Do you really need to do premarital sessions?🤔🤔

I'm assuming you meant pre-marital sessions, like counseling sessions.

Is this through a church/religious organization? Personally and professionally, I always tout the benefits of secular therapy (mostly on the individual side, but relationship/marriage therapy can be great for a lot of couples as well).

It’s totally up to you . You also don’t need to have any problems in order to go . But personally I think why not if you can afford it . It’ll only be beneficial . But at the end of the day it’s your call .

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My fiancé and I are going to get married at fire hall , he isn't religious or anything.

So I wasn't sure if pre-marital sessions were a must or not.

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No worries! I think they're often a good investment in general (doesn't have to be because you're getting married - FH and I did counseling after we moved in together to build upon healthy communication skills) but I wouldn't break the bank on them.

No its not necessary, it might be required for certain religions and churches but beyond that you don't have to do it.

I don't think it's necessary, but really a personal preference unless it's required by religion or the place you're getting married at (churches often require it).

We've been together 7 1/2 years and have lived together for 6, venue isn't a church, and our friend is marrying us, so it wasn't required, and we saw no need in pre-marital counseling. We also have great communication skills and work well together, which is another reason why we aren't doing it.

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View Quoted Comment Yeah I really don't see why my fiancé and I need it .
We knew each for 10 years. And now planning a wedding.
I really don't see why we would need it.
We are getting married at firehall.Now looking in officiants. I kinda wish I knew someone who could marry us lol .

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At the end of the day, it's something you and your fiancé have to decide whether or not you need it/will benefit from it! We didn't think we would, so we're skipping.

Also, you don't have to already know someone that's ordained! Our friend isn't ordained, but is getting it done online so he can legally marry us! Just be sure to check the rules of your state and county that you'll be married in!

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I'll have to look into it.

I highly recommend it. It makes you discuss things that would come up in marriage, such as kids, finances, taking elderly into the home, etc. It's not a religious thing, and you can find free questionnaires online

It brings up good questions you might not think to ask on your own.. communication is key !!!! If u dont want the counseling you can look up online or find books that cover a lot of the same questions... how many kids (if any), where will u live, joint bank accounts or not, what happens if a spouse dies, how u related to siblings/parents will affect how u act/react to things, what will you do as parents get older, whos family u are at for holidays ... all kinds of things its good to discuss ahead of time

I'm with Megan, I don't really advocated for religious counseling (especially because DH and I *tried* that for his Catholic church, and it went *realllllllllllllly poorly* on my end).

That said, we did counseling before we were even engaged, and it was super helpful. Counseling doesn't have to be for when things are bad - in fact, it's better if you go when things are good. It's more of a tool for improving communication and strengthening your foundation as a couple.

It’s definitely not required unless a church requires it in some religions. We won’t be doing it as we have talked through and worked through things on our own 🤪 honestly I’d love to do it but my fiancé hates “therapy” so he absolutely doesn’t want to do it and that’s fine too. I’m not gonna make him do something he doesn’t want to.