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Dedicated May 2012

engagement presents?

robin, on September 7, 2011 at 12:29 AM

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My FH and i got engaged on March 18th. The only engagement presents we have received are from my mom and MOH and a cousin of my took us out to dinner when she was in town. I have not registered anywhere yet, since we live so far from most of our family and friends we are not having an engagement...

My FH and i got engaged on March 18th. The only engagement presents we have received are from my mom and MOH and a cousin of my took us out to dinner when she was in town. I have not registered anywhere yet, since we live so far from most of our family and friends we are not having an engagement party. Do you ladies think it is weird we haven't gotten any presents?

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  • NJ Bride
    VIP September 2011
    NJ Bride ·
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    We only received engagement presents from our engagement party. Other gifts toward "us" were given on holidays.

    All I know is that I somehow got 3 ring holders... fortunately I was able to return two of them, but I don't even use the one I have. I'm just not that type of girl. Smiley smile

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  • theragirl
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    theragirl ·
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    Didn't receive any either but didn't expect to either =)

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  • Celia Milton
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    Doesn't usually happen; really, there will be a shower and a wedding; let's not get greedy, lol!

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  • November
    Expert November 2012
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    I never expected to get presents. I second what Celia said.

    Some folks in places that are NOT America even consider the shower to just be another excuse to get more gifts, and not actually a tradition with any value. I'll admit, I see the point.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
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    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    We didn't get presents either, but then again, we are two old farts and it is not our first wedding. We also didn't have an engagement party. We did get a lot of cards.

    In our culture(IA), engagement parties are par for the course. You usually get gifts, not cash, at an E party. My daughter resides in Windermere, FL and her future in laws are throwing her and FH an engagement party when all of their family will be in Florida in a few weeks. Invitations were sent to her family up here and yes, most of the family sent gifts. I bought them toasting flutes and cake server set(Lenox True Love pattern) and my mother bought them the matching frame. I don't know what the ex's family will buy them. So, for us, it is not greed, it is another chance to eat, drink and celebrate. The presents are not usually pricey.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    We didn't get presents either, but then again, we are two old farts and it is not our first wedding. We also didn't have an engagement party. We did get a lot of cards.

    In our culture(IA), engagement parties are par for the course. You usually get gifts, not cash, at an E party. My daughter resides in Windermere, FL and her future in laws are throwing her and FH an engagement party when all of their family will be in Florida in a few weeks. Invitations were sent to her family up here and yes, most of the family sent gifts. I bought them toasting flutes and cake server set(Lenox True Love pattern) and my mother bought them the matching frame. I don't know what the ex's family will buy them. So, for us, it is not greed, it is another chance to eat, drink and celebrate. The presents are not usually pricey.

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  • robin
    Dedicated May 2012
    robin ·
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    I want to start of by saying I am not being greedy, if you read my 2nd post it stated that this was a disagreement between my mother and me so i wanted others thoughts on who was correct. Someone asked if I had or was going to have and engagement party, I had stated I will not. I also will not be having a bridal shower.

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  • November
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    November ·
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    You have a whole gaggle of brides on your side of the disagreement.

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    Charlotte ·
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    You should never expect gifts from guests on your engagement........often guests have to pay for booking, travelling, and of course wedding gift......and members of your bridal party will pay for their dresses also......and parent of course usually pay some money for your special day...

    its really great from the side of your mom, MOH and cousin to gave you dinner.......don’t expect more....

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  • November
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    Charlotte, I think she was having a disagreement with her mother, in which her mother was the one saying there should be engagement gifts, and Robin B. disagreed with her, saying that there shouldn't.

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  • Summer
    Devoted October 2011
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    We got one gift and a couple cards at our engagement party, but we were not expecting any. If you think about it, people will be giving you gifts for your shower and at your wedding, so there really is no need to give you gifts for getting engaged as well.

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  • Angela
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    Angela ·
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    You get gifts???? This is new to me. Our engagement party isn't until the 17th, and I'm not expecting any gifts. But if people would like to give them I'm not going to say no Smiley smile

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  • b
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    The only things we recieved were well wishes, but that's what we expected. It's not necessarily part of our culture to have a big engagement party with lots of presents but I do know in some cultures it is expected.

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  • Meghan
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    Meghan ·
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    We did have an engagement party, and got zero presents. That's not the point. People get you one gift for the event- either engagement, bridal shower or the wedding. You don't get gifts for all 3.

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    Just Said Yes July 2012
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    Hi.., Recently my engagement had taken place. He presented me a gold necklace. It looks very awesome.

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    Just Said Yes August 2012
    donald ·
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    Engagement gifts are usually unexpected, most couples are grateful receiving them whether at their engagement party or even just during a usual day.

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