Hi everyone, quick backstory. I was supposed to be married in June of last year and than postponed to August and postpone again obviously because of covid. Our wedding is finally next June and I feel like every time I talk about it people just stay silent or look at me like I’m crazy for continuing with my wedding?! We have been engaged for 3.5 years and don’t want to wait any longer. Also I get covid is serious but I don’t want to continue pausing my life for it? Does this make me selfish? It just hurts because I feel like some people don’t understand where I’m coming from. Thoughts?
We are getting married in June regardless as well. We were always going to have a small wedding (30-35 people) so we figure it’ll still be okay ... and if people don’t feel comfortable coming that’s okay too. We’ve already postponed once we don’t want to do it again. COVID is very serious but I think if you take precautions and be understanding of people can’t come then it’s fine.
Weddings are still happening every day! They are just different now, and some of my favorite posts on this page have been from brides who scaled back their wedding due to COVID and said their day was perfect and in hindsight they wouldn’t have changed a thing. If you’re still planning on a 300 person indoor wedding next Spring, then yes you might be a little crazy 😂😂 But planning a wedding during a pandemic is completely doable, you just have to embrace the changes and do it safely and with grace. 😊
I would say covid brides have double the emotion than pre covid brides lol I wouldn’t let others’ comments get into your head, but I do think more than 2-3 postponements is ... absurd. Also, June will not be “normal” so to speak, so as long as it’s a small wedding, there shouldn’t be any problems with finally getting married!!! 🤍🤍
You’re definitely not crazy- you’re just a COVID bride, rolling with the punches!!
As long as you are planning a “safe” wedding (ie, adhering to whatever mandates and safety precautions are suggested at that time), and you are understanding about people possibly declining due to safety/health concerns, then I don’t think you are being selfish at all! 2 postponements and a 3.5 year engagement is a long time to have waited and you deserve to get married. Unfortunately, there’s no telling at this point what weddings will look like in June. They are likely not going to be like pre-covid weddings were, but that doesn’t mean they can’t still be wonderful! If you were planning a large wedding, I would definitely suggest creating multiple guest lists of varying sizes to accommodate any restrictions and figure out how you will handle STDs, invitations, change of plans announcements, etc. so you aren’t scrambling at the last minute to figure it all out. Plan for all your “Plan B” stuff now (guest cuts, dancing restrictions, food restrictions, etc.) so you can limit stress in the weeks and months before your wedding. Hopefully things will be MUCH better next year!! But it’s smart to plan for all the “what if’s” now.
You mentioned that you “feel like” they think you’re crazy. But have they actually said this to you? If so, then just don’t discuss the wedding with them anymore. But if they haven’t actually said anything, then maybe you’ve created an expectation of how you think others should respond. Sometimes people just don’t want to talk about/hear about your wedding as a common conversational topic. Also, maybe they keep quiet because they’re not sure if it will be postponed a 3rd time. But, either way, just share on these forums with other brides who are planning during the pandemic because we understand firsthand.
I just got engaged on Sunday (woohoo) and we have been together 10 years already. I'm planning May of next year just at his parents house and super simple and people are like What!?!? A wedding during a pandemic!?! ....yes I've waited 10 years.. show up don't show up, I'm ok with either. I think we're allowed to be selfish especially when 2020 has taken away so much the entire year
I am getting ready to buy our invites for our April wedding (previously postponed) and I haven't had anyone say anything to me directly but I am sure some people will. We have another family wedding in Feb, and I suspect they will get a lot of questions/pushback.
This is going to be a major flashpoint among people for a long time. You just have to let it roll off you as best you can.
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Woo! Congrats! And yes thank you for being so understanding! I really try not to bring up my wedding at all because it’s so awkward and uncomfortable, but at the same time how long are we supposed to wait?!?! Lol good luck girl!
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Lol! Exactly!!! Congrats to you as well!! I say don't let anyone dull this moment for you. Let's just be freaking happy we've had enough insanity for 2020 let's have something fun to look forward to for 2021!
It doesn't make you selfish, you literally can catch Covid anywhere whether it be the grocery store, work, gas station ... etc. besides we don't know what June will look like, I wouldn't cancel as of now yet either