Dry Wedding

I would definitely consider another location seeing as how they have never done a wedding before. Not so sound dismal, but a company with no experience with weddings can be a recipe for disaster. Be open to this venue, but I would still explore other options with more wedding event experience.

I attended a dry wedding three years ago in Texas. I was the most popular man at the reception (aside from the bride and groom) because I had in my possession two flasks of high quality bourbon. The point of the story is this: if you choose to hold your reception at a dry venue, 1. do not be surprised if your guests still bring alcohol and 2. do your best to not get upset. A wedding without alcohol just sounds...boring. You know your friends better than anyone else, but I would definitely recommend looking at other venues unless you're already committed to the current place.

Because, bla2003, adults, for the most part, enjoy a glass of wine or a beer. They don't get sloppy drunk, they have a nice adult time.

If I was invited to a dry wedding, I'd be gone after an hour.

Bla2003 -the word you mean to use is "whine." Wine is the stuff that's not being served at a dry wedding.

I don't usually like to correct people's spelling but I couldn't resist the irony in this one.

Same thing happened to us, the venue only recently changed their status..

Someone got hit right outside the chapel and it was a previous wedding guest.

But we love the venue and the company, so were just going to deal with it.

I agree with Celia. This venue doesn't make sense for who you are as a couple. I've been to a few dry weddings, and they were all for less than 100 guests and in the early afternoon. They served flavored soda waters and lemonade. They were great, don't get me wrong...but I'm not sure that this fits your vision.

It's your wedding. If you and your FH want to have a dull reception, that's completely your choice. It will be dull though and a majority of your guests will be disappointed. Again, it's your wedding, so don't let anyone force you to have a fun party.

We had the chance to use a gorgeous venue for super-cheap because my FH is a county employee. I was excited until I found out there was no alcohol allowed.

If they are allowing you champagne then you are serving alcohol so I don't get their stance on this.

I wouldn't mind a dry wedding, I was a bridesmaid at one. It was mostly because the bride was 20. BUT if I knew you made your own alcohol, I would be very disappointed in a dry wedding because I would want to try some of your stuff.

My fh and I wanted a dry wedding because of the high number of over indulgers in our families. So we chose to do an earlier wedding, 11a ceremony followed by reception. We'll see how well that works for people not bringing their own.

It's not a "little snag", Hannah -- it's a complete game changer. And bla2003, I didn't have to read your second post to realize that you were having a dry wedding. What's that phrase from Hamlet? The lady doth protest too much, methinks? Say what you will to justify your choice (and then go on to criticize those guests who think a wedding and cocktails go together), but you will always be in the minority. You can't change human nature any more than Prohibition or the Temperance movement could.

People will come to your dry wedding, and they'll leave a lot earlier than they would if you had the normal refreshments expected at an adult party for 200 people -- namely some wine or alcohol. That doesn't make them alcoholics -- it makes them human. Even if they get a little too buzzed, those guests will still continue to show up at work and pay the bills -- long after your wedding is a memory. People spend most of their time stone cold sober, and a few drinks will go a long way in making them happy and in the mood to celebrate. They don't deserve to be judged for that, and it doesn't make them alcoholics who are counting down the days to a wedding -- their next free drunk. Alcohol/wine and parties have gone together for centuries. blah2003 can make speeches demeaning guests who think that spending five or six hours at a huge social event sipping soda or some cute mocktail is a little dull, but that won't change the fact that, statistically speaking, the majority of those guests will put in their time and leave. They will. I do weddings for a living. It's what happens -- like it or not.

It's up to you, OP, but I fail to see the sense in choosing a venue that doesn't offer something that is an important ingredient to a party simply because the venue emotionally resonates with one half of the couple who found solace at this location during a dark time of his/her life (oh, and if they're allowing champagne, they can allow alcohol. They just don't want to). Spend a week at this location by yourselves, but don't have your wedding there. Sure, nobody will tell you that they missed the alcohol. They'll tell each other.

Wow! Centerpiece Flowers nailed it so hard!

Jacqui76

Wow real mature of you. I was typing on my phone and it's a brand new phone and I'm not used to the keyboard and my autocorrect likes to make crazy changes. And sorry if my wedding will seem dull to you. Ur not going so I honestly don't give a crap what you think about my dry wedding. Well if anyone sneaks anything in it will be their own fault if they get kicked out. I guess I just have my priorities straight as far as a wedding goes. The MARRIAGE is the whole point. I swear to God people these days forget the purpose of weddings. Yes I'm having a formal wedding but at least I haven't forgotten the real reason why I'm getting married.

You have time to find other venues that hold significance - however if you and your FH are truly set on this I would first look into a temporary liquor license for the venue (maybe talk with the venue again to see why they may have said no in the first place). If they are truly set on no, then maybe look into different types of fun drink stations (sort of along the lines of what Spazzy was suggesting). Like a soda-float station, milkshake bar, fun soda flavour bar, coffee station, juice/smoothie bar etc.

Jeez I didn't intend to start a riot and no I'm not against alcohol so don't lump me in with the prohibition people. No need to get all bitchy with me. I was just stating an opinion. If people think my wedding is boring then whatever. My friends who drink are totally fine with dry wedding. As I said before my best friend who I go to my favorite bar with had dry wedding and it was still fun. Not everyone drinks... Get over it. I did let many of my guests know it was dry and they're fine with it. I know who my true friends are. Only one person got mad and I called him an alcoholic to his face.

I really don't give a crap what you think of me. I don't give a crap if you think my wedding is going to be boring... You're not gonna be there. You'll be behind your keyboards typing on forums.

I really don't give a crap what you think of me. I don't give a crap if you think my wedding is going to be boring... You're not gonna be there. You'll be behind your keyboards typing on forums.

Jeez I didn't realize my posts would start a riot

Slow clap for Centerpiece, as per usual.

Yes I drink but is there something wrong with those who don't? That's how a lot of you are acting. Yes I chose to have it in my church. Not because it has to be dry but I happen to like the reception hall there. It's spacious and they didn't charge me to use it since I'm already having my ceremony there.