Engagement Ring Protocol after a breakup

Depending on your state you may be required to return the ring to him. Otherwise, I'd sell it and use the money for a healing and relaxing trip.

Well he's not going to go to court to get it back. Because he doesn't care what I do with it. That is a good idea though.

I would sell it and take a super awesome vacation with the money. Or donate it if that's what your conscience says

If he's telling you to keep it then consider it a gift. Sell that gift and take yourself on a mini vacation or full spa day.

If it were me I would just give it back.

I would give it back and let it be his problem.

If you offered it back and he says he doesn't care what you do with it I would pawn it or sell it. Take the money and give yourself something kind of nice.

Technically it was a gift and you should be free to do with it as you will. Sell it and go shopping or take a vacation. His loss is your gain, especially since he broke it off. Do you, forget about him.

You will not get much money back if you sell it. If you do want to do that though, I suggest idonowidont.com because you will get a much larger return than if selling to a jewelry store or pawn shop.

Alternatively, you could donate it to a charity and take the paid for value of it as a tax write off. This might help more financially in addition to making you feel better. IMHO keeping it will only bring negativity into your life. Move on and ditch any reminders on this loser. Being free from this guy will allow you to find who you are meant to be with.

Actualllllly it's not a gift. It could be legally considered consideration for a promise to marry. But if he's told you to do with it what you will, I'd sell it, give him half the money and move on.

I would get him to send you an email or screen shot a text message saying that it’s yours to keep as a gift etc. & save the documentation. Then.... sell it. Take a vacation and heal.

God bless you, I pray that your heart is healed & that you find true love and happiness. You didn’t deserve that!

If he broke it off you can keep the ring. I would sell it. I returned mine first time around. Broke it off 3 months out

It's not a gift. If it were me, I would mail it back to him. Then he can do whatever he wants with it. ETA: There's no reason to keep a physical or emotional tie to this object. If you sell it and take a vacation or buy something else, it will always be the thing you did with X's engagement ring. So, that's why I say put it in a box and send it to him. You avoid the face to face hand-off, get the closure, and absolve yourself of any responsibility for the object. (just get insurance and proof of sending/delivery)

If you have in writing he doesn't want it back (email, text) you're Scott free. Sell it and take care of yourself!

Sigh, so many wannabe lawyers here.

After an engagement break it depends on state law how the ring is awarded yes. However, the OP has been exceedingly clear that the dude broke it off and then said, "I want you to keep it." No matter what state you are in, that makes it a gift full stop. This is from a 2 state barred attorney.

I mean the potential exists for him to later say that him saying that to OP was completely fabricated, so cover your ass with saving a text or email from him to this effect. But no, OP you are not required to ever offer him half the proceeds. Also, mailing money or fungible goods such as metal and diamonds is one of the most insane things you can do.

ETA: op I'm sorry this happened to you. H doesn't deserve you.

I'd honestly just give it back. Wouldn't want to deal with the mess and making sure to hold onto old texts or whatever just in case he might come back and say he didnt tell you it was a gift. Not worth the cloud looming over head in my opinion.

Sell it and take a trip!

Keep it and use towards a different jewelry item!

Listen to @Kirackle.

Talk to a lawyer in your state.

If he broke it off in a bad way and he said keep the ring. Keep the ring. Don't sell it and give him half the money or give it back to him. Eff that shit. Take the advice and make sure you get that in writing just in case he becomes vindicative after. Do what ever you want with the ring. It's your ring. I would see if maybe selling the stone separately from the setting might get you more cash.