So let me preface this by saying.... 6 of my 7 bridesmaids are incredible and have been so helpful throughout my wedding process. But as with big groups, there is one person who has not helped out at all, and has not shown up for the big moments, like my bridal shower. This person also happens to be my longest friend and MOH. Last Sunday was my Bridal Shower and my MOH did not come or inform me that she was not coming. When we had sent out invites to the shower, she had texted me in a panic stating that she would be out of town to celebrate her anniversary (which wasn’t for another 2 months which just boggled me). I just said ok and moved on. My family was not happy with her and my grandma ended up talking to her, without me knowing, to tell her how disappointed I was that she would not be attending. So that day she called me and told me she was going to try to be at the shower because it meant a lot to me. So the day of the shower comes around, and I have not heard from her. She never showed up or bothered to wish me luck or inform me that she really could not make it. Kind of embarrassing to not have my MOH at my shower.... Anyway, later that day, one of my bridesmaids noticed that my MOH has posted a picture of her eating lunch 10 mins down the road from my shower with her boyfriend during the shower time on Snapchat. I don’t have SC so she probably thought I wouldn’t notice. I’m really hurt by this. This has been my best friend since 9th grade and I would have thought she’d be honored to be my MOH but she has not acted like it. She did not want to plan my bachelorette party, and ultimately did give up those duties to my bridesmaids, and she’s been very upset that her boyfriend won’t be at the head table with us. It’s all caused me a tremendous amount of stress. I’m not a confrontational person so I am really struggling with this. I have 6 bridesmaids who cannot stand her because she isn’t helping, isn’t pulling her weight, and isn’t there for me. I have both sides of our family, and my groom, who are also pissed at her. I know someone is going to say something to her, despite me asking that they not, and i’m scared for the aftermath. My wedding is a month away and she’s already paid for her dress, so I feel like there’s no turning back now? I will add, I DO want her by my side because she is my best friend and I do love her, I just know that this is not who this is supposed to go.
What would you ladies do? Confront her or try to keep the peace until the big day???
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