Engagement Ring Protocol after a breakup

Sell it. You won't recoup much of the original price, but it's not like you paid for it yourself.

Take yourself out to a few nice dinners or treat yourself to some new clothes. So sorry this happened.

I think the origins of the engagement ring are something to do with in case of a break in engagement the woman had something of value, sort of like insurance? So, sell it! Maybe just put the money in savings and spend it on a holiday/something practical like house stuff when you feel better.

I'd just give it back. Sorry OP, hope you're healing and moving on.

Give it back.

I would return it, no second thought. I'm very prideful though.

I agree with all the pp. Make sure you consult a lawyer first, get what he said in some form of writing, and then maybe consult somewhere like an unclaimed diamonds jeweler. They may give you more money for the stones in your ring separately. Take it to a couple of places to see who might give you the best value.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I ended up with a promise ring when my HS boy friend of 5 years and I broke up in college, it wasn't really worth enough to sell and since its value was mostly emotional and symbolic to me I ended up making a post card, putting it in an envelope and mailing it into post secret with one of my secrets written around the ring regarding the relationship. Not that you have to get rid of it that way, but just having it out of my life and hands lifted some of the grief from me, so I definitely suggest you look into your options.

Where's Nancy?

I agree with Jess. Laws vary from state to state about returning it. I'd give it back to him. Either that sell it and give the $ to a charity that is near and dear to your heart. Make a positive out of a negative. Who wants a reminder of a broken engagement sitting in their jewelry box?

If he does not want it ask for the receipt and take it back to the store for an exchange of something you might like.

First off, I'm sorry about the break up. I would keep the ring honestly.

IMO - he ended it, so its yours to do with as you please. If it was me, I'd sell that sucker and take a vacation!!

Years ago I kept mine after he broke it off, I have it along with all the other jewellery I don't wear that often and I'm going to give it to maybe a grand-daughter or Niece if I'm blessed with either, It means nothing to me now(its just a ring) at all so ill pass it on as well as my other pieces of jewellery too,

You are supposed to give it back. If he is really insistent that he doesn't want it back, maybe sell it to a jewler.

I always thought that if he broke off the engagement it was yours to keep or do what you want with. If you broke it off. You had to give it back. It was technically a gift to you.

I'm sorry about your breakup. Give the ring back.

I was engaged previously and after he and I broke up I mailed him back the ring with a note saying I hoped he would give it back to me again some day since at that point I was still hoping we would get back together. We never did and it was for the way better that we didn't but the ring hasn't been something I've had to worry about since then.

If you don't have plans of getting back together with your ex then I guess it's how you feel about the ring. He's made it pretty clear that he doesn't care. I'd probably sell it if I was in your situation.

I was at a court case once where this was the case ahead of ours.

The judge looked like OGK's avatar, especially when the ex bride pulled out something she found under "corporate etiquette."

OP, whatever you do, make sure you have his statement in writing.

And sorry this is happening. I am certain a cliche like "blessing in disguise" won't help. Just know that things do get better in time. And it won't be linear. And crying releases healing hormones.

Hugs!

It seems that he's been really clear that it's yours and you can do what you want with t.

My BFF sold her wedding set after her now ex-husband turned out to be a real shit (did something unspeakable, tried to hide it, CPS got involved, she left his ass so fast everyone's head was spinning. She did what she had to do to protect her kids ). They'd been married for a long time. After the divorce and property allocation, she sold those things. She only got about $200 for them, but at that point it was cathartic. We bought a fantastic bottle of wine, a pizza, and cupcakes.

I think you have to do what's best for you. Sell it, give the money to charity, spend the money on something that makes you feel good, throw it off a bridge. Decide what emotion you want to process (grief? Anger? Frustration?), and then use it to do that.

I would sell it. If he told you to keep it after you offered to give it back, then sell it.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

I always said that I was going to throw my first ering in the ocean (it is fake and worthless, we were 18), but I never got around to doing it. It's still in an old jewelry box I don't use often, and while I was over the relationship long, long ago I don't quite know why I never took care of it. In your case, if the ring is worth something and it is indeed yours to keep, donate it for the tax write off or sell it for a bomb girl's trip.