Dry wedding but for religious purpose

My advice would be to do a consumption bar in a low traffic area. I wouldn't expect to be served alcohol at my pastors wedding, and if there was alcohol I would choose to drink less than I normally would. So chances are, a consumption bar would be pretty cheap to host.

I mean, you drink so it's obviously not against your moral compass.

So, you better provide some stuff for your guests.

My side of the family is Mennonite. My FH's family is split in the sense that his dad's side are big drinkers and his mom's side side-eye anyone who drinks more than beer or wine. I will still have an open bar. The guests that don't like it can drink soda, or the juice options. The ones that want beer or wine can have it, and the ones that want mixed drinks can have it. Will my Mennonite family be thrilled - no. But they are understanding that their life choices do not mean others must follow it.

So your FH doesn't drink and his fellow pastor's don't - so they don't need to drink. But you need to host your guests and provide them with an option. My guess is those that will drink at the wedding would be extra cautious to drink lightly because of respect for you and FH. And the other pastor's really shouldn't judge. As a former pastor myself, even Jesus hung out with drunks and he still loved them.

Girl, do what works for you. People should be coming to your wedding to celebrate you, not get turned up. Even an alcoholic can handle a few hours without liquor. If you're FH has made the request I think you should listen.

Can anyone explain to me WHY drinking is anti religious? So far, no one has been able to do that with any kind of factual backup.

And Leslie? The 'alcoholics'' thing is overused and usually fiction. If the OP realizes that good hosting requires at leas wine and beer, then OP's husband should listen.