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Dresses for wedding party problems

Mia and Brandon, on June 28, 2021 at 11:17 AM Posted in Planning 0 12

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So all the dresses are going to be different colors my outfit is going to be pink then the others going to be rest of the rainbow i want everyone to look their best so everyone is comfortable so choosing what colors fo who has been proven difficult sense I have friends with completely different skin tones and undertones so each has colors that look beautiful with there skin and some that doesn't let their beauty shine I also dont want to give people their least favorite color either and I haven't choose all 6 yet and im not able to choose dresses till I choose color for each because they all have different body types I do plan to have them the same shade of pastel same length and same material should I choose now and hope the rest look good with the other colors or wait until I picked everyone so I can make sure they are all can be comfortable so they can feel and look gorgeous

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Jessi · on June 28, 2021 at 11:24 AM
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I would wait to figure out party attire until you and your SO have found your attire, and after you have asked and confirmed who will be standing with you. It seems as though you have quite a while until your date, so I'd wait a little longer for this. Most people on here suggest waiting until under a year before your wedding to ask your wedding party.
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 11:43 AM
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Thanks for your input we are planning early because its going to be mostly diy iv only chosen my 4 closest friends so far two of which live states away so I wanted to make sure those two can be prepared for the wedding sense one has a toddler and pregnant and the other works alot and lives very far away I dont wanna put alot of stress on either because of this so I want them to have more time to prepare rather then being hit with a close deadline the other two one is my maid of honor and they are close friends so it would be awkward to give one a title and not the other
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Hannah · on June 28, 2021 at 11:45 AM
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I would wait until at most a year out before you even choose who will be in your bridal party. If I remember correctly, you only recently began wedding planning. Right now, I would focus on establishing your budget and researching and hiring your major vendors (venue 1st and foremost, caterer, photographer, DJ, etc.). Attire and decor should be dealt with further down the line--about a year out. Wedding Wire and The Knot have tons of great planning tools, including timelines to help you prioritize and organize!
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 11:59 AM
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We've been planning a while now but here and there because we was going to have the wedding in 4 or 5 years but we want older family to be able to come and my mom to be able to walk me down the isle if you look through the comments you'll see why I decided to choose wedding party early
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Jessi · on June 28, 2021 at 12:00 PM
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I asked my bridal party close to 2 years, so I totally get it. Still, I just found my dress and will not be contacting them about dresses they will wear until January of next year for my October 2022 wedding. Like Hannah said, it looks like you just started planning and I totally get being super excited to start! But, try to do your best to at least do things in order so they don't fall apart later on.
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 12:12 PM
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Iv been planning a while now at least a year I only recently got this app so I can put it all in one place rather then different files devices and books I also am doing more than just the fun stuff most of the stuff I planning so far is the difficult stuff I'm just sprinkling in the fun here and there I wanted to figure out colors so I could have months to look for a few dress options each to make sure they are comfortable with it
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Jm Sunshine · on June 28, 2021 at 12:53 PM
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I understand why you chose to ask your wedding party early, but if you look at many posts on here, relationships change and so do people and their circumstances. What if someone in your party was 8-9 months pregnant, lost their job, had other family obligations by then? There is a lot of regret on this site with asking too early.

As far as dresses for the party, as PPs have said: Your BMs are not props. They are their to support you and FH not to be used as propaganda. Your rainbow theme can be used anywhere and everywhere else but not forced on your BMs as well. You could easily incorporate rainbow colors in their bouquets instead.
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Jessi · on June 28, 2021 at 1:13 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having your BM wear rainbow colors, as long as you're actually choosing people close to you, which you said you are. To me, that's no different than people picking one dress for everyone to wear. As long as you treat your BMs as people and not as the "cast" of your wedding, and they're aware of your vision, then you're fine.
As far as your original question, don't ask anyone to be in your wedding party that you don't actually want. There's nothing wrong with not including siblings if you don't want them included.
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Vicky · on June 28, 2021 at 1:17 PM
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It's too early to choose bridesmaids for a wedding in 2023, let alone specific colors for each person and specific dresses.
Here's the problem with having a rainbow dress aesthetic - what are you going to do if one of your bridesmaids (colors) has to drop out of your wedding?
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 1:24 PM
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Thank and I would never treat my grooms maids like anything besides the queens they are which is why its so important to me for them to wear something that shows their beauty most of my grooms maids have confidence issues and I want them to feel as gorgeous as they look at all times and especially for my wedding so they feel more comfortable about pictures and so when I give them the pictures they love how they look and gain more confidence
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 1:32 PM
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I will have back up plans incase anything happens and will have open communication with everyone so if someone needs help or is unable we can figure out a solution and how are rainbows propaganda and how is me choosing rainbow dresses for my grooms maids different from anyone else choosing brides maids dresses its literally the same thing
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Mia and Brandon · on June 28, 2021 at 1:38 PM
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I plan to have open communication with anyone so if someone feels they need to drop out we will figure something out and have back up plans in case anything happens one of the good things about planning early is having plan's incase anything happens and having time and choosing dresses itself plus making my outfit template and other planning will take around a year itself by the time the dresses can be chosen it would be a year before the wedding
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