earias
Champion December 2017

Do you think weddings bring out the worst or best in people?

earias, on May 14, 2018 at 3:37 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 54

Some people say weddings bring out the worst in people. Family drama even sometimes erupt when nothing was present before. Tensions are high and a lot of money is at stake. Other people love weddings. They love "love." They want to be involved with the wedding planning from every aspect and help...

Some people say weddings bring out the worst in people. Family drama even sometimes erupt when nothing was present before. Tensions are high and a lot of money is at stake.

Other people love weddings. They love "love." They want to be involved with the wedding planning from every aspect and help wherever possible.

What do you think? Have you seen examples of either one or both? If so, share them here!

54 Comments

  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    That's good to hear that you and your FH were able to turn it around and focus on what is really important. Date night is so important to keeping that romance alive! That is something DH and I have learned as well. It is easy to forget.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    Congrats on your engagement! I'm sorry your family hasn't been supportive, but happy your FILs are there for you!

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    Yes, some of the posts I read about other couple's friends and family make me feel very bad for that couple. That's great your friends and family are there for you!

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  • Raina
    Super October 2017
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    Worst for sure I was baffled how ridiculous family was and the guts some people had to say or do certain things.....

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  • Jay
    Expert September 2013
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    I Love this question. I'm an optimist so I think it brings out the best...eventually. 2 people are becoming a family unit and now they are a bigger part of the proverbial " Village"

    But, it can and does expose fault lines in families and friendships. Is that because we think the new couple is going to leave our "Village" for another?

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  • F
    Devoted August 2018
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    My wedding has brought out the best is some family members and the worst in others
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  • Orchids
    Master March 2018
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    Both, I think. There are a lot of stories on here about the worst coming out, but for me I got to see a side of the best man's wife I wasn't expecting. She and I have NOT gotten along in the past - right down to a shouting match in the middle of a convention full of people. BUT she and her husband flew out and brought me an emergency kit that came in SO HANDY, AND she showed up unexpectedly the morning of when my MOH couldn't make it to help me get into my dress and secure a ride to the venue when I realized I hadn't planned how to get myself there! We are not bosom friends, but we're definitely friendly in a way we never were before.

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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
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    Both. I think it brought out the best in my family- they were so supportive and encouraging. My mom got to let her creative juices flow and my in-laws were also very supportive and not intrusive.

    Honestly, i think it was bad for me. I'm normally not a type A person despite my career choice, nor do I even normally host anything beyond an intimate gathering. The majority of the time my friends would call me "Bride-chilla" because anything they asked I told them to do whatever they wanted. However, there would be times when I would overreact to things (last minute addition to guest list, adding people to hair and makeup etc.) I'd just get unreasonably upset at some things and I yelled at people. Now I'm back in chilling mode!

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  • Liana
    VIP March 2017
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    I think the best Smiley smile We love "love" and our families do too. We didn't have any drama. But everyone is different and have different experiences...

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  • AmandaJHGV
    Devoted October 2017
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    "Do you think weddings bring out the worst or best in people?"


    Yes.

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  • MrsDW2B
    Dedicated August 2018
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    I think it's a little of both. Both of our families have been very supportive. A little commentary here and there about the guestlist but I shut that down quickly because my parents are paying the majority of the costs.

    My friends, on the other hand, haven't been the best. They don't really ask me how planning is going and seem pretty uninterested in anything dealing with me and this wedding lol. But they've been like that since I've been in this relationship and I attribute it to most of them being single. I know it can be a pain spot for some but true friendship should allow you to step outside of your feelings for a moment to be happy for your friend. I had one friend who has stopped talking to me after a heart to heart conversation I tried to have with her but I think it was something that's been under the surface for awhile now. We haven't talked since January and I'm still on the fence about inviting her. Other than that, my 3 best friends and fiance have been the only support system that I need!

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  • FutureMrs.D
    Dedicated August 2018
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    I think it goes both ways as well. My family and FILs have been so helpful and excited.

    But the night I got engaged,my "Best Friend" posted a status saying " don't tell people your dreams because they will take them and make them theirs". All because My fiance ended up getting me a ring she has always wanted (not the same ring, just the stone we both talked about wanting in the past). She has never been supportive of our relationship (for what reason, I have NO IDEA). Now she says she will not be able to make it to the wedding because it is on A Friday and she has to work. Honestly, i'm glad because even though she may say shes happy for me. I truly know shes not...

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  • Dominique
    Savvy September 2018
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    Hi ,
    Its crazy because my best friend was the same way. She was my Maid of Honor and her ways just begin to change and she was also posting things saying she can't worry about other people weddings when I'm the only one she's close too that's getting married. My wedding is September 29 and we no longer talk now. I will say I'm nothing but happy because I dislike negative energy. Than I had to think how can I expect for her to be happy for me when she's not even happy for herself.
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  • JaiBriuna
    Beginner August 2018
    JaiBriuna ·
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    Same thing I'm going thru. I just took my maid of honor out of my wedding, she had already bought her dress and everything. I just fed up, was giving her chance after, but she kept making my decision of putting her out of the wedding easier.
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