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Doubling everything for 2 wedding? Need help!

Laura, on April 9, 2020 at 10:15 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 4

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We rescheduled June to August. And it looks like everything will be open in August, though social distancing may be a problem so we might have to limit the guest list - and unemployment, financial worries, etc for our guests means the same thing - a really small guest list.

If we get married in August, keep our vendors, and have just our family there (us and our 3 kids, plus officiant, photographer, organist) - we'd be under 10 so allowed even with strict limitations. But it's rough because our "wedding funds" will have been used for the August wedding. And we'd like to celebrate with everyone later...

Just cancelling on all our guests and family outright doesn't feel right either. Neither does having an actual wedding without photos - Nor does a renewal seem right without photos since that's when everyone would be present... The kids really want to wear their tuxes (which we already have rented) and cost nearly 1k for my FH and our 3 sons. Renting them twice seems absurd, along with doubling all the other expenses... Do we double everything?

Please help me figure this out??!

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Latest activity by Amy, on April 14, 2020 at 11:13 AM

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Dana · on April 9, 2020 at 1:41 PM
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Would your venue be willing to postpone your reception (and ceremony?) until a later date for no additional fee? If that's the case you could still try to have the small wedding you mentioned, and be below the 10 people limit. Then once things calm down you could have a renewal or maybe just the reception and celebrate with everyone?
I know you mentioned the photographer possibly being at both the small wedding and the bigger one. Do you think they'd be willing to give you a deal? Maybe split the original amount of hours you booked them for between the two days? Or see if there's a photographer in your area working to build their portfolio who would be willing to do one of the events for a lower cost?
For the tuxes, maybe the boys and your FH have some nicer clothes that they could wear for one of the events instead of having to rent it twice? I know most guys usually have a suit, maybe a nice button down shirt and tie in your wedding colors for the boys?
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Caitlin · on April 9, 2020 at 8:11 PM
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I don’t think you need to make the decision quite yet - we are getting married 8-15 and aren’t planning to change things as of now.
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Laura · on April 9, 2020 at 8:35 PM
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So worry about who is coming later?
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Amy · on April 14, 2020 at 11:13 AM
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Hi Laura,
I'm sorry that you're in such a tough spot. I can't imagine paying for everything twice.
There's another bride, Casandra, on this discussion thread: Advice please. She has postponed from June to August--just like you. Maybe you could reach out to her directly?
Also, if you have to limit your guest list for the first wedding/ceremony, maybe you could give everyone the option to tune in by streaming it? That way, everyone is included if they choose to watch. You should be able to create a (private) Facebook group and use Facebook Live. In case they are helpful, here's an older discussion thread re: Live stream wedding ceremony? and a more recent conversation about Live stream options.
In the end, I hope you do whatever feels right for you and your family!
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