Engagement Party Disaster!

I thought that nick would call FH a few days after and explain or say he was sry or something. My MOH was even upset that they didnt text or call her to say sry. I dont want her at my wedding, i cant even imagine how that would end up with an open bar. I know nick is really important to FH and he said he wants nick to still be invited but def not her. I just dont know how to handle this situation. Im still upset b/c i cant even begin to understand why a woman would do this to someone else. I mean, she saw that she was upsetting me, nick even took her aside to tell her to stop and she continued. Am i wrong for being so upset.

You are not wrong for being upset, that is absurd. What a selfish and jealous woman, that’s honestly all it is. This day is about you and FH and everyone should be on their best behavior, especially a woman who was graciously invited and that you’ve never met. She either owes you one heartfelt apology or I would tell her she’s not allowed at the wedding.

Nope, you're not wrong to feel upset. I would just simply send the invite to Nick with no plus one. If she questions it you say.."well, you're a bitch" end of story.

If she's that much of a wench, even if you do ONLY invite Nick, his wife probably won't let him go. Sticky situation. I'm sorry. Hopefully he sees her for what she is and divorces her before your wedding?

Oh my god what is wrong with her?!?!

no- you are definitely NOT wrong for being upset.. that is crazy.

So sorry that happened to you..

no real advice.. its awkward to invite just your FH friend and not his wife.. but she definitely needs to apologize.

Wow what a crazy woman! She def does not need to be invited to your wedding. You should be surrounded by people who genuinely love you and care about your marriage. Just be prepared for the possibility that Nick may decline if she is not invited

One...she's rude! Don't even worry about her!

Two! Are you talking USC as in South Carolina?! That's where I went!!...and we are almost date twins!

This sounds personal. If she was rude from the onset, it's not all about liquor. Gotta ask -- did FH ever date this woman (or her sister, or her friend)? I'm not sure I'd invite this couple to the wedding. If Nick can't get her to shut her mouth, who can? It's not something you should have to worry about on your wedding day.

Did FH know her? Cause it sounds like she's jealous.

I'm agreeing with everyone else - she's jealous. Of what, who knows. But for someone to come and act like that, as a guest, not to mention the wife of the groom's very good and longtime friend - is uncalled for.

Maybe they had outside issues, or fought on the way over, or SOMETHING - but that's still no excuse for her behavior.

I'm sorry she left an ugly mark on such a nice event in your life!

What a CRAZY BIOTCH. I feel like Nick will understand if you tell him- "You are invited, but leave crazy at home"

Oh my. What a b! That's horrible.

This is definitely a time that a plus one even if it's the wife should be left off.

So horrible. I was thinking the same thing as far it being personal and her being jealous.

Also, it is definitely a touchy situation inviting Nick and not his wife. You still have a ways to go before you finalize your list. Hopefully she will apologize and everything will smooth over.

ETA: Fixed typo.

Should have socked her. That would have gotten the message across.

Gasp! You were very classy, I think after the second or third nasty comment, she would have been asked to leave. Or I would have sent my MOH to take care of her.

I would have your FH talk to Nick and explain the situation. He needs to explain she is not invited and why she isn't invited. No one she get away with that behavior, WTH?

You handled that SO much better than I would have. I would have thrown her out and made it very clear that she is NOT coming to my wedding. She can keep her apology and her distance.

I had a family friend whom I have known since his mom was pregnant with him (about 35 years or so ago). His sister was even a bridesmaid. But about 3 years or so ago he took up with this woman who loves to fight and when she gets drunk she is really crazy. She has since started taking medication and not drinking so much over the past few months. I asked around to those mutual people we are close to and decided not to invite her but to invite him. I figured it was our wedding day and I wanted no chance of anything marring it if it could be helped. Happiness and sunshine all the way. Even though the friend begged me to let her come I just couldn't. He eventually declined the invitation the night before the wedding which was ok with me. I would have rather have him not show then to bring her and have the night ruined. So I say to you, don't feel so bad about not wanting to invite her. Her behavior caused that and she has responsibility for that not you. con't

Extend the invitation to FH's friend letting him know she is not welcomed to attend based on her behavior (though I wouldn't even want him to come if he couldn't apologize for her outrageious behavior). That way if he shows, FH will have a friend he wanted at his wedding there, but if he doesn't you'll know it's not because he was forbidden to come but because it was a choice.

Wow, what an awful wench. you have every right not to invite her, and i think you should tell her exactly why you didn't! the jealous bee-otch.