Does anyone else mother not seem interested in the wedding......

I feel your pain. My mom was CONSTANTLY nagging on me about how much I'm spending on this, that, and the other. Hello, they're not paying for it so she's NOT entitled that opinion! I finally told her my frustrations and she realized that she wasn't as supportive and encouraging as she could be. She's much better now but it was a LONG road to that point!

Weddings just aren't my parents cup of tea. Whenever we've gone to weddings as guests, my dad was chomping at the bit trying to get out of there. When I was growing up, my dad used to tell me that he would be dead by the time I got married, so he couldn't walk me down the aisle. My mom is the same way. She's just not interested. It really hurts my feelings, but I just try to ignore it and share my moments with people who I know will be excited.

Shaunte I am going through the exact same thing! The first thing I invited my mom to was a tasting at my venue's bridal show they hosted. She asked me a dozen times what time it's at...then the day comes and she calls me an hr after she was supposed to be there and said she'd be there in an hr and I just told her forget it. A few days after I called her to tell her how disappointed I was in her for not being there when I needed her & she seemed to get it. But then for the day I shopped for my dress it was the same thing! The constant reminding. And then on Sunday...I think it was the last straw for me. For my engagement party..she calls me at 12....party is to start at 12:30 and says "Is your party at 12:30 or 1:30 cus you sent two dif e-vites w two dif times". Uh, no I didn't! It was always 12:30..no one else got one saying 1:30..so she shows up at 1:30 & doesn't even say hello to me! I dunno what the hell her problem is. I suspect she's stressed with having to take care of her 21yr..

Old son who doesn't work...lives in her house rent free...and disrespects her everyday. (Sorry LMAO..guess I needed to vent!) I'm sorry about your mom. Have you had a talk with her? Maybe yours will listen.

My mom was orginally very, very uninvolved. Her reason was that she doesn't have the money to contribute towards anything, even though I kept telling her it wasn't necessary/expected. Now that we've moved the date up to this summer, she seems to be much more excited and want to be involved with decisions. She and I went dress shopping last week, and she was really into it - it made it so much fun! But I think she's becoming more comfortable with the idea that it's okay with me that she doesn't contribute financially, but I still value her opinion and want her to be part of this.

I don't know what to say in your situation, other than the wedding is a year away and perhaps it just seems a little bit in the future for her? I hope she does take an interest, as I've really enjoyed sharing this with my mom!

My mom isn't really interested in it either. I think that she's excited that we're finally getting married and that there will be a wedding, but she not interested in the whole wedding planning process or about the wedding in general. And if she is, she's not showing it. I think that it's just not my mom's cup of tea. FH's mom doesn't seem too excited either -- but I'm pretty sure that his family isn't too thrilled that we are finally tying the knot since even though we've been together for 7.5 years and they know I'm not going anywhere. Or maybe they are excited and like my mom, just don't show it?? I'd like to think the latter. I've had a lot of drama with FH's family so I don't know exactly how they feel. FSIL and I are finally trying to become friends...

Well my Mom was great but since the beginning of the month she has been having some mental health issues. Her doctor thinks she’s showing signs of schizophrenia as a result of this she is saying I’m satan and God wants to do away with me. She is refusing to come to my wedding, she’s not letting my little sister be the flower girl. I’m her oldest and first daughter to get married, and she’s my ONLY MOM! It hurts to see her like this and really makes me sad that my wedding is in two months and my Mom may not be there.

My mom wasn't at first b/c she didn't think my FH was good enough for me. I called my step dad crying about how I need my mom b/c every girl wants her mom's help. So he talked to her and she realized this was happening wheather she liked it or not so she dropped the attitude and got on the bridal band wagon. Now she's a complete momzilla...be careful what you wish for.

My mum is similar. Although to be fair, my mum doesn't really get excited about many things, its just not the way she is. I try and understand, and I keep her in the loop with things, but its hard sometimes.

