Do you and/or your fiancé have children?

I have two boys 10 and almost 6 and they are "giving me away".

They absolutely adore FH and know he's committed us all. As a matter of fact we "engaged" ourselves to FH even before he asked me to marry him. At Christmastime of 2012, I asked my oldest what he thought about FH being with us forever and I wish you could have seen his face light up just like a Christmas tree...I asked him if he'd like to help me pick out a ring for FH for Christmas and he was ALL about that. He helped me pick out the ring and we put a little note in the ring box and when FH opened the box on Christmas morning it said "Dexter, will you stay with us forever?" That was one of the very first times I saw FH cry...he wears that ring on his right hand :-)

FH has three grown children and 5 grandchildren. We are hoping that somehow they will be a part of our ceremony...he has 4 grandsons and we're hoping that they will want to be his "best men", but right now their parents are having a hard time with our relationship (his divorce was very bitter) so we're not even sure they'll be coming, but I'm going to save my thoughts on that for confession Friday....

My FH has a 13 year old daughter. She is one of my bridesmaids. We are not doing anythingspecial during the ceremony. I offered to do so, but FH stated that this is our wedding and he did not want to.

We only have one together.

We are doing nothing just hoping she sleeps through

I have an 8 year old son who is walking me down the aisle and giving me away. Our officiant is saying some sort of family unifying vow. It's nothing we have to repeat or do but just acknowledging that two families are becoming one. But we are writing our own vows and I am going to mention how grateful I am that FH has taken my son as if he is his own and FH has said he is mentioning my son in his vows.

We have 7 kids between us, ranging in age from 14-26. FH's son is his best man, my daughter is my MOH, and all of the others are either bridesmaids or groomsmen.

My FH has a 10 year old daughter. She will be 11 on the wedding date. She doesn't want to be a flower girl (she said she is too old), she wants to carry the rings instead.

I really don't want to the unity candle/sand thing but I may, so she can feel more involved in the ceremony.

Nope and we don't want any.

I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. He will be our ring bearer.

We have one bastard child together and she's gonna be our little flower girl, she'll be 18 months so obviously only if she's up for it!

I have a 15 y/o son, he has 13 y/o daughter. He will be a Jr. Groomsman, and she will be a Jr. Bridesmaid. They are in their angst ridden teens and do not want to light candles etc lol, which is fine by us.

Also, neither of us have been married / engaged before.

We only have our daughter (she is 2 yrs old) who we had together. She is our flowergirl and will be doing a sand ceremony with us. We are also doing unity candle just me and my fh.

I have a son from previous relationship who is 8 and togwtjet we have a 3 year old son.

They will be escorting our mothers down the aisle. My oldest already sees fh as dad so no vows/unity etc. we already are a family regardless of bloodline

Nope, and i don't plan on having them for another 10 years. But i do love kids, as i work as a nanny.

I can see the benefit of doing something. Especially with kids who think the parent is getting married and things will change. Dad will spend more time with the new wife and less with me. Some kids are going to need more reassurance than others. I think that you and your FH/FW know what the kids need better than anyone. If it is beneficial to this little girl, then of course do it. I still reserve that with the ex factor being known. 7 year olds can be big talkers. A lot don't have a filter yet. So Mom should know what's about to happen. Is it going to make the ex jealous? More jealous? Happy? Relaxed? Uncomfortable? Though I would never act on it, inside I would be hurt. This is after all the child I gave birth to that you are professing to love like your own. So again, primary focus on the 2 of you, next the child and last how this is going to affect the ex and your relationship with them.

I would also suggest checking with the Mom....

I don't understand why her mom would ever be upset about me promising to love her like my own. I could mention it to her but I know she won't mind. We're very civil and make referrence to her having "4 parents" all the time. She's engaged as well and we all co-parent together. I might even pick out a flower girl dress that would work for both of our weddings if she wants me to. I've been meaning to ask.

I feel like maybe some people misunderstood what I'm saying here, I'm just talking about taking a tiny moment during the ceremony to acknowledge my step-daughter and tell her I love her. We aren't entering any formal agreement that requires consent of both parents.

FH and I have two of our own children together, they will be 3 and 2 at the time of our wedding and I have a daughter that will be 5 when we get married. Haven't even thought this far ahead yet. My oldest will most likely be the flower girl, if we decide on having a flower girl. Not sure about including them in the ceremony. Maybe a unity rope type deal, but probably not being they are too young to understand.

We have 6 kids between us. he has a 19 yo son, an 17 yo son, a 15 yo daughter, I have a 19 yo daughter, a 14 yo daughter, and together we have a 2 yo daughter. they are the bridal party, which is why we have the expense of buying those dresses and renting those tuxes. but as for doing anything special no, we are saying our vows to each other, thats all.

I have a son who will be 6 and FH has a daughter who will be 7 and we are including them both in the ceremony and our vows

Our children are our bridal party.

My daughter next to me (7) she will be the flower girl, brides maids, and MOH all in one! lol

his boys next to him (21, 18, 15, 10) they will be the best men