Engaged and planning a pregnancy

I'm not 35 but my fh is 30 and I'm 25 and I started trying to get pregnant 2 months b4 my wedding bc I wanna get pregnant asap, I have pcos and I hope I don't have trouble concieving. I don't wanna be huge for the wedding but 2 or 3 months is just fine for me.

I saw someone already say this, but you really don't want to be 4 months pregnant at your wedding. You won't be able to have a wedding gown that fits you because you are constantly changing size. And you are uncomfortable. And you have to pee all the time.

You also don't want to be 1 or 2 months pregnant and have morning (all day really) sickness at your wedding. It's miserable. I have a 1 year old and for me, being pregnant was the absolute worst. Maybe it won't be for you, but I wouldn't risk it.

I'll be 35 when we get married next year. We are going to wait to try to have kids. I know I'm getting older, but I'd really like to enjoy our wedding and honeymoon. I'd be paranoid of the stress of planning if I were pregnant, experiencing morning sickness, stuff like that. But do what's best for you! Is FH on board with starting early? You only have 6 months to wait, which doesn't seem like too much longer to wait.

I'm 35, never had kids before, and we're TTC literally ON the honeymoon. I also have bipolar and generalized anxiety, so I'm trying to wean off all of my dangerous-for-baby meds by the wedding. Um, wish me luck, I guess?

I'm actually terrified.

Ok I'm a much older bride and not having more kids but I would wait til after the wedding...I have 4 kids and 3 pregnancies and the first 4 months is not fun. You are exhausted feel sick cranky and don't want to eat, you would have a hard time enjoying the wedding process of course there are always exceptions

Mine came with my engagement ring so I already know what it looks like (I put my promise ring in my engagement ring box and saw it in there) but I didn't know it was "normal" to pick it out with your FH. I always thought that you picked out each other rings and they were a surprise. Hmm.

I'm 33 and we are planning on getting pregnant as soon as possible but I really was dead set on trying AFTER the wedding. I just wanted to enjoy my day. The baby fever has been rough sometimes but I just keep reminding myself on why i think it's important to be married first.

I'll be a few days shy of 32 when we get married and will start TTC on the honeymoon. I've already gone off birth control, so we're hoping it'll happen fast. We both can't wait to be pregnant but I'd prefer not to be on our day.

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@Taraneh: Are you kidding me?

At 16 weeks, a baby is only the size of an avocado, and most first time pregnant women are *barely* showing if at all. Certainly not enough to impact a dress, UNLESS it is bloat, which is possible.

Most first time moms "pop" out somewhere between the 20-24 week mark. I didn't with DS until about a month before he was born at 28 weeks. Mothers who have had previous pregnancies tend to show earlier, but at 4 months? It's highly unlikely she will not be able to wear her dress.

Op, if you guys are ready to TTC, please don't let other people attempt to tell you what you should or should not do with your uterus. As someone who has seen firsthand how painful it is to think that getting pregnant will be easy and have it turn into a medical production. If you are okay with being pregnant at your wedding and everything that includes (which, in the process of choosing when to TTC, I'm SURE you have considered,) then go for it. Nobody but YOU can decide when is the right time to start your family together.

Hi. OP here. I just wrote a long response and then it disappeared. D'oh. Anyway thank you for all of your thoughts. Yes ultimately we will do what is best for us. I do not care about showing or having a drink on my wedding, I don't really drink anyway. Being a mom is more important to me than other factors. I have a lot of friends and friends of friends who TTC over age 35 and it can take 6 months to a year or longer. And seeing those with difficulties getting pregnant, makes me want to start sooner. FH is on board to start trying in January. Thanks for sharing all of your own experiences. I wish everyone who is trying or trying soon, good luck with TTC.

I'll be 35 in January; this is a conversation DH and I have had multiple times. We decided to wait until after we get back from the honeymoon to talk to my doctor (I have endometriosis, which may or may not impact my ability to conceive).

Ultimately, the decision on timing is 100% yours and FH, Julia. Good luck with all your planning! :-)

I'll be 29 when we get married, and we'll be TTC later that fall. I'm charting my BBT and reading up on baby-making (what to expect before you're expecting, etc). I plan to drink, heavily, on my wedding day and honeymoon. Plus, my side of the family is fairly religious and I would get some side eyes if I got myself knocked up before marriage.

So, maybe think pretty hard on whether or not you want to actually be pregnant at your wedding. As PP have said, even if you have an "easy" first trimester, it's still exhausting creating a life inside of you. And if you are blessed with morning (aka all day) sickness, you don't want to be dry heaving down the aisle. Ultimately up to you though. Good luck! Eta just saw your reply. If those aren't factors for you, then I see no reason why you couldn't start trying