Eloping... but "wedding" later ??

If you are planning on a party/vow renewal/celebration of marriage, why wouldn't you wait to get married? What is the benefit of getting married several months (I'm guessing 4-6) prior? Why not just have it all at one time?

My husband and I eloped March 2017 and got married at SF City Hall and are currently planning our church wedding for January 2019. I am so glad we eloped first it is making wedding planning so much more fun. We really just wanted to be married but weren't ready to spend the money on a wedding yet. We had so many other priorities before that.

People always ask why we are getting married again and sometimes give us funny looks. But honestly, I really don't care what others think. You get to design your life however you want. So if I want to marry my best friend twice, then I will! Most people are supportive and think it's great that they get to celebrate with us this time around. So I say elope! And plan your party later, it's been so much fun with way less pressure.

Eloping is a real wedding.

View Quoted Comment So that I can have sex with him. Lol. No but really. We agreed to not have be intimate until we are married. We are both pretty involved in our church and believe in what God says about marriage. We have three children together (teenage pregnancies) so we are trying to do things the RIGHT way to truly become blessed.

We are doing this and I'm very happy with our decision! He is active duty military and getting deployed soon so the reason we got married early was so that we could be together before his deployment and obviously because we wanted to be married anyway. We are having our big ceremony when he gets back from deployment next year!

View Quoted Comment Thats great. Do you have anything else to add to my post?

View Quoted Comment Ohhhh this is such good insight!! THANK YOU!

View Quoted Comment Awww! Congrats! That makes perfect sense! ♥️

Be honest with your guests that you’re already married.

View Quoted Comment Ya that's what we were planning to put on the invitation... something similar to the ones I posted.

My FBIL eloped with his wife a few months ago. FH and I are the only ones who know. They're having their wedding in April, on the same day they eloped so they'll have the same anniversary. It allowed then enough time to do everything they wanted, but still be married at the time they wanted to be.

Awww!! That's perfect! Are they telling their guests that their already married? And pretty specific question.. do they read the same vows?

View Quoted Comment I guess I didn't hit reply 🤷🏽‍♀️ Please read below

We are getting married (tried eloping but friends are coming too lol) in vegas next week (omg next week?!?!) and having a celebration in May of 2019

My husband and I eloped in 2016 and are planning a vow renewal/reception for next summer. It wasn’t how either of us pictured our wedding day lol but once we were there exchanging vows together, it was like the world stopped. It was just me and him without any stress or pressure, and it was amazing. I’m so glad that we did it this way! It takes a lot of the pressure off now that we’re planning the large reception and it gave us time to save up some money. We did get some snarky comments from people who think it’s pointless to have another wedding, friends and family included. Some people were also offended that we told so-and-so that we’re married before we told them. But as a previous post said - you get to design your life however you want!

View Quoted Comment As of now, they are not telling anyone. They don't want all their kids (5 between them) to feel like they were left out. They don't have great relationships with the rest of the families, just my FH and I, so we're the only ones that know for now.
I would imagine they're reading the same vows. Maybe not, they may want to keep the original ones just for themselves. I haven't really talked about that with them 😂

View Quoted Comment Omg! Yessss!!!! My parents got married in Vegas and then they divorced 8 months later soooo Vegas is off of my list 😂😂 BUT.. congrats to you! That's perfect and exactly what I want! ♥️

View Quoted Comment I can appreciate waiting to have sex, I just don't understand not waiting just a few more months, and then having one event. It's certainly your choice, I just don't understand.

View Quoted Comment Your comment is exactly what I want! I want to plan the reception without all of this pressure and money issues. I want to elope now and then when we are in a better position we can plan the shibang! 😉 Perfect response. Thanks for your input ♥️

View Quoted Comment Lol I gotcha ..