Do I need to invite my fathers girlfriend???

Well, i would have a very frank talk with fh. thats your decision, not his.

how will your dad react? will he not come if she cant come?

I wouldn't invite her but your dad will probably just bring her as his guest.

First off, why would your FH go behind your back to invite her & when I'm assuming he knows how she has mistreated/disrespected you & you clearly don't want her there?

As far as your father, is there any way you can call him or email him or meet up with him to discuss the issues?

If she does come, kill her with kindness &/or completely ignore. She doesn't need to be in your pictures nor does she even need to speak to you if you two obviously don't get along. Besides, why would she want to come if she doesn't even like you?

I of course don't know the whole story behind your situation, but I think not inviting her will create more drama & by just ignoring her, you can avoid more conflict.

He won't get a guest. His invitation is just addresses to him. I think my dad will come still without her however my sister thinks he won't come unless she is invited.

If he is gonna pick his girlfriend over his own daughters wedding that he isn't a father. That's how I look at it.

Fh likes her and has no problem with her. That's why I'm afraid he will let her come. Plus I don't want to pay fr someone I hate! I am meeting up with my dad tomorrow actually and am scared to tell him she can't come.

Plus my dads girlfriend smells really bad. She came to my sisters wedding last summer and all anyone remembers about the reception is how bad this ladies feet stunk up the dance floor!

Ha! at the stinky feet comment....

I dislike my dad's wife (more now that my sister has a kid and she treats him like he is hers--she has no children) so I feel your pain in some type of way...she pits my father against us often mostly due to money issues...

IMO--speak frankly with your Dad and tell him how you feel. Get how you feel off your chest and then you might feel better about having her be there as a formality and there will be plenty of other people there that you don't even have to pay attention to her...

that's what i plan to do

If he took her words over yours, I highly doubt he would leave her to go to your wedding.. Especially if she takes offense to it, she'll more than likely make him stick up for her or he'll do it willingly.. I think it's better to give her the option to decline.

I agree with the ladies.

Woah FH likes her and has no issue with her?...That right there seems to be a bigger issue than anything. This woman has caused emotional trauma for you and a huge problem between you and your father but your FH likes her and has no issues with her? Am I missing something here?

It sounds to me like you've already decided you don't want her there. I say don't invite her. However if she does show up with you father be graceous. Kill her with your cool collected calmness and enjoy your day inspite of her. You'll have so much going on anyways you won't have time to care about her and the drama she may or may not be starting.

If I invite her she will come! Plus this lady told all my family all these lies about me, she needs to grow up. She is super jealous of my dads kids an his ex wife so everytime I see she is always grabbing my dad and showing PDA which is just gross. My dad broke up with her last year bc all his kids hated her but than got back together when we all felt bad. So he does have knowledge that his kids come first but still.

@mrs b- this lady is the Same way with my nephews! She is teaching them to call her grandma and acts as of they are her kids!

Ya fh thinks I need to give her another chance! I have given her enoug! Her last straw with me was when she came over to my house and stole my things and sold them at her garage sale! Fh just dosent want drama and is nice to her.

I agree with Rachel H. I know everyone is different, but if my dads girlfriend treated me like that my FH would be beyond pissed. That just seems a little weird to me, but I respect that everyone is different.

In regards to your Dad, he should respect the fact that you don't get along with her, however be aware of any consequences that come from not inviting her.

If she does come with out your approval, you don't have to be around her if you don't want. Ignore her, and have a beautiful day.

I have to agree that it may cause more drama not to invite her, but then again it's your and FH's wedding day and if she is going to be a pest then you have a right to not invite her. In my humble opinion, I think the best thing to do would be to sit down with your dad and have a heart to heart about the situation. Ask if he would attend if she wasn't invited. If he won't or gets upset at her not coming, then maybe you two can work out something that she will be allowed to attend, but he has agree that if she insults you or does anything to offend you or mess up your day, then she has to leave (even if he leaves too) and that she won't be allowed in the family photographs. IDK if that is a reasonable compromise and I'm only suggesting that for 2 reasons, 1 is that your FH wants her to come and 2, you will probably be dealing with this woman the rest of your life so you might as well get used to her being around.

Thanks for all your input ladies! This lady has been around for 6 year now. Our relationship has been rocky for the last 3 years now. And not like she is tryin to fix it either. Plus if she is not invited than she won't be allowed at my reception and I will have someone ask her to leave. She is such a suck up and tries to get everyone to like her. That's why fh just deals with her, he knows he will have to deal with her forever but I am totally fine with ignoring her forever. She has never even apologized for anything she has done and I don't think she deserves the right to be a part of my special day.

However you all make a good point that it will probably cause less family drama having her there but I just don't want to deal with this women!