Dress code?

You don't get to tell people how to dress.

I'm putting it on our wedding website and hopefully speading by word of mouth.
We have some that think jeans are wedding appropriate

I honestly want ppl to come because I'm happy and in love...I don't want to be the bride that says " No jeans, no taking pictures, no sitting at a different table, no this, no that" I want to worry about the things I can control. If you want it formal... that's about the best way to express that... you're not wrong... it's your wedding... but will you flip out if your rule is broken and ruin your day?? Best of luck 💖

You can include suggested attire on your website, but do it in a diplomatic way.

You never put dress code other than black tie on an invitation.

The formality of your invitations usually sets the tone for attire. If you really think people will show up in jeans, then start spreading the word through friends and family.

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Oh you absolutely can tell people “no jeans” or classy way to say that could be: “garden party attire” or “cocktail attire”. I think every invite I have ever gotten has a dress code. Don’t leave people guessing- plus it’s awkward to show up totally inappropriately for the event

View Quoted Comment I was going to say every wedding I been to had a dress code thing. I will not be overly upset if someone wears jeans. Anyway thank you,

It sounds like you are describing "business casual". Check the link on this page to see if the description fits what you are thinking [its under the causal header on the page]. Maybe include a description like this on your website. https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-attire-cheat-sheet . I know this may not be the popular opinion on this thread, but I have never received an invitation that did not specify dress code. It may be regional, but to me it seems logical and courteous for guests to have access to this information without accessing your website, particularly depending on the age of your guests.

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You are very welcome! Good luck!

I wanted no jeans too, so I put dressy-casual on our wedding website. So hopefully that gets the point across??

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You can actually, but I don't know a way of enforcing it. Setting a dress code is perfectly normal and acceptable for a wedding, especially since some venues such as country clubs require specific attire. I've seen it mentioned on wedding invitations before. Our website says says "semi-formal dress is requested," but I do not really mind if some guys come in jeans and a collared shirt. It isn't going to take away from my happiness.

View Quoted Comment I don’t know, that seems super vague. If I saw “dressy-casual” I’d have people show up in jeans and a button down.

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View Quoted Comment Let me clarify. You can't tell people how to dress without being rude. If your *venue* has a dress code (such as a country club) then you mention it to your guests, not because you want something but because the venue requires it, such as "Fancy Pants Club requires that all men wear a jacket and tie, and that women have closed toe shoes". Black tie is the other exception, but only if it's actually a black tie event; after six, white glove service, table side ordering, live music, top shelf bar, elaborate table settings, and such.

Trying to communicate dress codes other than these is silly. One person's definition of semi-formal is another's business casual. I was invited to a wedding that said the dress code was "tea party festive". We all said "what the heck does that mean?" and then showed up wearing exactly what we would have worn anyway for an event at the time and location of the wedding. All the dress code did was cause some confusion and annoyance.

View Quoted Comment Dressy casual, other than being an oxymoron, would have me showing up in a pair of fabulous heels, a silk blouse, and a perfectly fitting pair of dark jeans.

View Quoted Comment Right! I feel like dressy casual means “wear your favorite shoes, your dressiest blouse, and a nice pair of jeans” which is like not what the poster is going for 😂

In general I try to wear dresses to weddings because it’s my personal preference but I hate when people put a dress code because they want people to dress to their “standards”, but often they don’t raise the standards of their hosting. My friend was once given an invitation with a dress code to what was essentially a backyard barbecue.

View Quoted Comment At the end of the day host/bride created dress codes only make the host/bride look controlling. Additional, anyone they may have singled out in their minds to be the one who needs to be told how to dress, will likely not get the message anyway. Uncle George is still showing up in his old cargo pants and his cleanest flannel shirt.

On the wedding website, my fiancé and I put semi-formal.