I have three sets of grandparents due to my mom's parents divorcing and remarrying. I am for sure inviting one set, and for sure not inviting the other. I just don't know what to do about the third set.
I am closest to my Step-Grandma & Grandpa and they are definitely coming to my wedding and have been part of the process of helping me plan my wedding and are overall great human beings that check into my life weekly.
My grandma (Grandpa passed away) on my dad's side has never been a part of my life, and there won't be any issues with not inviting her as I am not inviting anyone else from this side of the family close to her.
My question is about my mom's Mom & her husband. We were extremely close when I was growing up, I used to go to her house every day in the summer. In the past few years (about 5, it was right around when I graduated high school) she stopped talking to my family. She will maybe send something on our birthdays but that's about it. And she lives 15 minutes from me. When we got engaged she never said anything, but my grandpa called me saying she was really upset I didn't call her to tell her the news, and she saw it on Facebook. I only told people that I talk to daily about it personally. This is the first time I have heard from them in almost a year. I haven't seen them in almost two years. I used to want her at my wedding, and now I am not sure what to do.
This is a smaller wedding only 100ish people essentially parents, siblings, nieces, cousins, and close friends. If I used the same criteria I used for friends, I wouldn't invite them. I want the grandparents I had growing up there, but not sure if I want the Grandparents I have been dealing with for the past 5 years there. My birthday is in one month so I am thinking if I hear from them around then that could help me make my decision. We got engaged on July 12, getting married in October 2021 if the timeline helps.
Thanks for any advice!