On the flip side, my FMIL is very excited, so it balances out

"mum" that's so cute!hehehe

Dont ever let a mom let you down when something big will change your whole life ever. That is not a good parent. If my child marries someone I don't like, I will try to be happy and do it for the child's sake ya know? Or the parent will close the child. My FMIL wasn't excited or happy but when I got my ring last night, she is excited than ever and she is starting to like me. Some parents need time to adjust which I can kinda understand. But never? It makes me sad when some parents are like that, it is like please think of the child's happiness

*or the parent will lose the child

My mother is not interested...she prays all the time that it doesn't happen...She is against same sex relationships/marriage since she became all "religious" the past few years. So of course she is not coming...but at least FMIL says that she will be there! that made me smile in my heart when she told me that the other day! :-)

I agree Megan. When I have children of my own, I will try to be happy for them and work through it. Not treat their SO like crap!! Same with my siblings--when they start getting serious about someone, I will not treat them like crap or try to push them out of the way when they are there and I am spending time with my siblings. If they are a big part of my sibling's or child's life, I will not disregard that they have chosen to be with that other person and will suck it up and be a better person. Talk about learning from my own person experiences, huh? Learning from other people's mistakes/decisions as well as your own I think is very important.

My mom seems very busy and if she's up to it/she doesnt work .and most of the time she sitting in her easy chair.i ask her to go dress shopping she didnt feel up to it .so i ask my sister she had to take her kids here and there.so my fh and i went to find my dress.we have done it all together.the planing .So its our way ! we dont let any of them tell us anything about our wedding ,b/c when we needed them they didnt want nothing to do with it.So we just enjoyed doing it our way.we paid for it ....

My mom is fine, but my FMIL does not seem interested. I think it bothers me because my mom is so interested and I wish that she would be too. She hardly asks about wedding plans, and whenever FH says something about the wedding, she doesn't say anything. I know she likes me and is happy for us, but I just think she doesn't care about details or planning.

I had to tell my mom that I wanted her more involved. When I finally brought it up she said that she was really nervous about the whole thing and didn't know how to act. I am a very independent person and she didn't know if I wanted help. I of course thought that was silly but you never know what parents are thinking. I think the dress shopping made it more real to her and now she is fully excited. We live in diff states though so it makes it hard.

I know how you feel and I hate it!! Usually you hear how much parents are over involved, I would just like mine to be involved a little! I know that they are happy we are getting married (we got engaged on our 10 yr anniversary and had started getting "you don't want to be an old maid" comments the last few years since I'm in my 30's!) They are just not excited about the wedding. I guess I expected more since they wanted me to get married so bad! One thing I know they are struggling with is having a big fancy wedding (in their mind, it's really not fancy, it's a beach wedding!) They are from a small town and expect to have a small little reception in the community center basement!! Not that there is anything wrong with that, but it's just not us! I haven't even lived in my home town for the last 10 years! Also, they are not too happy that I am having a destination in the Florida Keys (not even Mexico or Hawaii!) They feel like I am asking people for too much to go all that way. Cont

Yea, IDk she seemed excited when I annouced my engagment but now she seems as if she doesnt care.....I dont think its a money issuse my Step father offered to help but added on that Im waliking you down the aisle right. i want him and my father to both do it after that no one has mention helping pay for anything and I havent asked. The more I look at it shes not really interested in my life in general anymore. When I get a call from her its either to do something work related, she needs me to do this or I dont get even a Hi she just wants to talk to her granddaughter. Its ususally the 1st two she not very interested in my daughter either not as much as she use to be, she spolied her now doesnt feel like being bother with her.

Sorry venting!! But mostly everyone else is excited about it! So many people are telling us that they are happy that we are getting married there because it's forcing them to take a vacation! So far we are at about 75 people and I think that's a pretty good number that are happy about going! We even have friend's parent's more excited than my own parents! And it's not even a money issue with them because we are paying for it all ourselves! So whatever, I have just resigned to the fact that they aren't going to be how I want them to be and that's okay, it's not going to damper my excitement! I actually feel better hearing that I am not the only one feeling like this. At least several of us are in the same boat!! We will stick together and be excited for one another!! : )