Elopement help

Yup, it’d be super rude to attach a “hey you weren’t important enough to witness our vows but we’d still love a gift from you” registry note with your elopement notices.


Once you have a reception set in stone and invites sent out for that, if anyone inquiries about a registry, then you (or your mom or MIL or MOH) can supply the info for that.

Yes, elopement usually means forgoing gifts. Some immediate family may still send you a monetary gift of some sort in celebration, but I would not include a registry link in the marriage announcement. Registry info doesn't even typically go on a wedding invitation.

Yes, it would be rude (this is coming from a military wife).

Yes, it would be very rude to send a registry with your elopement notices. However, if it makes you feel any better, it would also have been rude to send registry information in a wedding invitation if you had gone that route instead of eloping.

Send the “we eloped“ announcements alone. If someone wants to send you a gift after that, then they will.

I agree 100% with just sending out the announcements without a registry. If anyone is interested in sending a gift, they will reach out. We’re eloping and have been letting our families and friends know… some friends and a few family members have asked about sending gifts or hosting us over for a more private mini celebration and we were honestly surprised. I also agree with Vicky that it would have been a weird thing to do even if it were a normal invitation.

Yes, this would be very rude. You NEVER send registry info with invitations, let alone with an announcement that you are already married and they weren’t invited. Typically, eloping means forgoing gifts. There may be some family members that wish to send gifts after they receive your announcement. They would likely send money, but if they inquire about a registry you can then provide them that information. But, until somebody asks you for it, you do not mention a registry or gifts.

See I'm gonna be the oddball and disagree with everyone. If one of my friends were eloping due to military reasons and sent me a registry but planned on inviting me to the reception I wouldn't take offense AT ALL. I also know that if I did the same my family and friends wouldn't care they would simply be happy for us. But that's just my take on it.

Very rude.

Gift information should never be sent with any kind of invitation or announcement.

When you were a kid and had a birthday party, did you give your friends your birthday wish list along with the party invitation? No.

Anyone who wants to buy you something will ask you what you need/want.

I agree with most that it's rude. But the real point to all of this is that people who love you and are happy for you will want to give you a gift. Those people will either just send something or ask you where you are registered. If they ask, it's absolutely fine to tell them. So, why risk being perceived as rude by the majority when you will still get gifts anyway?