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Concetta
Super March 2020

Drama

Concetta, on August 18, 2019 at 5:22 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 41

This is kind of a rant and I️m hoping I do not get any negative comments about myself... my sister who is 16 is my maid of honor, lately she’s been in her rebellious stage she has her nose pierced and a regular tongue piercing and a “snake” eye piercing which is across the tip of the tongue and she...
This is kind of a rant and I️m hoping I do not get any negative comments about myself... my sister who is 16 is my maid of honor, lately she’s been in her rebellious stage she has her nose pierced and a regular tongue piercing and a “snake” eye piercing which is across the tip of the tongue and she also is on anti depressants and smokes weed all the time(walks around like a zombie). My fiancée is an Egyptian who is Muslim and some of his family from over seas will be attending our wedding. Egyptian weddings are very classy and elegant and everyone dresses to impress, I kindly told my mom that my sister can’t wear a loop nose ring and can’t have the tip of the tongue piercing since it’s huge and you can see I️t when she talks and that his family is going to be so taken back since they know she is so much younger than me and has all this craziness going on. Also, aside from my Mom meeting his parents this is the first time all of our immediate family will be meeting eachother so insert nerves lol. Aside from his family possibly thinking this, I had told my fiancée that I hate the loop in the nose anyway and he had said that he knows him and his family will feel some way. My mom and sister are offended that I told them this but I can’t help but think if someone told me to change my nose ring or change my nail color or just about anything I would have just done I️t.... I️m sorry if I look like an awful person I really am not I just needed to vent
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I would agree that with appropriate medical care, some mental health issues can completely turn around, AND, that all threats need to be taken seriously. These are very tough situations for everyone involved.

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated March 2025
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    It seems like she is in the rebellion stage so wte you say will be taken the wrong way. I understand her wild looks may be uncomfortable but your fiancé family will see her in her nature state in the future anyways. Regarding the wedding, I feel that common courtesy would be to cover all offensive/extreme tattoos and piercings. Especially if it taken place in a religious setting. Maybe a compromise would ask if she could remove it for the ceremony.
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated March 2025
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    It’s crazy how people can be okay with wild tattoos and face piercings. But as soon as a person wears a beige dress to a wedding it’s the end of the world.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    This is so so so well written ❤️ Yes to all of this.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I agree. Please try to let this go. FH is marrying you, not your sister

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    You are right that you should not have allowed yourself to be pushed into having your sister in the BP to begin with. Your mom should have missed deed her own business. I do not think it is right to ask someone to be a BM, then alter their basic appearance. That you have to accept. But alternately mouthing off or zombie like from pot, these are antisocial behaviors. If she cannot clean up her act there, and show signs of being a reasonably polite and sociable young adult, drop her. That stuff is within her control, and it is totally unacceptable for her to bring the rebelliousness, mouth, and regular drugging, into your wedding.
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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
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    I dont think there's anything wrong with asking her to wear a smaller, less noticeable piercing for your wedding. Taking it out completely, not ok. They do have clear piercings and simple ones. Maybe sit down and talk to your sister about everything and explain it to her, not go through your mom
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  • D
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    I agree. This sounds like a good compromise.
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  • J
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    I agree, Maybe mom and sister need to work with a mental health pro. But meanwhile, at 16 she may be doing damage to her developing brain with dope. Not the same as if she were 27 and using dope. And smoking weed and antidepressants, should not go on. It can cause alternating mania and zombiedom. And it is impossible for her physician or psychiatrist to tell what the anti depressents are doing when sister is adding dope to the mood mix. This is something possibly seriously harmful to herself, and there should be an effort to stop her from doing it. But requiring the bride to have her in the bridal party, is neither a functional or necessary part of helping g her. It is a separate issue. Just having some mental health issues does not mean it is good for people to accept acting out and deliberately unhealthy things she is deliberately doing to herself, like smoking dope.
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  • B
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    I see your point but It’s just a way your sister expresses herself. I would hate to think they would judge towards her off of her looks.
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
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    I feel like its your wedding and you should have some say of what people wear or look like on your wedding day...plus photos last forever...one day when she has a family of her own shes going to look back and be like wow I looked like that?
    idk i might be the only one saying this, but i feel like you have a right to ask her to wear a smaller piercing and to kind of dial it down for your wedding. Its one day, shes your sister...I feel like she can make a change for a day

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Please! my mom has not paid for a thing, not even my dress... not that I am saying she has too but she tries to pull the mom and sister card allllllllll the time. I wish I could give a back story about my family it is not like a normal one lol

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Preach girl preach

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Thank you so much, I completely agree and it makes me so sad that I look like a villain for expressing myself but her actions just get tossed under a rug

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Thank you very much. Unfortunately there is no sitting down with them, my mom is not normal I can not have a conversation with her without her yelling or making a fight and than if you do not sit there quiet you can not defend yourself or she will say how you are a horrible child etc etc I am so over this whole process I wish I could express how awful this has been not just with this issue just over all.

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Oh I expressed to my mom that at 16 I do not think mixing her anti with weed is very good and I just get told im a granny !!! any time I open my mouth it is an issue....

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Thank you so much for your thought, how come a bride can say what color shoe, what hair style but than when their are crazy piercings it is frowned upon to mention something? thank you for understanding about the photos! and I agree, even with outfits when you look back at photos you may get embarrassed lol thank you I appreciate I feel like someone understanding me

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
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    You are very welcome! I guess i am more understanding then most. I guess I try to think of how everyone feels. I have 2 small tattoos on mu arm and when my brother got married i was a bridesmaid and i made it clear to my SIL that i would find a dress to cover them if she wanted. It turned out she didnt care because she has tattoos.
    Also a bridesmaid in my wedding already said she would put a plastic stud in her nose piercing the day of the wedding. I didnt even ask her to do that!
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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
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    Well, it is much appreciated on this end that you were kind enough to think like this.

    That is so fab of you!!! I am sorry but that is so courteous of you to do, and me myself I would have done the same anytime I was a maid I always asked what nail color what hair style I always have tried to think that is the brides day and I should be whatever she wants of me that day. That is amazing that your bridesmaid took it upon herself to do this for you!!! I am so happy that you are having a good experience and you also gave your sister in law one

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  • Kathleen
    Dedicated April 2020
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    Yikes! You may have to give an ultimatum.
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