Does your bridesmaid lineup truly matter....

I'm putting my BM in a certain order and yes it is for personal reasons. Closest is my sister (my MOH), then my FSIL (sisters come first), then my best friend.

As a bridesmaid I wouldn't feel hurt if I was the last one in line or the first one because you never know what the bride is using in determining the line up.

I'm just doing it on height and my bridal party (but I only sister and two friends)... Maid of honor, my sister, and then my friend..... MOH with BstM (obviously) and then my sister with the second tallest (because she's uber tall) and then my friend with my cousin because they are the shorted

I'm obsessive about alphabetizing things, so I always list them alphabetically. However, I'm thinking of asking FH to line up the guys and then lining up the girls based on how the guys are lined up. That way if there's any drama, he can deal with it :]

I don't even want to think about how to line mine up--and I need to decide ASAP! I think one sister will be butt-hurt if she's at the end, but that's where I want her to be, so I don't know.

Mine are in an order too my MOH is next to me and then my Matron of honor and then my friends and then my FH two sisters. I don't think that will cause any issues but at this point I'm sure my FHs younger sister will find a way to make it turn into some drama since she already had a fit about who she was going to walk with and I plan on her bringing that up again but oh well I want the people I am closest right next me

I am having them stand by height (minus my sister who is the matron of honor anyway) which also works out to be in the order of who I've known the longest (1987, ****, 2006) and they match up nicely to each groomsmen they will be paired with. I lucked out here.

If anyone asks I'm putting them in order of how long I have known them. In real life it works out to be the order of how close I am to each.

Yes!! I still hold a grudge against a friend for how much work i put in, how long we'd been friends, and how close we were during her planning, but i was put dead last. It hurt and our friendship is permanently damaged

I'm also doing it based off level of relationship and how close I am to each.

I haven't 100% chosen my bridesmaids yet, but I think I'll end up lining them up by height to be honest. Assuming the 6 girls I have in mind at the moment are my final pick here's what I was thinking:

My MOH (already chosen and definite) is much taller than myself and all the other girls except for one. Being a dance teacher, I always line my students up in a specific order based on height. (yes, I'm a bit nuts). I figured if MOH is tallest anyways, put her closest to me and go tallest to shortest from there. That way no one looks awkwardly big or little either. That way, after MOH (who is a close friend from childhood), it would be two friends after her, then my two SIL's, then my cousin. Flower girl/junior bridesmaid is in middle school, so she can stand next to my teenage cousin without either of them looking too young.

Best man is super tall, so I figured this will work on groom's side too.

DanieGee,

I thought about that too! My MOH's name starts with A, other BM's are K,C,K,K,C, and flower girl is A. If MOH an dflower girl are already on either end, how perfect would it be for the line to go A C K K K C A? No one would notice but me but still!

I actually hadn't given this any thought (way too early to be thinking abt this) but now that its mentioned, I hope it doesn't offend anyone that NO ONE will be standing next to me. It will just be my step daughter (Jr. Bridesmaid) and my son at the altar with us. BMs and GMs will be seated. Or so I thought anyway...

Edited: By altar I mean front of the gazebo lol and the girls will walk with the GM's to the front and then sit in the front row.

Hmm all interesting takes on this i deepdown feel like i want to place that as who i feel closest to but worried that if they know this is how its normally done someone will end up offended ugh i guess u cant please everyone and after all its your day , in this case im super excited to b behind my bestfriends MOH (her sister) for her wedding next weekend considering she has 9 girls soo woohoo

I will do it by height because it's so objective, and I'll make it clear that it's by height so that no one's feelings are hurt. I know you can't please everyone, but I think this is an easy solution for this problem.

I'm doing it by height I'm not dealing w drama from the I'm closer bs

My order seems natural to me and if you asked anyone close to me what the order should our would be they would get it right. Is my sister/moh first then my oldest friend then my best friend from college ands beyond. Plus it's in height order (coincidence)

I am doing it by how long i have known them. my MOH (younger sister) 4 BM ( youngest sister, friend from middle school, friend from college, friend from post college)

the GM are as family first: BM ( FH bro) 3 GM (my BIL, FH cousin, and FH friend)

I'm placing BMs and GMs all based on height. Never would I "rank" them based on their level of friendship.

Luckily I only had a MOH and 1 BM. So it just went MOH next to me and then BM. No problems for anyone.

I've been in ones where it's been by height, by known longest and also just to put couples together down the aisle. I am doing my MOH, sister, step daughter, niece. So it works every which way for me so I'm lucky :0)