wedding. Just seems awkward.

What? No exes, no exes family. Move on.

The fact that they are acting like you did a terrible thing gives me pause. I understand wanting to remain close, but unless you have children with their son, it seems a little odd.

My ex was my best friend until he died. I would never have considered inviting him or his family to my wedding.

Time for a new start. Take into account what your FH and his family will think.

Hard no.

How long had you been with your ex? How long ago did you break up? How long have you been seeing FH? Have you been in touch with your exes family all this time?

Also, your wedding is 15 months away, you don't need to make this decision anytime soon. In fact I'd wait to see how things unfold before deciding. I'm not sure why they would be hurt.... when did you get engaged?

I would not.

What? This is very weird, and would make me feel uncomfortable, ESPECIALLY after they are acting this way.

Run.

Run fast and don't look back. Like you did with your ex.

FH says he just want me to be happy; but he think it would be awkward because they most likely still want me to be with their son.

However what all of you are saying is making sense; I think I am feeling bad because they are hurt and they were really nice people.

It is time for a new chapter!

My ex is one of my best friends and he and FH are actually pretty friendly but he's definitely not invited to our wedding.

@OG Alecia

We no longer speak regularly because I just felt it would be disrespectful to my FH.

My ex and I broke up 5 years ago. However my parents and his parents were friends; in fact the whole family for years. So they have been in my life for a long time.

When I started dating my FH, I no longer talk to them as much; so now they finding out I am getting married from other people, they are really hurt.

We invited FH's ex wife and her parents. I love them!

My ex MIL and SIL are invited... my EX SIL son is a Jr GM in the wedding....

My ex and I have been divoreced for over 20 years and we remained friends because we had 3 chilldren to raise.... His wife and I are very close.... We are weird like that I guess....

How does your FH feel about it? I personally wouldn't. IMO when you break up with someone you break up with there family. That doesn't mean you can't talk or catch up if you run into them but to invite them to your wedding is weird.

Nope. I wouldn't

They just called again and left a voicemail. What have we done to you; that you Just abandoned us????? SMH

@soontobeMrsS.

You are so right; that is why I no longer talk to them like that; however, they are acting as if I committed a crime.

I'm pretty horrified by the people who have expressed that they are close friends with an ex or a family member of an ex and yet they would exclude that person from the wedding. That is just so cruel! How you met has nothing to do with your relationships to each other now. My bridesmaids are both people who dated my FH. They weren't right together, we are right together, and we have wonderful friendships.

OP, this all comes down to your relationship with these people. Are you legitimately still close with them, or do they just wish you were? If you still consider yourself close, definitely invite them. You should have the people who mean the most to you at your wedding--what possible difference does it make that they are related to someone you used to date? But if it's just them *wishing* you were still close, then feel no guilt about not inviting them.

After reading your follow ups, definitely don't invite these people! What manipulative a-holes. They can't force you to be friends with them.

I'd probably stay away from that. What if they decide to show up with your ex?