Ever Demote or Have a Moh/bridesmaid Step Down??

View Quoted Comment Thanks. I'm hoping we can figure something out when she gets here this weekend. If not, I won't have a choice.

View Quoted Comment Very true and I understand that. I've never looked at strapless. Sleeveless yes, but never strapless. I'm not forcing anyone but instead of just rejecting, put effort in showing me what you have an idea for ya know?? This shouldn't be a guessing game and when we think we found something and I show her, then its all "no" "I can't/won't" "my issue is..." etc. Thankfully she'll be here this weekend and for her sake, I'm really hoping we can find something.

If she needs to wear a bra and you're looking at a designer who makes dresses that cannot be worn with a bra, you may have to be more flexible with your requirements or pick a different designer.

View Quoted Comment Have you ever tried Jasmine Bridal? They have 3 bridesmaid lines, Belsoie, Jasmine, and B2. You can check the knot dress section to see what the range is for each line, like 100-225, 175-275, I have lost track. They have many lightly structured, others with linings and structure. But as this link page tells you
https://www.jasminebridal.com/search.asp?keyword=sleeves

They will do custom colors in any dress including bridesmaids, so if the only one someone can wear is not available in the same colors the 2 other dresses in your party are, or if it is one of a kind, they will make a gown in the chosen fabric color. They also do custom fit from measurements if someone needs a deeper fuller cut bossom or hips. And they will add modesty panels ( colored to match chiffon, net or lace V in a plunging necklace or back) so a bra can be worn, or illusion lace to a higher neck , or sleeves, on request. These are not posted on every dress page, just ask in a salon. I have volunteered to make or alter dresses for many people with misshapen or scarred body parts, sometimes a start from scratch, sometimes alterations. Even something like a lacy jacket over a strapless top to cover burn scars, many salons treat someone less than perfect like a pariah. With a couple of salons and makers I most often end up more setting things up, and Jasmine salons have always been helpful, I have never seen bad work. So much better to get a dress made to measure from the factory than to remake it.So the amount of structure in many of their dresses, with a swap of colors, and a little more coverage might work for her. But give the others minimally structured dresses they like. https://www.jasminebridal.com/bridesmaids

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You will have a choice. You're not being forced to kick her out of your wedding because you're having trouble communicating with her about what she is comfortable wearing. Start with all of your girls' requirements - comfort and budget-wise - and go from there. You may have to be more flexible than you would like, but having them in the wedding should be more important than having them look like the perfect decor pieces.

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What exactly has been so bothersome? She's not responsible for planning your wedding, so if it's you asking her to do things for her wedding and her not actually doing them, you need to let it go.

View Quoted Comment Yea. We are now picking another designer but I have another heavy set who didn’t mind trying it on and actually liked it. It just bothers me that she didn't even bother to try it on.

View Quoted Comment No. I've never heard of them. I'll definitely take a look. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Its the fact that everyone else is fine with the choice except her which is why we're starting over. I'm not the one picking the exact dresses. Our wedding is creative black tie attire so there is a bit of a standard but nothing too extreme. We'll just have to see what we find when she's out here, if anything.

I agree with Vicky. I'd find a different designer with options that can accomodate supportive bras. Speaking as a well endowed person, my large chest has only been a curse, definitely not a blessing. I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable trying on a dress knowing that it couldn't accommodate a supportive bra and hide my bra straps. I also couldn't imagine asking my MOH to step down over a dress.

View Quoted Comment I've been planning my wedding alone just fine. Her dress is the problem. She's the only one who is having issues with dresses that have been chosen but not really giving me any photos to go on so it's been a wild guessing game, even when I keep asking. Either she forgets or she's busy. She's coming out this weekend so hopefully we can finally come to an agreement on something.

View Quoted Comment I get it. We are going to look at a new designer when she gets here this weekend. It's not just the dress it's the serious lack of communication.

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Good to hear. Hopefully the two of you can figure it out soon!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Me too.

Have you looked at Azazie? That's where I had my girls get their dresses from. I gave them a couple of parameters and the requirement that the style be different from what any other girl was wearing. I have a variety of heights and builds in my party. Azazie has 100+ styles, so I figured that was enough for everyone to find something they liked.

I had some griping about the fact that the dresses can't be tried on before purchasing but honestly, going to a brick and mortar store would have meant higher prices and fewer options. I would recommend something online.

View Quoted Comment Yea. I've looked on there. Also, sometimes it's hard to tell which sites are actually legit.

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Well Azazie for sure is, as well as Birdy Grey, Dessy, etc. Others I would be cautious about.

View Quoted Comment Yea i know those are legit. We've just seen dresses on other sites that we like and aren't really sure how to feel about them.

Hi! I actually had a friend (of 23 years but we aren’t very close anymore and she lived 1000+ miles away) assume the position of Maid Of Honor before I had even asked her to be in my wedding, and had already asked another friend to be my maid of honor. So I thought they could work together and share the duties but friend A who assumed the position of MOH is very type A and likes to be in control of things and in charge, but was making decisions for me (such as making a group chat without me in it to find bridesmaids dresses and complaining to me if someone else suggested something instead of taking it up with the person who was making the suggestion) and wouldn’t work nicely with my original MOH and I was so stressed about it I ended up calling friend A and telling her that it wasn’t working and that I just needed her to get a dress, show up, make a speech at the reception if she wanted to and that was it and that I was trying to make everyone happy and it wasn’t making me happy and that my original MOH was going to plan and be responsible for MOH duties and if she needed help she would ask. It was a difficult conversation but I realized it’s my wedding and I wasn’t having any fun or enjoying anything due to her needing to be in charge.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. That's rough. Your situation was a power overload and mine is just straight lack of communication. Ridiculous. I just hope we can find something within the next week or so.