Engaged and planning a pregnancy

I'm currently 33, and we don't want to wait too long to start TTC, however we are waiting until after the wedding. We're also waiting extra after the wedding as we are planning a trip to Jamaica and want to make sure we follow all possible Zika related recommendations.

Not only are we "getting older" but I also have some medical issues that may make TTC more difficult, and definitely high risk. This winter I plan to start a plan with my OBGYN to make sure it's the safest plan possible.

I wouldn't start TTC until after your wedding. First there is a chance you will get pregnant right away and I don't think you want to be 4 months pregnant at your wedding. Second, it is two stressful things going on at once. At the earliest I would say start trying 2 months before the wedding.

35 isn't old you still have time

I'll be 31 by the time we get married. We're waiting until after the wedding, but we probably will try for kids shortly after.

I'm 36, but will definitely wait until after our wedding. I don't want to be pregnant and feeling gross on my wedding day.

I was 33 when we got married and we decided to wait until we had been married a year to try. I am now 35 as I turned 34 a week after the big day and we are starting to try. Timing is a personal choice. Do what works for you.

Are you okay with being visibly pregnant at your wedding? If not I'd wait until February at the earliest. I know you are concerned about your age but a few months is no biggie.

I'm 21 so I'm not quite in your boat, but kinda. Every single woman in my family has had a hysterectomy before the age of 30 (my mom when she was 29) due to potentially cancerous cysts and fibroids. There is a chance it wont happen to me, but it probably will. I want at least 2 kids with 2 years in between them. I have definately considered TTC the January before our wedding to up our odds of having a baby sooner. But, I decided I want to enjoy one last vacation (honeymoon) with FH before being blessed with a child. I know it's not exactly the same situation and I hope you don't take offense to my comment, but I hope that helps!

I would wait until two to three months before earliest unless you're ok not drinking at your wedding and showing

It's you and your FH's lives and you should do what you feel is best for you guys! I think it might be a good idea to wait until after the wedding. Enjoy the party (with a few cocktails) and have fun! You'll have plenty of time TTC on your honeymoon!

Do what is best for you and FH. I am 32 and and FH is going to be 30 when we get married and we are gonna start trying after the wedding or a month or 2 before. Good luck!

I was 5 months pregnant at my wedding and I must say it was great! I had all the energy in the world. The biggest challenge is say was ensuring that I was eating b/c everyone is talking to you and wanting to dance with you... but all in all I found being pregnant at my wedding was the best thing I could have done.. mainly (in my opinion) because I wasn't worried all night about who had my baby or that it was too loud in the reception.

I am 37 and while we aren't trying we aren't not trying! . Ideally it would be great to not be pregnant at my wedding (which is a month away at this point), but honestly my age and my old eggs are more of a concern for me at this point! After the wedding we will be officially ttc.

I'm 36 and we got married in Sep and started trying in Jun. I didn't want to be terribly pregnant for the wedding or we would have started immediately after we got engaged. We really had a long discussion on what was more important; starting a family right away or not worrying about being sick/being able to drink at the wedding. We decided that having kids (and a kid free honeymoon) were a priority and that's why we started trying a few months before the wedding. Still waiting on that positive sign...

I'm 33 and we have been try for over 2.5 years now. If it's what's right for you, go for it. You never know what obstacles you may end up facing.

I agree with MNA, you just never know. If you get lucky and conceive right away you'd only be 4 months. That's early enough for you to enjoy a wedding, of course all pregnancies are different. I am getting my mirena removed a week after the wedding. I considered doing it before to start TTC now, but I really, really didn't want to risk a period on my wedding night. Good thoughts and baby juju to all ladies TTC!!

I'm newly 30. Will be 31 next year. FH and are 7 years apart. He's younger. Because we live in a different country, it is not desirable for us to try to conceive until we're living together. I graduate in late 2018 from grad school. Once I graduate FH will begin the process for the spousal sponsorship application. Once I am officially living there in Canada (the day I arrive basically) we will start to ttc. So within 3-4 years hopefully. We also hope for twins. I have a lot of issues in my reproductive area so we don't know how long it would take for us to conceive but essentially once we have a couple babies either 2 to 3 kids I will get a hysterectomy. It's not safe for me to try to conceive when I'm older as we were originally planned, after speaking with the doctor recently this is what our new plan is.

I would wait, Julia-- I have been pregnant twice, and while both pregnancies were smooth and easy, there is no getting by the absolute exhaustion that is typical of the first trimester-- I used to fall asleep on my office floor! I can't imagine to muster the energy to plan or socialize when all I wanted to do is sleep. Also, if you are a drinker, you probably want to refrain while you are TTC or actually pregnant, and that could put a major damper on the wedding celebration for most people.

We had our son at 33...we're 35 now and want another soon but want to wait until after our wedding, our trip to Jamaica in Jan, and a little longer just to enjoy married life a little more before being pregnant again. I'd say wait but you guys will know what you want to do. Remember you're the most tired and sick, if that happens...in the first 3 months.

We have a 1.5 year old and want a sibling for him before he gets too old. We are probably going to start TTC around April so that if I get pregnant I wont be huge by the time our June wedding comes around!

I'm 34. We started 2 months before our wedding. It has been about 7 months and nothing has happened yet. At this point I wish we would have started sooner.