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Tawny
Just Said Yes August 2014

Don't need 'stuff' for wedding gifts.

Tawny, on May 13, 2014 at 7:55 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 25

My fiance and I have lived on our own for years now... We don't need anything. However, I know gifts giving is a part of going to a wedding but I don't want to ask outright ask for cash or not saying you are registered. How would you, without offending, ask for something unique or money? Has anyone...

My fiance and I have lived on our own for years now... We don't need anything.

However, I know gifts giving is a part of going to a wedding but I don't want to ask outright ask for cash or not saying you are registered. How would you, without offending, ask for something unique or money?

Has anyone done anything that has worked well? My mom suggested the following poem, but as I get closer to sending out invites (later this week) I am unsure if it is ok.

HELP!!!

We don’t want to offend,

but we have it all,

household goods and

so much more.

To save you shopping,

looking, and buying,

a gift of currency we

thought you’d like trying.

Don’t go overboard or

rob any banks,

anything will make us smile

with hearts full of thanks.

Now that have save you all the fuss,

we hope you will come and

celebrate with us.

25 Comments

  • Samantha
    Master May 2013
    Samantha ·
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    Please don't use the poem. Simply don't register and don't have a shower. People will get the hint

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  • MarriedJ!
    Expert June 2014
    MarriedJ! ·
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    I don't like the poem either. It's just not polite to come out and say you want cash. The best thing to do is to have your close relatives or friends spread the word for you. Register at a store you like for some things so that you can return the items later and get store credit.

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  • B & K 2014
    Super December 2014
    B & K 2014 ·
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    Yeah the poem seems strange. just dont register for much. and definitely do not put it in your invitation

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  • Mrs.Sawyer
    Just Said Yes June 2015
    Mrs.Sawyer ·
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    The poem is..to be honest, terrible. I'm not sure which is worse: Guests thinking it was copied from somewhere, or guests thinking you wrote an actual poem asking for money Smiley surprise My FW are in the same situation where we've been living together for years and we're also moving out of state immediately after the wedding. No need to rent another UHaul to transport three new blenders, thank you! However we really want to go to Disney World for our honeymoon. We found the wonderful world of online/honeymoon registries! I recommend them wholeheartedly. They've made one to suit every situation, I promise. And for the older generations without paypal or whatever else, they'll usually bring out the checkbook. People don't enjoy handing out cash unless they know what they're buying. With online registries you make smaller budgets for specific things. (i.e. hot tub, down payment on car).

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  • Rachey
    VIP June 2014
    Rachey ·
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    Sorry but the poem is tacky. I also don't need anything but I wouldn't grey any gifts from certain people if I didn't have a small registry. People are sentimental and they want you to think of them over the years when you see their gift. As much as you want cash, you will only get gifts from certain people so my advice is the same, just set up a small registry or you'll end up with five wind chimes.

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