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Just Said Yes December 2020

Elopement, maybe?

Private User, on March 20, 2019 at 1:26 AM Posted in Planning 0 7

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We are heavily considering eloping, but I am struggling with how to involve family after the fact as I imagined that they would be there. I know that we can just throw a reception with everyone later, but I really would want to make it feel special like they were with us on that day. Any ideas for a fun twist on pre or post celebration with family to make me feel okay with them not being there? Fyi: family would be coming from multiple states/countries. Thank you in advance for the ideas.

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Latest activity by Private User, on December 26, 2019 at 5:18 AM

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Caytlyn · on March 20, 2019 at 7:29 AM
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I really don’t think there’s any way to make your family feel like they’re there to witness your ceremony when you choose to skip that part. Maybe you can hire a videographer and ask them to send you a highlight video to play at the reception?
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Sarah · on March 20, 2019 at 7:42 AM
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I feel like this is one of those “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” situations. There’s really no way to make family feel included/like they were there at the ceremony if they aren’t invited to the ceremony.

If you arent already ok with them not being there, why would you choose to elope?
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Alexandra · on March 20, 2019 at 8:43 AM
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What about having an elopement ceremony (or with just the few people or parents) and then have a regular reception later that day?
Why do you want to elope though if you still want to have the reception with everyone?
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Future Mrs. K · on March 20, 2019 at 8:52 AM
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I don't really see the point of eloping if you still want your family involved and still want to have a reception with everyone
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Clíodhna · on March 20, 2019 at 10:10 AM
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Welcome to the WeddingWire community and congratulations on your engagement
Before making your decision, it’s best to do research to ensure elopement is the right move for you and your future spouse. This article from the WeddingWire ideas section is super informative - So, You Want to Elope?
If only the two of you elope, it means your nuptials will be completely private - no family, no friends, and no guests. It would be very difficult to involve the family in the day if you choose to elope, especially as they are all in different states/countries. Of course, you can have your post celebration, however you sound like you’re really conflicted about not having your family there with you, is a party later on enough for you to feel comfortable with the fact that they won’t be there on the day?
Would you and your FS consider a small, intimate wedding? Do the pros of wanting to elope outweigh the cons (not having family there)?
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Clíodhna · on April 25, 2019 at 12:42 PM
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Hi there
Did you and your FS come to a decision on eloping?
Can we offer any further advice or guidance?
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Just Said Yes December 2020
Private User · on December 26, 2019 at 5:18 AM
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We did decide that we would like to elope and I could not be happier with that decision. My outlook has certainly changed in the last few months. Now the only question is what is the best way to go about celebrating with family in the U.S. after the fact. They all live in different states.
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