Engagement a little rocky at times.

I find that sometimes I get angry at my FH because I get stressed out very easily with the wedding planning. He doesn't seem to care sometimes so I definitely take it out on him when he ignores me or I just can't seem to get something done myself. Other than that we're perfectly fine. We've started going out on monthly dates since moving in together just to keep it interesting.

Totally normal! Wedding planning puts stress on your relationship, and living together for the first time puts a HUGE stress on your relationship.

Hubby and I almost never fought before the wedding, but after the wedding (we never lived together beforehand), we've definitely had more fights. Fighting is normal- just make sure neither of you becomes disrespectful of the other during the fights. That would be something to worry about.

Girl, let me be the first to agree with the old words of "the first couple of years are hard." I have been with my hubby for 3 years. When we got together, we never fought. We never had any cross words really. Once we got married and moved in together, we started fighting and having negative feelings towards each other. We are working things out, but after y'all adjust to living and being around each other all the time, things will calm down. I notice that hubby and I fight more when we are around each other all day. We do better when one/both work. If I go to school or go to work, and he stays home (or visa versa), things are easier. Sounds like y'all just need some time throughout the day apart. Atleast for a few hours. It helps. I promise. Hit the gym or something! Good luck.

He had the balls to say I think about the wedding too much! I freaked and said well I have to think about it for both of us since you dont care! I spent 2 hours on the phone with caterers, and only asked him to look at a printout menu for 2 mins! Ughhhhghghghghhh

lol, anyway! other than that we have been ok-ish...I dont mind him not doing any of the planning and not helping much, but DONT tell me I am thinking about it too much! its exciting and I can think about it all I damn well please

FH and I began living together this past June we began to have silly disputes when he first moved in. I think it was bc we were both adjusting to our new living situation and that's not as easy as it seems. Now we're doing just fine. I asked him what does he think will change once married. He replied" That's the problem with people they think things are suppose to change. If we both continue to do what were doing now to keep eachother happy then we'll be just fine" I was actually shcoked by his answer. No relationship is perfect but be patient and be willing to work it out.

Just a note, conflict is normal and healthy, so not having conflict for almost 5 years, of course things are going to come to the surface! I think living together can also raise more conflicts then being able to have separate spaces. Not that I know from experience, because FH and I still live apart.

You are not alone and as long as you and FH stay on the same page and continue to work on your relationship, you will get through it together. I think there is a misconception that everything is supposed to be rosey and romantic while you're engaged and during the 'honeymoon phase'. Being engaged doesn't mean life stops, and with life comes problems.

Aw! We're the same way. Our sex life even took a plunge after we got engaged. I thought it would be an 18-month boinkfest. Pshah!

I think any change = stress, even when it's a positive change like an engagement. IMO planning a wedding has been fun but it's opened us up to TONS of opinions, pressure and involvement from our families and friends. And it's the first major project we've tackled together. We've learned a lot about each other, but it's a lot to deal with.

Plus- OMG you guys just moved in together. That was a HUGE adjustment for us! Once we shared a bathroom, a laundry basket, a fridge and monthly bills, things got very real very fast! It's great and we're closer than ever. It's just another big change.

For us I know it helps to have "no-wedding-zone" date nights or periods of time. Sometimes we just need a break from the hoopla. Also- we're starting our premarital counseling and that's helped too.

Don't stress!

Thank you, everyone. I lived alone a very loooong time before I moved in with him, and he also has a twelve year-old daugher. There has been a lot to get used to! I know it will get better, but it really helps to know others have had the same issues and made it through-and maybe even improved your relationship in the process.

We don't actually spend a lot of time discussing the wedding. Unfortunately, because of our jobs, we don't get to spend a lot of time together at all and even less time with just the two of us. I know that isn't helping things either, but we really can't do anything about our work circumstances. We will be doing a little premarital counseling through our church in a couple of months, and I actually am looking forward to that.

When you move in and have to share space for the first time, you are likely to bump into each other - literally and figuratively. Engagements also make things a lot more real. This isn't someone you're going to see a couple of times a week, this is someone you will share decisions with for LIFE. All of a sudden, you look harder at issues you used to barely notice, because before you were sharing space and contemplating the rest of your life, those things didn't matter.

This is what an engagement is for - to be sure you want to put a FOREVER stamp on your relationship. It's a good test to see whether you two can get through the tough spots together, or whether, in the long run, you would regret having made the commitment marriage requires.

OMG the first few weeks after FH moved in we almost didn't make it... The whole getting use to the other person and how they do things was really hard. Good news is him and I talk it out. The arguments are becoming less and less and we are getting use to the others moods now.

BTW - good luck!

Its completly normal to fight...getting adjusted to living together is a task in itself. FH and i fought over which way to string lights on the christmas tree today....i said top to bottom he did it bottom to top...when he couldnt plug it in, he knew i was right and apologized haha.