Does anyone else mother not seem interested in the wedding......

Yes! I love what Christina said....We will Stick togehter and be excited for one another!!!

My Mom just made a noise when I told her I was getting married. I had to drag answers from her when we went dress shopping Tuesday. I know I already had my dress but the person who sold me the dress didn't inform me the color I choose for that dress and my attendants dresses was being discontinued. I ended up going back to the first dress I loved and spent another $400 on top of the amount I previously spent on the first one. At least they let me change my order and didn;t make me buy the original dress in a different accent color. When I asked about what she wanted to wear she noncommital. I having a formal ceremony and my Mother and FMIL will need more formal dresses for the pictures. I am picking up the tab for her outfit since she on a strict budget. She suggested she could wear a pants suit she just bought that is alot more casual than I think will go with my dress or the way my MOH and BM are wearing.

@Shaunte-I'm sorry that your Mom isn't more supportive or acting like herself. My mom is always pretty emotionless and competitive with me so I am used to her craziness. That's what it has to be for a mom not to be stupid giddy about her daughter getting married, just crazy! I don't know you or your mom, but that's my take on it.

It's funny how my patients, who I only see every 6 months, squeal when I talk about my wedding but my mom says "Oh your still planning that thing?" My sister is worse still. She is my MOH only b/c she is my only sister. I have been engaged for 1.5 years and started planning this Jan., but she just asked me last week about the wedding. Of course she complained about my venue, dress and bridal party. Thank goodness I have great friends and a "fill-in momma".

Same here...only I assumed it would be this way. She acted the same way when my sister got married last year. It was seriously like pulling teeth to get her to do anything wedding related...and I thought she would be different with mine as I'm actually interested in my wedding (my sister really wasn't....). I've been doing everything pretty much on my own...and then when I do something (like when I booked my venue) she gets very mad at me. Its silly and its crazy and no matter how I look at the situation I can't win!

My mom hasn't been much help in the planning at all but she is doing the sewing part of it all.. alterations, daughters sash, runners and such but it all started with me replacing the ivory bows with black bows on my invitations.. Colors are Ivory and Black.. BUT my dad on the other hand has been AMAZING he has helped me step by step and we throw ideas off each other ALL THE TIME!! He was kinda hurt I did all the flowers by myself and he didn't get to help...LOL

Could it be that your mom is made about your dad also walking you down the aisle. I ask because my mom wanted the step dad to walk me down the aisle and when I said no my dad will she became annoyed. My parents divorced about twenty years ago and prior to their divorce they were separted (I was in high school at the time) but anyway he didn't participate or support financially during that time or afterwards. At the time step dad was just a really good family friend that helped out, he really was there when my dad wasn't. My dad didn't even come to my high school graduation. but showed up at my college graduation with his new wife as the proud dad. So my mom feels like he always gets the priviledge of show boating as the proud dad but didn't have an active roll. So the interest has dwindled when I held my ground because I am a bit traditional and feel like he is still my dad regardless of the inbetween.

This wedding has driven such a wedge btw me and my mother it isn't even funny. She had all these rules for FH that will no longer apply after we are married so now that we are getting married she doesn't know what to do.

My mom is completely into the wedding, too much in fact. However, my FMIL doesn't seem to be too thrilled about it. IDK

My mother does not have any interest in the wedding at all. She is too concerned about my finances and "how hard she's worked" to help me get my credit to where it is to throw it away just to be married because, and I quote, all I see is "marriage and stars!" WTH? She says FH should have more furniture than he does because he is 30, but then she says he shouldn't have much because he is a bachelor. How about he sold most of his stuff or gave it to family because he is 1 of 9 kids??? Yeah his credit isn't great because his family never taught him that credit cards could be a good thing. More and more, but it won't help to gripe about it. My mother says something and checks my reaction before twisting it. She says oh you should plan now and when I do she throws a fit. She keeps telling me what she would do and how I need to do things. I just know that when I actually let her in on the planning she will get pissed. Lose lose situation. My family doesn't like weddings at all.

@ Leah she could careless about who walks me down the aisle......her beef with my dad is her own and she knows I set myself aside from their problems, I really dont know what she exspect from him she said that he wasnt there when I was younger but they were 15 and 16 when they had me and I remember it a little different more like she wouldnt let him be there as much once she met my step-father. yesterday I was talking to her about dress shopping and told her that I going there in hope to fine the style because I may not have the money to put down on the dress depending on the prices until next week. Her answer was Ok and as far as money dont ask me for any I have my own problems to worry about. Really have I asked your for a dime throughtout this whole planning process NO! Its to the point that I dont care my aunts are excited and willing to help so Im going to take that and run with it.

I don't know about my mom. She didn't go when I was dress shopping. She didn't want to come I think I don't know. I hope she can come when I go veil shopping or something.

@ Shaunte, I agree. Keep it moving

Yeah my mom has very little interest. I posted a conversation that I had with her about food. Its frustrating, but then I remind myself that Im not getting married for her, Im getting married because I love my FH.

My mom is not even the least bit involved in my wedding. (Her choice definitely not mine). She was excited for the engagement and ADORES my FH. I went dress shopping yesterday with my MOH and her mom and aunt (Who i absolutely LOVE) But when i asked my mom WEEKS ago to join me in dress shopping she said " ok ill see what im doing closer to the date". When i asked her a few days ago she said "Maybe" Then yesterday she jsut said "i donno ill have to see whats going on tonight" THEN when i called her to meet us she just didnt answer at all. It hurts ALOT. she isnt much for talking about things either. My MOHs mom has agreed to take over the "MOTHER OF THE BRIDE" role for me . (As long as its not stepping on my mothers toes.. Which.. It wont be since she has no interest at all) She also made it clear that she doesnt think she will make it to the wedding.. UGH.

Im sorry for all of the other girls that have an emotionally/ physically absent mom especially with the wedding. It sucks!! Im VERY thankful for having my MOHs mom there for me for one of the most important moments in my life