Does mil get ready with you day of?

Mine didn’t - she and my SIL went to the salon together and then she got ready at her place, where my husband also was. If you want her to, it’s fine to ask, but you aren’t obliged to.

I absolutely love my mother in law and definitely want her to be with me the day of getting ready. She has been amazing during all of my planning and is someone I would call a great friend even if she wasn't my mother in law. Plus my sister in law and her daughter are one of my bridesmaids and flower girl so the whole family will be together that day! I say if you would be comfortable or want her there ask her to be there. If you would be uncomfortavle and don't care either way then maybe don't ask her and let he do what she wants

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Thank you for the advice!

Meagan, thankfully I feel the same about my future MIL. We're literally best friends (I literally talk to her more than my own mom lol like everyday, and she lives in Italy half the year and we still talk all the time). The only thing is, the cottage on site at the venue to get ready in isn't the biggest space, as it is a cottage... so I'm just wondering with my bridal party, mom/flower girl, hair dressers & makeup, and photographers, if that would be too much going on. I would love for her to be there but I also don't want to be super stressed out and have anxiety with so many people all stuffed in this cottage trying to get ready lol. But I also don't want her to feel left out or anything...

My mil didn't get ready with us

There is no right or wrong. A lot of brides, and their mom's and attendant, each get ready and show up for the ceremony. Others get ready, and come together where the bride is for a short while. These are as common as groups or Brides with MOH getting ready together. Keep in mind that sometimes people who like or live each other are seriously stressed by having a crowd around for hours while getting ready. They don't expect it, and people get short tempered. So don't make your decision based on what others do. Base it on how comfortable you, Mom, MIL, and BM are all together when nervous tension is high. For the same reason many brides regret taking 3-5 people with them dress shopping, each of whom has different opinions , you may want to look at a couple people here, another couple elsewhere. Or everyone together. Ask your bridesmaids. Some may only be doing the group thing to please you, but would love not to. And some Moms or MIL get pretty snarky when bride is socializing with bm, and the mothers really want the attention of the bride exclusively. Know your own people, and decide.

View Quoted Comment Hi Tyaira! Since you have such a close bond with her, I definitely think you should just go for it and have her get ready with you all! Im pretty sure they’ll be space to squeeze her in!

Nope, to be honest my mom wasn't really in the room much the day of. I'm happy it ended up that way because both MIL and my mom drove me crazy during the planning process and I wanted the morning to go as smooth as possible.

Since I have a small number of bridesmaids, I think I will allow my FMIL and FSIL the option to get ready upstairs with me in the venue's bridal suite or in a second mini-suite downstairs, depending what they prefer. I don't mind either way, I'm very close to FH's family.

I extended the invite to FMIL but the logistics don't work for her since she is driving grandma. I'm sort of glad just because I also have a tight space and she would have freaked out over how much hair and makeup are costing, heh.

I invited my MIL to have her hair and makeup done my the artists I hired and she accepted. She came around the time she was scheduled and only stuck around for as long as it took to get her hair and makeup done. After she was done in the chairs she went back to her husband to get ready, which I was very grateful for because she can be a lot for me to handle in large doses.

Mine didnt, I offered and told her the details if she wanted to come. Once everyone was ready and about an hour before the ceremony she came in and said hi and hung out in the bridal suite for a little

My FMIL will be getting ready with us. We are also getting ready in my bridal cottage (hoping it's a nice day so we can use the outdoor space for more room) and I don't expect either of the Mom's, my Grandma or my junior bridesmaid (FI's niece) to stay all day. I have the timeline set up that myself and the bridesmaids are going first for hair and make up and then the Mom's and Grandma will go. Most of the wedding's I've been in the Mom's seem to go in and out of the suite depending on who they want to say hi to, what little tasks they think they need to do etc, so that might keep the crowdedness down a bit anyways.

Mine is getting ready with us but leaving us to see her son before the ceremony.

I invited her but she's going to get ready at home so she can be with my FH

I think it just depends on the relationship. I have been to weddings where the MIL was like all up in the getting ready area with the bride her and BM's (we hated that by the way, she was so overbearing) and I have been to others where the MIL was just in the background.
My MIL and I have a good relationship and she is such a sensitive person so I am going to try and include her as much as I can. Although she is the type that will probably stay away.

We’re getting hair and make up at a salon— I invited both the moms and encouraged them just to han even if they didn’t want anything done , but I think they want to be on site at the house (/venue) instead. I think they might swing through early, but neither are going to hang .

(Like I think they might come get blow outs then leave)

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Judith, This is really great advise! Thank you!

Thank you for all your opinions/advice/what you're doing!! I appreciate it!

See, it's a little difficult with our situation because wedding's in the mountains and we'll all be staying in cabins that are about 20min(about 30 w/ traffic) away from the venue... so us girls would be getting to the cottage early that Saturday morning to get ready and would most likely be there all day... just because the transit to get back to the cabins would be pretty long. I may just have it my bp & mom... because that's a lot of people to be with allll morning and then everyone else once the actual wedding takes place.

My mother in law got ready at her house, with my husband and his dad and brother, and the brothers girlfriend. When she got to the church she came and hung out with us, but she was already dressed and had her hair and makeup done. You could definitely extend an invite if you wanted to though!