Dress code, should I include with the invite?

No.

No its not a bad idea or no I shouldn't include it in the invite?

I say include it!

If you're going to do it, I would do it on all invites and not just those that you're fearful won't show up dressed appropriately. I don't see if being an issue just advising everyone of the dress code of the club.

Personally I wouldn't tell my guests what they can and can't wear. I personally HATE dressing fancy, as much as I love my wedding dress, it will be the first dress I have worn in over 10 years. Just because someone doesn't like dressing up doesn't mean they are any less important to me or that I am any less important to them.

I say do it. Just make sure it is on all the invites.

We're mentioning it somewhere on our invite--cocktail attire only please. I don't think we'll have any problems, but being that it's on a farm I want to make sure this is a fancy farm wedding not a jeans and boots farm wedding.

I feel you on this one. I have the same type of people I have invited to my wedding. It may not be the right thing to do, but honestly with my planning process I've just got to the point of asking myself if it would offend or bother me. if I were to be invited to a formal wedding I would understand to dress nice, but I wouldn't really know how nice to dress just based on how formal the invite looked and would gladly accept any info from couple in regards to dress code. I'd rather be told that I need to dress a certain way then to show up under dressed.

Does your venue have a strict dress code or is it a personal preference?

Either way, I would not include it with the invitation. My sister was married in a club with a strict dress code (no denim or shortsn men had to wear shirts with collars, etc). Anyone not dressed appropriately would not be admitted and, as we have family who have dressy denim that they consider formal wear, there was a "heads up" email sent to guests that RSVP'd as attending. It was a "just wanted to let you know about the club's dress code" with a breif summary of the dress code and a link to the club's website with more info. The MOB/MOG too care of these communications. The goal was to avoid any embarrassment for the guests that could have been denied entry.

So is this an issue where the VENUE has a dress code? Or do you just want all of your guests to be dressed up? If there is an actual, enforced dress code, then I think it's fine to put it on an insert. But if this is just a case of where you preferring your guests to dress up then I would say no, it is incredibly rude.

I mean, is it really going to ruin your day if someone comes in (clean) jeans and sneakers? If it bothers you that much tell your photographer to not get any pictures of the person and/or photoshop them out, and be done with it. In my experience, the same people who don't think it's a bad idea to wear jeans to a wedding are the same people who would wear them anyway even if you told them it was a fancier event.

So when you say jeans are not permitted at the club, is that literal? Will the venue turn them away if the aren't dressed appropriately? If so then yes you need to make sure everyone knows that, though I think word of mouth would be the best option over printed in the invite. But unless the venue really does have a strict dress code, I'm sort of in the 'you can't tell people what to wear' camp. The venue location, time of day and formality of the invite should clue them into what is appropriate attire. If they can't figure it out themselves I don't think directly spelling it out is really helpful. It's awkward and kind of insulting. If they show up in jeans, it only reflects on them and it doesn't ruin your wedding.

I guess it depends...does your venue have a dress code? We got married at a country club and they had a no jeans rule. I don't know anyone that would show up to a wedding in jeans, so for me it wasn't an issue. Even if I did, I don't think I would put it on the invites. Just spread it via word of mouth/casually mention the dress code to the people that would wear jeans to a wedding. If there is no dress code, I'd let it go. Adults can dress how they want.

If your venue has a dress code, then this is totally fine and not against any etiquette rules.

I wouldn't single out guests. What if friend A who dresses more casually gets the insert, and mentions it to friend B who dresses more formally and who didn't get the insert? They will question why you sent it to some and not others and it may come off as insulting.

If the club won't actually let them in if they are under-dressed then I would include it on the insert. If the club doesn't care and it's you that has the concern, I would just forget about it. You can't control what people wear and it won't ruin your day if someone shows up in jeans.

If you add other info (like you mentioned, parking) and give it to everyone, then sure.

I always say no to dress codes on invitations, but like everyone else, I'm wondering -- will these people be turned away from the wedding if they show up in sneakers and T-shirts? Seriously? If that really is the case, turning away a wedding guest is a bigger breach of etiquette that putting a dress code on the invitation. Is there any way you could include a piece of literature from the club itself that would clearly spell out the dress code?

I say include it, i wouldn't want any guests turned away because of their attire! And i like the idea of including other FAQs

I was just thinking about this the other night. My venue has a dress code, and it states they will ask people to leave who aren't dressed right. I already ordered my invitations though so I have been wondering about adding a insert as well.

Unless your venue has a strict dress code or you are legitimately having a black/white tie wedding, you do not tell adults how to dress. A note on a website or invite is tacky and at the end useless because a person who would wear jeans and sneakers to a wedding, will regardless. Guess what, you won't notice and you are stressing out about nothing.

Sounds like OP's venue has the strict dress code, in which case she should definitely make a note about it somewhere, but maybe not on the actual invitation. An insert, a note on the website...something like that.