End of May brides...

Where are you having your wedding? Most places have said you can’t have an event with more than 10 people. As difficult as it is to postpone you should think about the health of your family and friends who are coming, it just doesn’t seem worth the risk.

View Quoted Comment I’m in Oklahoma. As of now, restrictions lift in a month so before May even starts. But it could of course change.
And I know, it’s been on my mind, it’s just so hard 😞. I definitely don’t want anyone sick on my watch.

We have (had) a May 16, 2020 wedding. Made the decision to postpone to October 2020 earlier this week. Things do not seem likely to sufficiently improve by May, additionally I am sure many of our guests were hesitant to RSVP given the state of things.

We are planning to still have our wedding May 24 in Missouri unless things progress. Good Luck ❤️

View Quoted Comment Good luck to you as well💕

Hi Dacia,

We had the same date! My fiancé and I made the tough decision to postpone to July earlier this week. We are in WNY and NY has the highest amount of cases right now - although that's in NYC which is 7 hours from us, but still I just don't see things being completely back to normal by then. They are saying we are still weeks away from hitting the peak of this. I was so sad to postpone, but at the same time, I had a weight lifted off my shoulders as soon as I did it. I didn't want to send my invites out and then have to postpone afterwards.

July is not that much further out and I'm honestly just praying that by then things will be back to normal but i'm hearing all different things on the news. Ugh. Thinking of you during this difficult time!

View Quoted Comment It was really hard for us to decide to postpone too, it was really devastating! But at the end of the day their health comes first. I’m so sorry you’re going through this!

We had the same date too and we just decided to change it to late October 2020. It was so sad at the beginning but now I’m happy we made that decision, I’m not stressing out anymore and gives us more time to plan. Having a big wedding has always been my dream and I want to enjoy that day to the max along with all my family and friends without having to think about the virus. Best advise to you is to think of all the positive things and know that things could have played out way worse, best of wishes to you

Ours is May 9th. We spoke to our venue and if the bans aren't lifted then we can either postpone or get our money back. We plan on getting our money back, having a small ceremony & reception on May 9th , then having a larger reception at the end of the summer with everyone. We gotta do what's best for everyone's safety. I was in denial, but realized that COVID19 isnt getting any better.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry you are too!

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry you had to go through that!
We sent out invites already and we’re already getting rsvps back. Maybe that’s why it’s so much harder, so much is already set. July is our back up plan as well or the beginning of August.

Not sure where you are located but here in NYC, venues are not having events till end of May and that may change depending on how circumstances are. My April 9th wedding got rescheduled to July 30th! Wish you all the best with everything! These are sad times!

View Quoted Comment We’re in Oklahoma. Our governor is taking baby steps with it all and all restrictions are up by Easter unless things get worse so it’s just confusing and hard. I’m sorry you had to reschedule! Best of luck to you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Wishing you all the best as well.

My wedding is planned for May29th. It's very intimate with only 15 people sl planning to go forward at this point. Since it's such a small guest list we womt decide on postponing until 2 weeks prior.

Hi Dacia! My heart goes out to you in this crazy time of stress and uncertainty!

We've started gathering helpful resources in our COVID-19 Wedding Support Central, and you can connect with other brides facing the same tough questions in these discussions:

May 16 brides---what Next Due to Coronavirus?

May brides and your plan of action?

As of right now, we are still planning on our wedding to be May 30th. We're also from Missouri and with the current stay at home orders and when they were enacted should mitigate a lot of the spread so that by the end of May we ought to be pretty close to normal. Additionally, with the projected peak coming in mid-April, rather than later the CDC's 50 people or less guidelines will probably not be extended. If we aren't able to have our wedding as originally planned, we will get married and then have our wedding at a later date...probably on the same day if we can.

I agree that it's hard to know when the "it will be better point will begin," especially with all of the negatives being spread. Take into account your locality and any local restrictions there may be. Also, keep in mind that while the total cases in your state may be high, as long as they are not rising rapidly (think dramatic increases in tens - hundreds, locality specific), then your going to be a lot better off in the long run.