Exes at weddings.

Actually, my ex husband will be at my wedding, lol. His wife is my BFF and she is in my wedding. I can't expect her not to bring her husband, right? Oh, and their youngest daughter is one of my flower girls, lol.

No way Jose!

I have a rather vulgar saying, but I'll try to clean it up...

If you've "exercised" with the person, or they've had your "bits" in and around their mouth, they're off the guest list.

My only ex is my kiddo's dad. We were never married and have a decent relationship but FH doesn't want to invite him. I was originally planning to but he voiced concerns so I said OKAY!

I have a good friend whom we crossed the friendship line emotionally but never physically (unless you include kissing). We've been friends for about 10 years and I didn't invite him to my wedding because I think it would be awkward. I think he looks at me as the one who got away because while waiting for him to make our dating an official relationship, I met my FH and totally left him alone! I would just rather not make it uncomfortable for him nor me! But no, none of my exes are invited to my wedding!

Two old bang buddies of mine are invited. His ex-gf that he has a kid with is invited.

I'm good friends with one of those bang buddies. He's probably my best guy friend, or one of them anyway. The other one I could care less about, but he unfortunately is married to a good friend of mine, so he comes with the package. Those two probably can't afford to come though. Not sure.

Another good friend of mine, whom I never slept with, but we definitely fooled around, is invited, but he and his wife won't be able to make it. They are having a baby via surrogate and the baby is supposed to be born right around the time of our wedding, so I'll get to see them here in DC before we leave for Mexico.

All that said, I think it depends on the kind of relationship you had and have now. I wouldn't invite any of my douchey exes, but some of the guys I dated were totally stand-up people and it wouldn't be an issue to have them there if we were still friends.

Nope. I don't actually have any exes and the two that FH had both cheated on him so they will not be invited.

AAaaaaaaah, no. Whether you had a good parting or not it could (and quite likely) would make your FH uncomfortable. And the day should only be full have happiness, no awkwardness allowed!

HELL NO. Not gonna happen. No way shape or form is any of my exes or his exes setting foot in the church that day. I am not friends with any of my exes, all of them except one caused the breakup by cheating and that is something i do not forgive. Besides, the absolute LAST face i want to see on my trip down the aisle is one of my exes.

I'm not against the idea of ex's at weddings, but if you don't see them, then I can't see inviting them.

Nope mine will not be there and my mother knows to NEVER invite them

FH BM is actually one of my ex's lol. But he's the reason I meant FH and it's not awkward anymore. Kind of weird to tell people, but it all works ok for us.

That would be inappropriate. Definitely a NO.

Absolutely not.

I won't invite the last guy I was with, so long as FH doesn't try to invite his ex GF. I can't stand her, she's a snob & an idiot who always tries to "one up" FH.

Not an ex. Definately have a couple of guys coming who I have hooked up with...like a million years ago. They are in our group of friends.

Nope, my ex (dated for 4 years) is a scum bag and my husband would probably bitch slap him if they ever met face to face. My husband has 2 exes, one was more just a bang buddy the other was his high school sweetheart, I wouldn't have minded if we had invited her (she's married with 2 kids) however my husband wasn't interested in extending an invite since they haven't spoken in years.

I added my FH's exes...Meh, we're all in the same group of friends. It would be awkward if I didn't. Besides, everyone has moved on. It's not that seriously.

Lol, I guess this makes me the total oddball:

FW and I BOTH had exes not only at our wedding, but in our wedding party!

To be fair, two of them were our first girlfriends (back in HS!), who we have both stayed bff's with since, and then I also had a more "recent" ex (...we broke up 7+ years ago under AWESOME circumstances...her parents even came!).

Add one more mark in the column of "the gays do it differently"??

My ex will be invited. We dated for 12 years after growing up together. We were young and after I left the relationship we continued to be friends. There is a bond there that won't be broken. Looking back we were more friends than bf/gf. My fiancee has met him and has been in his company many times. They like each other and there is no odd feelings when we are all in the company of friends. I say if you have an adult view of the relationship, why not invite the ex.