Does he just want the wedding and not the most important thing: the planning

I would say : just chill down and focus on your school. If the wedding is in 2026, it's really too early to really "plan" stuff. Trends will change, prices will change, you'll change... Good luck !

I agree with Emilia. Focus on school for now and then worry about planning when you get 1-2 years away from the wedding. Also, make sure you both are actually wanting the big wedding. It doesn’t sound like that’s actually what he wants and that might be why he doesn’t have much interest in planning it.

The most important thing is the marriage, not the wedding or planning. What’s the rush? Wait another 10 years.

Your wedding isn’t until 2026. Its likely hard for him to get excited about planning something so far in the future. And I fear if you start planning and talking all things wedding this early, 2 things are going to happen:
1. He’s going to be completely SICK of all things wedding before your day is even close.

And 2. You are going to change your mind multiple times about what you want, and end up either unhappy with the decisions you made prematurely, or spending a ton of money on re-doing everything.
I suggest you focus on finishing high school and determining what your next life steps will be (college? Trade school? Job?). These are the most important things right now, as they will set the foundation for your future and marriage. Wait until a year out to plan the celebration.

Your wedding is over 3 years away and you’re in high school. So I can understand why he’s not very interested in heavy planning. The title of your post mentions “the planning” as the most “important” thing. Forgive me because I beg to differ. In your specific case, I’d say that right now, the most important thing is graduating high school and starting your life as an adult (college? good job? Etc). Perhaps, get that squared away first before attempting to begin a life with someone else.

2026 is a long way away for anyone to start planning. Planning is better done 1 or 2 years out.

It is far too early to judge him for not being interested so early.

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Nevermind I found out that he has a side chick so the wedding is canceled