Samantha
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Dress Doubts are Scary, Help

Samantha, on November 3, 2021 at 12:51 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 15
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This is my dress. I had no hesitation when I bought it a month ago. I haven't even looked at other dresses since then. It's so beautiful and comfortable. The funny thing is, I went to this boutique to buy my Maggie Sottero Tristyn dream dress. It looks like this:Dress Doubts are Scary, Help 2
My problem is even though I'm in love with the Tristyn.. I wanted the other dress more. Like I said, I didn't even hesitate. Now I'm having doubts about my dress and I'm freaking out. There's no exchanges and Tristyn is double my budget so it's really not very possible. I've been in love with Tristyn for a year before I even tried it on. I didn't love it enough to buy it, I remind myself, but doubts are doubts. I think it's just in my head and I can't get it out even if it's not my dress.


I think what I love is the *edge* of the dress, the shocking black, the perfect way it suits me (unusual and a fantasy lover) and my wedding theme (rustic fall with a touch of Halloween).
Any advice for me? Or any ideas on how to take my dress that I already bought... and bring the *edge* to it? Maybe if I bring my theme into that dress it'll feel perfect again.. I can't be the only one who has had dress doubts!

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Latest activity by Cece, on December 8, 2021 at 1:16 PM
  • CountryBride
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    CountryBride ·
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    I feel like your dress is the Tristan dress you are glowing in that dress, while I like the black dress as well you can tell your not as happy, I have dress doubt myself I ordered one while I was pregnant last November, I, unfortunately, had a stillborn, and the dress would never fit me. I bought it as-is on sale and bought it a little too small. So in March, I bought another dress and I love it but I didn't feel bridal enough, so in May I ended up with a ball gown, now I have 2 dresses one for the ceremony and one for the reception, my reception dress makes me feel sexy, my ceremony dress makes me feel bridal, I had a very high budget of 5000 and I met that budget, maybe you can take the Tristan dress and add black to the veil

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  • Lisa
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    Your dress is beautiful!! If you wanted the black details, I would check with a seamstress to see if they can remove some of the lace details from your dress, dye them black, and then sew them back on?
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    Willow ·
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    Try adding a wide, lacy black belt and seeing if a seamstress can alter the dress to a strapless, or maybe strapless with lacy black off the shoulder
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    Have you tried a black belt or black veil? If you don’t like the way that looks, you could also add some edge with your accessories or wear dark edgy make up. A black biker jacket or boots would look really cool and edgy also, even if just for the reception portion of the evening. You could also do a dark Gothic inspired bouquet with a black birdcage veil. Paint your nails black…. The possibilities are endless!
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  • Melinda
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    I agree with the PP about adding a black belt! Etsy has some inexpensive beautiful ones like this:

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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    A White veil with black lace would look cool also! Or, you could have your seamstress add black lining to your dress.
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  • Samantha
    Expert August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I came here to agree with all the black lace veil suggestions 😍😍 I personally LOVE the dress you bought and think a black lace veil would be amazing with it, and get you the compromise you're wanting!

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  • Laura
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    Ok both dresses are beautiful, but I think it's common tp have an idea of what you want, but when you 6pt them on a different one calla your name. Happened to me as well, found what I thought was the dress, but I put another on and just saw myself getting married in the other dress. I keep thinking about the other which was also pricier, but I know the inve I chose is the dress. Perhaps you can find a way to add some extra magic with the veil or other accessories. No reason you can't rock some super dramatic shoes and jewelry as well. You'll make a beautiful bride either way.
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  • Rosie
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    Rosie ·
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    honestly I love the dress you picked. That soft colour is so beautiful on you! I agree that adding some black accessories might give you that edge you were looking for, if you really feel like it is missing from the dress you bought.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    Yes! We decided to add black tulle under the layers and give it a smoky effect. I love the veil but because the dress is 3d flowers, I've been trying to find a veil that could be black and 3d flowers or champagne with black 3d flowers. I can't find it anywhere
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    What a fun choice! I think the dress will look lovely with a black lining 🖤 I hope you share pictures with us When it’s done!
    As far as the veil, I found this one on Etsy:
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    Your best bet might be to have a veil made though. Most seamstresses can make them very quickly and easily if you supply the lace. Here are a few examples I found of lace that is available for purchase:Dress Doubts are Scary, Help 12
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    Another option could be ordering lace and making your own veil! Here is a tutorial you can check out and see if it’s something you think you could do!


    https://youtu.be/k6pp9qphszi
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    Not sure if that link worked (they often times don’t on this forum for some reason), So here is a screenshot of the video in case you would like to look it up 😊
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    This is all amazing and useful and beautiful! Thank you so much, it means the world to have options that suit me
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    You are so welcome! Your final look is going to be gorgeous and unique and totally YOU 🖤
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