Do people appreciate being part of the wedding party?

I got the same response too, I've seen a lot of people on WW say no one will be as excited about your wedding day as you and your FS and I think that's pretty true! As long as they support you and help not hinder throughout the whole process their excitement will come as the day approaches and it really hits home how exciting this day is for you, happy planning!

I agree with Kayla! You and your FS will be the most excited about all things related to your wedding. I would be excited they said yes. It’s ok to be a bit let down that their reaction didn’t meet your expectations. However, no need to dwell on it because they said yes! This means they are being super supportive of you and your FS by taking on that role!

Being a MOH or Bridesmaid is A LOT of work. And it’s expensive. And time consuming. TBH it’s a BIG commitment. They may be super excited for your wedding but as far as jumping up and down, they may be adding up how much this is going to cost them, how much time it’s going to take, how much of their limited vacation time they have to use, how well they get along with the other BM and weighing how much of an impact it will have on their life’s and their family’s lives and can they commit to that. Try to just give a little room for them to process it all and though they may love you to the moon and back, if they can’t commit all the way, it’s better you know now and not be strung along feeling frustrated by their lack of support.

The one that cried clearly wants to be in the wedding in the worst way too me. I think that was sweet she carried enough to shed a tear over being your made of honor. .but l agree with the other posters. Only the two ppl getting married are going to feel that thrill and excitement to the level you may be expecting. I would be so honored if someone wanted me in their ceremony! But I'm a different breed. Lol.

View Quoted Comment This. My sister and my best friend were thrilled I don't have a bridal party for these exact reasons, but they still support me in the way they can. (They self appointed themselves dual honorary Maids of Honor - which I was fine with - because it is a lot of work and they wanted each other's support in splitting that work)

Your friends may not be as excited as you hoped, but what matters is that they support you when you need it in the way they can give you support. Give them time and don't be afraid to ask for an ear when you need to vent, and help when you're overwhelmed.

I do not like being in a bridal party which is why I don’t have one. I’ll do it for the right people but we have to be really close.

I’ve always been excited to be part of someone’s wedding. There’s also a mix of financial fear but it’s mostly excitement.

Our bridal party consisted of my sister, his best friend of forever, and our kids. They were all thrilled. I'm glad we went this route because only 2 of my girlfriends even showed up. The rest last minute cancelled--blown.

I’m not having a bridal party for a few reasons. When I told my friends not to worry because I wasn’t having one they were surprisingly relieved that I didn’t ask them. I feel like some people don’t want to be in a wedding party because of time, cost, commitment etc. I could honestly say if someone asked me I wouldn’t be thrilled, so I understood my friends’ reactions enough to not take it personally.

I’ve been in 3 weddings (MOH at two of them) and I was excited and honored that I got to be part of their big day(s). I’ve seen a lot of apathy with many bridesmaids though because of a difficult bride/bridal party, drama or expenses which is a legitimate reason to not show much excitement. I got lucky, everyone in my bridal party has been very supportive and happy to help in any way they can (I’m only expecting them to show up and look pretty though 😊) but even then, I don’t expect them to be as excited as I am.

Well in my case my best friend and my sister are my maid and matrons of honor and SIL is my bridesmaid. They basically already knew their roles so it wasn’t a big thing. For my FW her best friend cried her brother got teared up and her sister said she was too old but said yes anyway lol. Her group had more enthusiasm than mine lol. But like someone else said the financial part could be a big deal I just Asked they get their attire nothing else. My best friend though I have To start saving now because her wedding is gonna cost me lol

I picked my sister to be MOH and my daughter’s going to be a bridesmaid and F stepdaughters are going to be the other three bridesmaids. Every time I try to mention the wedding, picking out dresses they totally ignore me, one future step daughter actually did about face and walked away for me. I am going to do it one more time and tell them the color of dress they need and see what happens. I might end up with a MOH and one bridesmaid while my FH has 8 Groomsmen LOL

Have you been a bridesmaid before? It isnt that great, no matter what special present someone buys you or does to make you feel special. It is buying an expensive dress you will never wear again and likely shoes, commitment to events, being on display, etc. It is so much more fun to be a wedding guest!!!

People actually like being bridesmaids?!?! I thought it was one of those things that everyone does and commits to because they understand that someday they will ask their friends to do it to. Like showers of any kind, until I got to this website I'd never met anyone who actually liked attending them as a guest.

But no, most people find being in a bridal party tiresome, expensive, and kind of annoying. However, I would do it a million times over for my best friends because I love and support them through anything.

Time to post my fav article https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/06/fashion/weddings/no-wedding-party-no-bridesmaids-no-groomsmen.html

View Quoted Comment You read my mind!

View Quoted Comment Dang! Last minute cancellations on a wedding! Aww

To be honest, being in a wedding is sort of a pain in the ass. You have to usually give more time and money than the average guest and then show up early the day of. When my husband was a groomsman he had to be there 6 hours early the day of. It's more that your friends are honoring you by agreeing to all this rather than you honoring them. At least that's how I looked at it with my own bridal party and I still tried to be as easy and super accommodating as possible.

View Quoted Comment I was more upset because I paid for them to eat and I know they could've cancelled earlier or just said they couldnt attend (I also had to call for their rsvps). Either way, I like weddings and have never felt bothered by being in them. I tried to minimize the cost for our bridal party because things can get expensive.

Everyone that we asked to be in our bridal party were beyond excited! They all knew it was coming as they are all part of our really close friend group, plus my FH sister who I am really close to. Every time we all get together they talk about how they can’t wait for the wedding.