Does anyone else feel anxiety/dread when they think of their wedding day?

Oh I am NOT looking forward to dealing with the wedding day stress. Warring family members and drama. All those know-it-all aunts with their sympathetic "maybe this one will work out" looks and hand pats. Nope. Wanted to elope. I am also EXTREMELY introverted, and anticiapate feeling awkward that the focus will probably end up being on FH's obnoxious grandmother than on us, because we're so quiet.

BUT. I can't wait to get married to the love of my life. So if I can get through this crap and leave with him... Heaven <3.

I was like you, I was terrified I would pass out. I am dead serious, not joking at all. Don't lock your knees, keep your eyes on your husband-to-be and really enjoy it!! It will all be fine

Will a cocktail loosen you up?

But seriously, I bet your wedding day will be amazing and all your worries will fade. And if you DO feel uncomfortable, take a minute for yourself.

Can you take a Xanax?

Make a playlist of fun, happy music for when you're getting ready. Surround yourself with positive people. Make sure someone else is the go-to person for any problems.

I think doing First Look photos help break the anxiety, too.

I'm normally not an introvert but planning a wedding with such a large guest list also makes me feel a little anxious because all eyes will be on me. I almost feel a little vulnerable but I think it's because we are having a multicultural wedding and everyone has different expectations but I;m making up my own rules! I'm really considering the Xanax way.

I'm absolutely on NusAg's page, completely and 1000%!!!

I'm starting to feel anxious 24/7. I thought it'd get better as we got closer to the date (after finishing projects/tasks/getting things done), and it's actually getting worse.

There was a point where my MIL made me want to just get it over with.

Honestly, when you get there, you'll be so happy and you'll realize all of the worry was for nothing.

Very little went as planned on my wedding day and I bawled for 2 hours about it that day but man, as soon as I walked down the aisle and saw my husband....nothing else mattered.

I totally hear you! I hate being the center of attention! I get all sweaty, nervous, and I even blush! it's horrible! I am hoping to try and be calm but still nervous! i'm having a super small wedding, family and close friends only!

Aww Tatiana - this feeling doesn't get better closer to?? We're just over worriers I'm sure and it will all hopefully turn out fine... Or the Xanax will make it fine lol.

NusAG, you are so right, love. xo

My friends and family didn’t feel like I was acting like myself before the wedding. It was because I was so anxious and nervous about being the center of attention. Most of the guests said I looked like I was about to pass out as I walked down the aisle. I’ve always been terrible at standing up in front of people and my wedding day wasn’t an exception. It got better as the day went on but I would be lying if I didn’t say I’m relieved and happy it’s all over. Try to enjoy it regardless of your nerves, it goes by fast.

I'm not a shy person, but my family loves to cause unnecessary stress when they get around each other. I was planning on doing a meditation retreat before the wedding week to get me in a calm mood. Just breathe and stay focused on him. You're gonna have an amazing time.

I would definitely describe myself as an introvert. I'm not looking forward to all eyes being on me. But my FH is really accommodating and wants to make me comfortable and the wedding "our own." So I'm not walking down an aisle (that would be torture for someone that doesn't like to be the center of attention!) and we aren't dancing. Just a short ceremony followed by a meal and lawn games. It's going to be far from a traditional wedding, and some people might think it's lame to skip the things we are skipping. But who cares!? It's my day right?

My FH has expressed similar sentiments -- not dread for the wedding date itself but a dread of being the center of attention. Hey -- suck it up. It is one day. You'll live.

...and I mean that kindly. : ) You'll be ok.

Feel better and we'll look forward to your "I am Married!" post!

Thanks everyone. At least I know I'm not alone in this!

Emily, I love your wedding description. I think it's awesome that you guys are doing your own thing. We just have too many people who would probably be disappointed if we didn't do a more traditional wedding, though I did take some things out to make myself less anxious, like the grand entry. I thought it was pointless.

I will be so excited when we're leaving for our honeymoon! Wish me luck everyone! I wish all of you the best of luck as well. And thanks again for your comments.

I'm a big introvert, but I also do a lot of theatre. Therefore I'm looking at it as being onstage, which for some reasons clicks differently.

I'm shy plus there was all sorts of family drama before the wedding.. my mom nearly had a panic attack the morning of, which I was kind of expecting. I was really stressed about the whole thing but it was fine. I married H, we went off on our own for a week of peace and quiet and it was wonderful! you can get through this with FH.

Actually no just excitement. We are having 2 weddings. Had the last one in Nigeria on October 26th. It went great. Looking forward to Nov 9th NEXT SATURDAY!! Very exciting. I was nervous before the cultural wedding but after that happened without any issues all the nervousness faded away. We are already married in my culture now just waiting for the church marriage

I have bad anxiety and when I'm nervous I sometimes say the wrong words, (like cartilage instead of cleavage.) so I'm hoping that doesn't happen to me! haha There's no anxiety about wanting to get married or the marriage itself, just the wedding with the attention on me and trying to live up to the expectation in my head that I've had since a girl. I know it will, but you only get one big day. (sometimes! haha)

I don't mind the attention, my stress chimes from worrying what people will think. I know that shouldn't matter, but I want everyone to enjoy themselves and the food, cake, etc and have a good time. I'll probably be second guessing all of my decisions until it's over and I get some feedback.